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I really like this trans cam model on chaturbate & she has been having some issues paying her rent. So I offered her to come stay with me. But the problem is she is from the phillipines. Am I doing something wrong by offering for her to stay her for a while to maybe get a job here in the us. maybe her camming here will help her get the money she want's for breast surgery. I told her I don't know what else to do other than what I offered. I really could use some advice. I don't want to see anything bad happen to her.
 
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Please be careful inviting complete strangers and especially foreigners to your home to live. I will also add, that this person sounds like they are hinting for $. It could all be a scam. Proceed with caution and this is coming from a social worker with a bleeding heart!
 

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wake up from your fantasy world and be wary of a scam.

Having trouble paying the rent is the number one thing girls looking to scam guys say to try and get money of them.
If you are offering to pay to mover her to the US- then you are really upping the stakes.

This kind of thing nearly never ends well.
 
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it doesn't seem that way at all I have been keeping an eye out for when she is on chaturbate and she hadnn't been on until today when she went to a friends for her to be able to cam. its the colombian cam models that i'm more worried about.
 
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Please be careful inviting complete strangers and especially foreigners to your home to live. I will also add, that this person sounds like they are hinting for $. It could all be a scam. Proceed with caution and this is coming from a social worker with a bleeding heart!
It's a scam
 
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I got news for you guys not all foreigners are bad. I never hear anything bad from the phillipines. and this crappy advice from guys that hate pussy. Oh I am currently getting money for disability and I only get to use a little bit at a time for things I need. my mom manages my money. So you still wanna judge me now.
 
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forget it you guys aren't helping period. I don't even know why I tried.
 
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Damn, man. I'm not saying this out of sadism but you really need to see a therapist if you feel this strongly about some cam model, whom you have never met at all.

Seriously, go make some friends in the real world, you don't have to go across the globe for that nor rely upon the internet to fulfill that void.
 

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unless u know this person from the other side of the world, i wouldn't waste any time. too much can go wrong in too short of a time span and when the shit hits the fan, it's gonna get ugly.

you need to get out and meet people in-real-life. there's plenty of people in the USA for you to meet. you don't have to travel the globe for a meetup. the choice is ultimately yours. everyone here has only been sharing their viewpoints and advice. take it or leave it, it's up to you...
 

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Have you ever talked to her when not on chaturbate? Did she give you more personal information, like her real name, her phone number? Do you know anything about her?

I became friends with a porn actor through his camming sessions. But the friendship was established when he droppd his stage name, gave me his phone number and we used to talk through Skype and on the phone. I didn’t start trusting him completely until I really knew his true personality, apart from his porn carreer. He never asked me for money or asked me to solve his problems. I invited him over to Europe and he started saving up to come over.

Basically: find out more about the real person before you plunge into an unknown adventure.
 
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We have chatting with each other on the whatsapp messenger. We have been doing this for a bit and she has been having problems she isn't lying like any model or in ur case former porn star. There have been times that she replies with this emoji :sob: please tell me this isn't someone crying out in pain.
 
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People in the Philippines are desperate to get out. Poverty is huge. If someone there can even develop a hint of a relationship with someone in a Western country, they will absolutely do it to get out. I’m not saying they are insincere, but they definitely have a preference for a relationship outside of where they are. This person is not lying about how horrible their circumstances are where they live. If you decide to help, know that you are giving with no expectation of receiving anything in return. Also if you sponsor this person here, you may end up legally responsible for that person for a number of years.

You need to consult an immigration lawyer before making any decisions.
 
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I would like to apologize to everyone. I shouldn't have said that. I really do appreciate the advice and I will get the real truth out of this person.
 

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We have chatting with each other on the whatsapp messenger. We have been doing this for a bit and she has been having problems she isn't lying like any model or in ur case former porn star. There have been times that she replies with this emoji :sob: please tell me this isn't someone crying out in pain.
Jeezuz- dude- grow up some.

Using an emoji is NOT evidence of sincerity.
I know dozens of men who have 'met' someone thru the internet, chat rooms, pay for porn, and even foreign dating apps.

I have heard these stories over and over and over again.

One friend was SURE he had met a wonderful woman from columbia- she had a license to practice law in columbia- he took it real slow- flew down there to spend time with her several times.

They decided to get married. She SEEMED super sincere.

He sent her money to cover her moving expenses- but she spent it on a boob job.
He sent her more money and she finally moved to the states- they were married- and she lived with him exactly 6 months- until she had established legal residency- then she divorced him. She even got awarded spousal support for 3 years.

Another guy i know from Australia moved to Vietnam and opened a factory there making ceramics- he fell in love with a beautiful Vietnamese girl and they got married. He built a wonderful house for them to both share.

But then- after 14 years of marriage- one day she pitches a huge fit and demands to know if he was EVER gonna move her back with him to Australia. He was shocked- He told her they had a wonderful life together in Vietnam- close to her family- and with a thriving business- that he loved vietnam and didn't see any good reason to move back to Australia.
When he woke up the next morning, she was gone with all her things.

Myself- I spent years traveling to china- As a middle aged man I found that the most stunning 20 something chinese women would Throw themselves at me everywhere I went.
Not because of my personality but because of my passport.

People raised in these cultures think of the Western nations as Idyllic heavens. Many of them would do ANYTHING, Say ANYthing, to figure out a way to move to these countries.


Son... you are young, naive, and clearly desperate for connection.
That is exactly who gets taken advantage of the worst.

It does not matter how real her financial troubles are. You have NO real idea how many other lonely guys she corresponds with, chats with, or even spend in person time with- eliciting their sympathy to get some money- and hoping that one of them will change her life.

You do not understand her culture.
You have no idea how incompatible her culture is with your own.

And you really have zero to go on as to her true intentions or overall actions.


You asked for advice- and everyone here is trying very hard to give you sound advice.
I don't hate women- I rather adore them. And if all you want to hear is support for your doing something that has a 99.9 % chance of blowing up in your face...then you should not ask for advice at all.

You're gonna do what you're gonna do.

I sincerely hope you don't end up telling yourself ruefully how you should have listened when we all tried to warn you.
 

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I really like this trans cam model on chaturbate & she has been having some issues paying her rent. So I offered her to come stay with me. But the problem is she is from the phillipines. Am I doing something wrong by offering for her to stay her for a while to maybe get a job here in the us. maybe her camming here will help her get the money she want's for breast surgery. I told her I don't know what else to do other than what I offered. I really could use some advice. I don't want to see anything bad happen to her.

That is actually so sweet that you care so much for her and want her to be ok.
 
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