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First off, I'm bi. (I've tried dating both men and women and prefer women, but like hooking up with guys once in a while). Log story short there's a guy named A. I used to be friends with A in high school, (we made out once on a bet). So I was browsing a dating site and he says he was bi. (I'm not out and completely discreet).
How do/can I approach him to see if he would want to hangout/hook up?
 

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just ask him. I mean you are both on dating sites and both publicly state that your bi. my advice would ask him if he would like to hang out for a drink some coffee but just to catch up. you might realize you no linger have things in common and you might find out if he really is bi. but just ask him and play it vying ear. that's my vest advice.
 

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I would probably send him a message on the dating site where you saw his profile then he'll know you're bi too and possibly interested.
 

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(I'm not out and completely discreet).
How do/can I approach him to see if he would want to hangout/hook up?






With complete Honesty, and requesting discretion i would suggest ..
 

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You two have kissed before, contact him and tell him you are curious (aren't a lot of people?) and would like to discretely try again to see if you would like it. He won't 'out' you.
 

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I think everyone above has given you some great ideas. Just keep it light - no pressure, just meet for drinks, coffee or lunch and talk. Maybe get together a few times and you'll get a feel for where he's at. You have known each other in the past, so you have that in common already. Just be yourself and have fun with him - the rest will happen once you communicate with him.
 

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I'm with everyone else on this one. A light message - "hey, funny meeting you here :) If you have time, let's grab a drink sometime". And leave it at something like that. If he replies, good. If he doesn't I'd probably drop it.
 

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I am with smooth__7. Perfect answer. Send a message via the site, keep it light and easy. If he doesn't respond, please don't persist. THe last thing you want is to make him feel uncomfortable.

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Hey man...my two cents...having been in that position.. sort of. I was on a site looking around and saw a guy I knew pretty well from the gym, ( actually he didnt post his face but I knew him from his sneakers ( a real rad pair of Nike high tops btw lol) and this small tattoo he had on his shoulder blade... and pretty sure he was closeted ( bi gay Im not sure and not really relevent) ...as was I. So I definitely would get with him.. but being that we knew each other.. i didnt know how freaked he would get.. because if it was the other way around I probably would have.

So i sent him a message..without my picture..saying I saw his pic and was interested in hooking up ( he was looking for a no strings safe hookup) but I said we sort of know each other and I didnt want it to be weird for him and that I was totally discreet also and was cool if it was just a one time thing..but If he didnt want to go there with somone he knew I would just drop it.

I didnt get a response for a few days and forgot about it..then got a message that he was a little freaked out..interested but scared because of who I was. I actually didnt respond but the following week I saw him at the gym, and it was just us in the weight room and we were talking about whatever and I just said hey man BTW..I was the guy you were talking to online.. just so ya know.

He was actually surprised but totally ok with it.. we joked around a bit about it.. and eventually hooked up twice..that was it...we still talk and see each other but it worked out pretty well..

So maybe thats a way to go.. just email him and tell him the situation and let him tell you if its cool or not..
 

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Ask him to hang out rather than hook up. That way, you can both see if there is any chemistry. If it's meant to happen, it will.