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Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by lafever, Dec 31, 2007.

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  1. lafever

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    As many of you know my wife lost her job due to being pregnant, we then lost my son christopher at 17 weeks.
    When shani lost her job she also lost her blue cross and blue shield, when the company she used to work for finally sent the cobra it was so ridicully expensive we had no choice but to decline.
    Thank god the state of alabama atleast gave us medicaid but that runs out 6 weeks after the child is born, or in our case still born.
    Up till now even though we`ve gone through some horrific circumstances our faith has been strong.
    You see my wife was born with a cerebral avm,(arterio venou malformation) in other words she could have died giving birth and she chose to take that chance to bring my son into this world.
    Well if things couldn`t seem to be any worse even though are love is strong, when the medicaid runs out we`ll be out of insurance.
    This means if her avm acts up my wife will not get the care she needs which means she could die.
    Oh yeah, the er will take her but that doesn`t mean she`ll get the care she`s been getting since she found out about the avm when she was 16.
    Lately she`s been getting really bad migrains which was what happened a year and a half ago before we got together, she had a bleed and was in the hospital (UAB in birmingham) where she whent under the gamma knife and recieved cobalt 60 radiation.
    She recovered thank god or i would have never met her and married her, back then her companies insurance covered the procedure.
    If that doesn`t seem like enough shit for someone to go through know this, when we got together we both had been at war with our demons from losing a loved one, she had lost her fiance who was a cop who was killed in the line of duty and i had lost my wife in a car accident.
    This is the fu***d up part if all that wasn`t bad enough, are finances are at the end, shanis been out of work of course, and i`ve stood by her in the hospital and at home taking care of her, we spent a wad of cash on the kids for x-mass because we didn`t want them to think anything was wrong hoping my bids would start coming inn after x-mass.
    Well not one bid has come back and i feel like i have become a failure as a husband, we`re almost broke and all the bills are due.
    Shanis scared and i don`t know what to tell her except that we need to hang on to our faith.
    I`m so ready to get my family out of alabama, we`ve had nothing but rough times here for both of us, i told her that i`d love to take her out west since she`s never been and i`d like to do it before something happens with her avm and i lose her.
    I knew when i got with shani her health problems but that didn`t stop us from falling in love with each other, we both know how precious life is and that no one is garenteed tomorrow.
    I keep hoping in my heart that we`ll pull out of this, my biggest fear is that i`ve failed the new family we`ve put together.
    I know in my heart things will get better in time but please if you read this do me a favor and send my wife a card letting her know it`ll be ok, to keep the faith.
    We don`t have anyone but ourselves and the people here at lpsg, i know it seems like alot to ask for you to send a card because i know we`re not the only ones up shits creek but i want my wife to know that we`re not really alone in the world and that there are those out there who care about our family.
    You`d think with everything we`ve gone through are faith would be at it`s peak but sadly we`re feeling as though god has abandoned us.

    This is the p.o. box

    Chris and Shani LaFever
    P.O. Box 12877
    Huntsville, AL. 35815

    lafever:cool:

    P.S. Shani doesn`t know i`m doing this so it`ll be a big surprize for her, maybe she`ll realize and know that we`re not alone and that we`ll get through all of this. Also, god bless everyone here at lpsg, know that whatever you`re going through that i`m here for you too.
     
  2. IntoxicatingToxin

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    Sorry to hear you guys are going through such a tough time. And yeah, getting out of Alabama might be a good idea. I know that in Kansas and Missouri, you can receive medical insurance if you have an illness that requires care and medicine that you cannot afford. I'm not exactly sure what the stipulations on that are, but surely there are other states that can offer this coverage to her as well. It sucks that Alabama doesn't.
     
  3. lafever

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    Thanks T.M.M., alabama sucks when it comes to health care, if you don`t have health insurance you`re just shit out of luck. The E.R. will take you but that`s just so they don`t get a law suit. They`ll take your temperature and give you a script and send you on your way.
    One time i almost lost my leg and i needed laser surgery to reconect the nerves or i would have been paralized from the knee down.
    The doctor was going to just sow me back together, he told me to come back for the laser surgery, i begged him to do the procedure while my leg was open because i did not have insurance and coming back would not be an option. He knew i was telling the truth and that he would be doing a freebee, thank god for him, he did the surgery and it took me 2 years to learn how to walk again. That was over ten years ago, nowadays you don`t have a chance in hell of getting something like that done.
    Sadly the hosptial here in huntsville has gotten money hungry, no more freebees.


    lafever:cool:
     
  4. simcha

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    Lafever,

    I'm so sorry to hear about all of your troubles. I'll keep you both in my thoughts and prayers.

    Many Blessings,
    Simcha
     
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    Thanks Simcha, it`s tough allright, we need all the prayers we can get.
    I`m glad that lpsg has so many wonderfull people and that you`re one of them.

    lafever:cool:
     
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    I will step up my prayers for you and Shani!

    Whatever you do don't move to Georgia, they do jacksquat to help those without insurance or a job unless they have children. :mad: I was eligible for general assistance in New Jersey. I had full Medicaid, a meager cash stipend and food stamps. In Georgia the only thing I qualified for was food stamps. No Medical and no stipend. My meds cost $740 a month so I feel your pain. My Advair alone is $200 a month so of course I don't use it daily like I am supposed to; but my rescue inhaler I can get at Wal-Mart for $4 so I can keep one of those on hand just in case.
     
  7. lafever

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    I know what you mean about the medicaid in the south, it blows. Shanis medications are very expensive too. Maybe we should both get the hell out of the south.

    lafever:cool:
     
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    Oh, I hope things get better for you!

    I've known friends who were on Medicaid in Indiana and had all kinds of problems with that, so that's not a good state to go to either. I don't know how Texas rates in that way, since I don't know anyone on Medicaid here.
     
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    Thanks so much W.I.R.W., for the kind words and the info.. I`ve been up all night trying to figure things out, shanis in the bed sleeping, she`s been having migrains non stop so i`m glad she`s asleep right now.

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    Its a bad idea to post even your email address online. What's the real life equivalent of mail bombs?
     
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    My thoughts are with you both. You've had a horrible run. I hope 2008 proves better for you both.

    A classic example of why the GOP health care reform proposals are full of shit. What good are tax rebates for health care when you're not earning enough to get a tax rebate? It's time we bit the bullet and went to national health care. Situations like this are horrendous.
     
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    Thank god i`m not a politician.

    I feel like a peasant, and i`m ready to throw some tea in the boston harber, when are we going to stand up as a nation of people and insist that the health care we`re getting is no longer tollerable, that human being are not automobiles that can sit in the garage till you can afford to get it fixed.
    We live in a society today where if you don`t have the money you just have to die.
    Some day in the future let`s say 100 years from now they`ll compare our century to our comparison today of cutting off limbs in the civil war to our penicillin shots we receive today.

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    I'm sorry to hear about your troubles and moving might be a good idea. Move somewhere that has a strong economy and great weather, like California where I live. You can start up a new construction business, the weather is great and so you can always find some sort of work. I know everything will work out for you...just keep your faith and never give up hope that something really good will come out of this.
     
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    Thanks, we would love to move, sadly we cannot afford it right now, i don`t even know how i`m going to pay the bills and they`re due now.

    lafever:cool:
     
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    I hope things get better for you. I thought it was against federal law to lose your job because of pregnancy. I am sorry I can't offer anything more than prayers.
     
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    Are you asking people on LPSG for money? I can't think of any other reason you'd risk posting your home address.

    Maybe I'm bitter, small and mean (well, not maybe), but asking for the love and support of people who you alternately jeer at is not cool. I'm sorry you're going through all this shit, but my sympathy is limited by how you act when you're not asking for it.
     
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    My heart goes out to you and your family Lafever. I hope things turn around for you in 2008. No one deserves such a run of bad luck.

    For the wealthiest, most powerful nation in the world to have such a barbaric health care system is criminal. The profit based health care system which is established in the USA is the most costly and least efficient in the developed world.

    The US spends 16 percent of it GDP on health care, whereas other wealthy nations are under 10 percent. Six percent difference may not sound like much at first, but actually it amounts to over 50 percent more!

    You'd think that you'd have the healthiest population in the world and that no one would go untreated. Sadly, the greed and stupidity of the powers that be, combined with an extremely effective brainwashing of the public as to the evils of socialism, have resulted in a system which is inhumane and in my opinion is UN-AMERICAN.

    Did you know that in spite of having by far the highest per capita costs in the world, the USA is ranked 37th in terms of health care quality?

    I am truly sorry for your family's predicament and for the millions of American families in similar circumstances.
     
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    When you got here you came in telling a lie in your post. I can no longer believe any of your "I need sympathy posts". I think you have a disorder where you create stories looking for sympathy and for attention.
     
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    Chris -
    I am so sorry to hear that things are so difficult for you and your wife right now. I will praying for you both. For immediate relief with bills, is there a Salvation Army nearby? I know that in Michigan they will pay for utility bills.
    Is there no public assistance through the state of any kind?
    What sort of work do you do that the bids are not coming back in?
     
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    Lafever, I am lucky to have been blessed with a daughter and I am convinced it will happen to you and Shani. I am praying for you both old friend and please be strong. I know it is really hard, but together you both can overcome anything.

    God bless and keep you both friend.
     
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