I work for a very large organisation employing about 400 people. We have an area under the building (for cycle & motorcycle parking) where we go for a smoke. Just over 2 months ago I was down there and got talking to a new girl (Im 50 and shes just turned 30). She has an 8 year old daughter and lives with a boyfriend; hes not the father of her little girl. She initially hinted that we could take breaks together, so we email each other and agree to meet for breaks. Shortly after meeting her I had to go and work at another office (200 miles away) for 3 weeks. She was emailing me through the day for a chat, usually telling me she was bored and lonely, I kept emailing her, and once told her that I missed having her around, this kept the friendship going. When I returned back to the office we have continued to take our breaks together. Two weeks ago it was her birthday, I wanted to put some balloons around her desk as most of us do there on birthdays, but she told me she didnt want that as she doesnt like the attention, so instead I bought her a coffee and bar of chocolate in our canteen, then took a birthday card up to her desk. She emailed me afterwards thanking me and told me it was very nice of me. She has hinted that I should get transferred to the office where she works, but that wouldnt be possible as they do totally different work. My problem is I do want to take things further with her, but Im afraid if I suggest this it will drive her away and make her avoid me. I do value her friendship, she makes me feel very special, Ive got the impression things are not great with her boyfriend and I split with my wife 18 months ago after a very bad marriage of 20 years. At Christmas I have to face 2 weeks without having her around, I dont know where to go with this. Your opinions would be appreciated.