Fire Agate
Experimental Member
okay i just read most of the thread and i agree with osiris, good post man:smile:I just saw the request for cards too, but it could and was perceived by many as a ploy to get money.
Again, an online etiquette was violated.
As much as I wanted people to do nice things for my wife when she was sick, I would never ask the general forum to send cards and then get upset when people did not. Asking for prayers of support is one thing, but asking relative strangers to send cards to someone who, by your own description Lafever, had nothing but contempt for this site, can come across as out of line.
That first week when you and Shani had the horrible fight that played out on the boards, you told the forum that Shani thought several, if not all, of the members here were basically losers. Several members have not forgotten that and probably harken back to it when they see you post still.
No, it isn't fair, but words can hurt. Whether spoken or typed, once they are out there, they are out there for good. I can't help but feel I failed in this to a point. I tried to get you to understand that you may want to watch what and how much you post of your troubles between you and Shani on the forum.
Trust me, my wife and I have our fights and disagreements, but they will NEVER fnd their way onto this forum. This is not the place for them.
Lafever, I am saying this as a concerned person and friend, think before you post. A lot of what you have posted is best kept for real life and not online life. Whether we admit it or not, we come here for an escape and that means in some cases escaping reality or real life for a minute or two. Does that mean we are something we are not? Not always. I am whoi I am whether here or there, but I am not going to share all of my bad here. Someone had suggested that a lot of what you post to threads should be posted in the form of a blog and I agree. A forum post openly invites discussion, good and bad. A blog is just that. You got it off your chest and people may comment or not. If people don't like a blog, they usually bypass it. A forum post is always read and always commented on.
You have a lot on you and it is distressing to see you go through all of this. Please seek help in real life. Whether it be friends to listen, professionals to help, or a family member to hug and console. The biggest help you need right now is human and no monitor or keyboard will give you that.
I am not saying this out of anger or spite, quite the contrary. I am saying this as a concerned party who wants you and Shani to both be as well and healthy as you can be.
if your giving out your mailing address your almost asking for people to spare a couple bucks in the card