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Ok so I don't really know what to do in my situation I have right now. I met a really hot guy on a local site... and he lives literally five minutes away from me. We talked an all that and we were on cam together and we talked on the phone and he really wants me to come over so we could know each other a lil bit more. :wink: ummm.... but I don't know... I mean red flags seem to be coming up on my side since I met him on the internet and I have never met up with him but we have talked on the phone and i have cammed with him.... so he wants to meet up tonight for this...i REALLY want to since I have never done anything with a guy and I have been craving it lately. But should I? I'm worried I am thinking with the wrong head... any opinions would be great!
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Is the only red flag that you met on the internet? As long as you use the rules you'd use on a first date with anyone there shouldn't be any particular danger - meet somewhere busy, if something doesn't seem right make your excuses and leave, let someone know where you are and who you're with and let him know someone knows, check his car for a tarpaulin and quicklime :)
 

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I would certainly meet him in a public place first if you can. I met a guy on a local site as well and we decided to go out for a beer for our first meeting. I know its hard not to think with that head but it seems like a bad idea for your first guy to be a random fuck......Just my 2 cents. :)
 

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I would do it, but I would definitely make sure I played it safe in more ways than one. I would make sure I had a friend that would know exactly where I was going and give me a call on my cell at a set time, and I would have a code word that I would have to answer the phone with. Maybe it's just me being paranoid, but you can never be too careful.
Anyways, good luck with your situation and rock on.
 

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red flags are just your intuition kicking in--listen to it. it may not be that there is anything wrong with him but hesitation on your part. whatever it is, something is telling you to hold off.

a lot of people jump into things they later regret by ignoring "red flags" they were aware of beforehand.

better safe than sorry.

blm
 

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ryguyga seems to have given u some good advice. but I imagine if you've never done anything with a man before it's not likely there's anyone ur gonna wanna notify that yer goin to hook up with a guy. In your favor is that you've been invited to his place...People are less likely to harm you at their place. Just like dogs don't s**t in their own yards.
 

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Thank you for writing back to me! Ummm... I'm not meeting him for all the way or anything just some fun..but yah I totally agree with all of your opinions...I guess I am just kinda worried since I met this guy on the internet and usually they say you shouldn't meet anyone from the internet unless you know them well enough and you should always meet up before hand... except this is kinda just spur of the moment I guess.
 

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Inviting someone over to your place doesn't indicate that your intentions are honest and above board, Dennis Nielsen invited people back then buried them under the floorboards and flushed bits down the toilet, I don't want to be alarmist but until you know someone don't go back to their place without making sure that someone knows where they live and that they know that someone knows where you are.

Remember though Matt that wherever you meet anyone on first meetings they're strangers, that's no different whether it's the net or a pub.
 

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Inviting someone over to your place doesn't indicate that your intentions are honest and above board, Dennis Nielsen invited people back then buried them under the floorboards and flushed bits down the toilet, I don't want to be alarmist but until you know someone don't go back to their place without making sure that someone knows where they live and that they know that someone knows where you are.

Remember though Matt that wherever you meet anyone on first meetings they're strangers, that's no different whether it's the net or a pub.


Sorry, I didn't mean to imply that it's foolproof. I said it's less likely. I didn't want to scare the hell out of him with Jeffrey Dalmer stories. Although it's never happened to me, I kind of meant that anybody I know who's had a bad experience (i.e. robbed or beaten), it's happened at their own place and not when they're at someone else's place.
 

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lol Wow wasnt expecting that comment about being cut up and buried in the floor... haha I don't want to do this anymore! hahah ... no jk but yah that's what im worried about. i think I will definently meet up with him first and get to know each other before we do anything....
 

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Ok, it is good to be careful and prudent. All of the suggestions are good. But hey you don't have to scare the hell out of the poor guy. He has been talking to the guy and caming for a while. Meeting someone in a public place isn't foolproof as well. If I was some killer, I would be happy to meet as a public place and be a nice guy until I took him home. Just do what is comfortable. If you are worried take some precautions, but don't get all freaked out about the whole thing. Hope you have a nice time and have found a good friend.
 

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Meet in a public space for a drink and chat and see how it goes. I.ve met a couple of guys like that and if i've gone back to there place i have always let someone know where i am - not why of course -.
 

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Well thought I would update. I went and saw him tonight....It was a lot of fun! I was really nervous, but I guess that is expected...We are going to see each other again so ... so far so good haha. :biggrin1:
 

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Meet him in public first.

If there are fireworks then get a motel.

Otherwise just keep meeting until you feel good about it then invite him back to your place.