I'm going to try and make a long story as short as possible, but sorry in advance if this goes on for too long.
Two summers ago, I saw this girl out at a bar. She came up and said hi, introduced herself, and we had a great time. We rode home in the same car that night, but didn't do anything as other people were in the car. She had to be dropped off at home (lives with her parents) so nothing really materialized.
We texted for a week or so, and finally hung out. I had a 10 hour work day, so I just invited her over for a movie. We didn't do anything, as it just didn't feel right. I had her over again about a week later and we made out for about 20 minutes. Only after kissing for so long did I realize, "Whoa, you just made this really awkward."
About a week went by and I was aggressively trying to set up dinner. I say "aggressively" because I probably came off as desperate, sounding overly-available. On top of that, she knew I was leaving for law school in about 5 weeks. She sent me a 3 page text explaining how I was a great guy but she "didn't like me like that." Anybody who knows her says that distance was a huge thing for her and she didn't want to have to deal with it. I moved on, deleted her from my phone, and didn't speak to her for 5 months.
When I came home from Christmas break (2011's break, not this year), however, we hit it off again at the bar. I actually didn't have her number so she texted me, "What are you doing?" I responded with "At X bar, who's this?" She came up to me and said she was just "testing me," as she saw me from a distance at the bar, then told me how she likes honest guys. She seemed genuinely happy to see me, got my number, and we've been talking ever since.
Now, before moving on, more about her. She's shy and hasn't had a steady relationship for more than six months, ever. She and I get along great (we've seen each other out a few other times) and I just get the feeling she didn't want to get into anything serious when I was about to move 2 hours a way to a big city.
Well, fast forward to right now (about a year and a half since our first "date," if you could even call it that). Over the past 6-8 months, we've been texting each other pretty frequently. She sends flirtatious things all the time like, "Oh, if we were out doing X, I'd do Y funny thing to you." I'd say I text first only about 60% of the time, so it's not like I'm bombarding her with no return.
Now I'm home for Christmas break. I got my post-grad job and I'm going to be back in town for this summer and beyond (and so will she). I really want to just meet up and get coffee over break, explain that I'm going to be in the area again once I graduate, and maybe parlay that into a dinner.
So, two questions:
1) Is there a chance she still likes me despite the previous rejection? And
2) How do I go about setting things up? Should I just be direct? Should I even bring up the two summers ago?
Thanks for all your help, and sorry for the pitiful story. This is my first time trying to get back with a girl who has rejected me and I just don't have the confidence I usually do.
Two summers ago, I saw this girl out at a bar. She came up and said hi, introduced herself, and we had a great time. We rode home in the same car that night, but didn't do anything as other people were in the car. She had to be dropped off at home (lives with her parents) so nothing really materialized.
We texted for a week or so, and finally hung out. I had a 10 hour work day, so I just invited her over for a movie. We didn't do anything, as it just didn't feel right. I had her over again about a week later and we made out for about 20 minutes. Only after kissing for so long did I realize, "Whoa, you just made this really awkward."
About a week went by and I was aggressively trying to set up dinner. I say "aggressively" because I probably came off as desperate, sounding overly-available. On top of that, she knew I was leaving for law school in about 5 weeks. She sent me a 3 page text explaining how I was a great guy but she "didn't like me like that." Anybody who knows her says that distance was a huge thing for her and she didn't want to have to deal with it. I moved on, deleted her from my phone, and didn't speak to her for 5 months.
When I came home from Christmas break (2011's break, not this year), however, we hit it off again at the bar. I actually didn't have her number so she texted me, "What are you doing?" I responded with "At X bar, who's this?" She came up to me and said she was just "testing me," as she saw me from a distance at the bar, then told me how she likes honest guys. She seemed genuinely happy to see me, got my number, and we've been talking ever since.
Now, before moving on, more about her. She's shy and hasn't had a steady relationship for more than six months, ever. She and I get along great (we've seen each other out a few other times) and I just get the feeling she didn't want to get into anything serious when I was about to move 2 hours a way to a big city.
Well, fast forward to right now (about a year and a half since our first "date," if you could even call it that). Over the past 6-8 months, we've been texting each other pretty frequently. She sends flirtatious things all the time like, "Oh, if we were out doing X, I'd do Y funny thing to you." I'd say I text first only about 60% of the time, so it's not like I'm bombarding her with no return.
Now I'm home for Christmas break. I got my post-grad job and I'm going to be back in town for this summer and beyond (and so will she). I really want to just meet up and get coffee over break, explain that I'm going to be in the area again once I graduate, and maybe parlay that into a dinner.
So, two questions:
1) Is there a chance she still likes me despite the previous rejection? And
2) How do I go about setting things up? Should I just be direct? Should I even bring up the two summers ago?
Thanks for all your help, and sorry for the pitiful story. This is my first time trying to get back with a girl who has rejected me and I just don't have the confidence I usually do.
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