Need to ask your opinion

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by D_Elwald Harribum, Dec 16, 2009.

  1. D_Elwald Harribum

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    So here is the deal. I have mistakenly in a drunken state on a few occasions messed around with a married woman. While I know this is wrong please do not bash, I just need another's opinion. So we have kissed a few times in the past year and nothing else. Well last Thursday we really went at it no sex just heavy petting stuff. After that I decided I did not want to get shot by her husband and was going to stop the relationship from going anywhere else physically. Well on Saturday while at a BBQ at there house everyone was outside I went inside she was in the kitchen she proceeded to pull me into her laundry room and we kissed and made out pretty good. She proceeded to say What Are We Going To Do? And that she wanted to talk to me about what happened on Thursday. We never did talk about it. I have since seen her and asked her what she wanted to talk about. She claims she was too drunk to remember and acts like there is nothing going on. I am just confused. I was under the impression she wanted to have an affair. Now I think I'm going crazing or she is. How can she act like nothing has occurred? What is she thinking? Or what does she want? Is it possible she does not remember? Just need a little advise.
     
  2. Viking_UK

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    There are a few options:

    1) She was very drunk and genuinely doesn't remember - that's usually around the time they fall over. Of course she may have had more to drink after your encounter, which would affect her memory.

    2) She remembers and feels embarrassed/guilty about it and doesn't want to be reminded about it.

    3) She thinks you're OK for a drunken fumble but doesn't want any more than that.

    4) Her husband could be violent when annoyed and she doesn't want to risk that.

    It could be any combination of those options and there are a few other possibilities too.

    I'd advise you just to steer clear of her and forget anything ever happened. Try not to get drunk when she's around and avoid her when she's drunk. This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen.
     
  3. mattnatlanta

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    Be careful, dude.
     
  4. hung

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    Viking UK has given you the best advice.

    Steer Clear of this One.

    A Married Woman will always spell disaster. Some times it takes a while, but you have too much invested in your own life to mess around.

    There are plenty of unwed out there for you to waste your time and talents on a married woman.

    Enjoy life.

    Be Safe.
     
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    a big amen on that!!!
     
  6. B_hardasarokkk

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    stay away from that shit!!!
     
  7. thadjock

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    what he said

    hot chicks are fukin crazy dude
     
  8. AlteredEgo

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    Ummm... What's with the confusion? She's not available. Her actions couldn't speak any louder.
     
  9. D_Doe_Ray_Mi

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    As above,man. There is no integrity in and noting but potential trouble with fucking around with a married woman. I've unknowingly done it, i.e., I didn't know she was married, and got away with it but always felt badly once I found out. Don't set yourself up for a lot of pain. There are so many other interesting, beautiful, single women out there to meet, don't waste your life chasing a married one.
     
  10. iluvbigheads

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    Put yourself in the husband's shoes...if you caught your wife whoring with some guy in your own home, I'm sure you would wanna kick some ass to.
     
  11. sexplease

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    you ask for a little advice.

    for the moment, she's not posting, so anything you say ("she claims.." )is your opinion so let 's forget about her.


    now, remember yourself.


    Is this something you could or would ask her husband about?

    probably not.

    if it's done in secret it may be shameful behavior as a human and, since we all are brothers and sisters on this planet, I'm suggesting you find some quiet time and think about your actions and their possible consequences.

    The problem with most people is: they cannot or will not just sit long enough and do nothing except ponder.

    Exercise more patience. You've heard this before: Look before you leap.
     
  12. D_Portelay Porquesword

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    Let's face it. The whole idea of the sex between you two being taboo is the turn on here.
    The rest are just extraneous factors in a recipe for disaster.

    She is obviously unhappy in her marriage, you being a horny younger man will only provide immediate gratification and not any sort of long term solution for her.

    There are some in this world, cut out for this kind of sexcapade. Two things come to mind here: you are asking for advice in order to draw attention to your "conquest" OR you are genuinely in over your head.

    This woman is MARRIED. Her husband will no doubt focus on you as the corrupter in this situation and blame you.

    IMO it ain't worth it and you are not cut out for this kind of thing. If my words here are not what you were expecting to hear, remember, you put it out there.

    GET OUT while you can.
     
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  13. dolfette

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    time to distance yourself.

    have too much self respect to be someone else's dirty secret. have to much pride to let yourself become a symptom of her domestic issues.
     
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    Back away, Bub.
     
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    use ur large wood for better options, man !
     
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