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Need some advice on a situation I'm in.

To make a long story short, there is a guy that I had kind of like a long-distance relationship with. We are both in medical school and because of COVID and our school prolonging online classes, we never got to meet. We spent a little over a year talking and getting to know each other and everything in between. Toward the end of last year, it ended because he had met someone that he wanted to date in person. We had a rule that we wouldn't interfere if something happened like that if we hadn't met because we didn't know when it would happen. I'm a year ahead in school, so I moved to a clinical site, and he moved to the main campus the next term. Now, he's moved to the clinical site I'm at, and we recently started talking again. We still have not met to this point. The problem is in a few months, I'm moving to a different clinical site and then graduating, and I still have no idea where I'll be for residency. He is stuck at his current site until next year at the minimum. He is a great guy, and I do really like him. I'm just not sure what to do. He has said he's kind of in a relationship but doesn't seem happy in it from the messages we've sent talking about it. Plus, we have kind of been flirty, but I don't want to read too much into it. Since we started talking a few years ago, we have always tried to be supportive of each other until we ended. Just because of the timeline and knowing how much change is coming for me in the next year, I don't know what to do. I also don't want to be the reason he ends his current relationship unless he is actually unhappy with it. On top of all of this, I know how much work 3rd year is, and I don't want to make it harder for him.

Do I just leave it open and let whatever happens happen, or should I push a little more and see if maybe all the waiting was worth it? When things ended before, I was really hurt, and we both had mixed feelings about everything. We started talking in 2021 but still haven't met, so what should I do?
 
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You could ask him to hang out if he is nearby, see how it goes. Maybe seeing you in person will give him a push in the right direction. You two could still be friends if a romantic relationship does not work out.
 

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Need advice..a long-distance relationship stopped as he met someone. Now he moved to my clinical site..we talk again & haven't met..problem in a few months I'll move away, graduate and residency. I really like him. He's in a relationship but seems unhappy. We've been flirty..should I push and see if all the waiting was worth it? When things ended before, I was really hurt..
I would meet him as I finally had the opportunity to do so. But bear in mind your time together is limited as you will be parted again in a few months. He's with someone else now. You are destined to have a long distance friendship once more.
 

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You are living a relationship with a guy that is a dream and not reality if you think you are attracted to this guy so much you need to meet him in person and take the next step from there.