(I'm looking for advice from women who've had experience as either hotwives, been in relationships where they needed to seek outside sex either with or without husband's agreement/encouragement, etc.) I'm in my early 20's, reasonably attractive, and been married for 3 years. My husband and I hardly ever have sex.. maybe once every 3 months. I've constantly let him know that it's a problem, and that I'm attracted to him etc, he says he's attracted to me but his response is either that we're busy(somewhat true but we do have plenty of opportunity to do it if we waned to), or that I deserve to be with someone who has a big cock. When we do have sex it's decent, although usually monotomous. He does have an active sexual brain but he's quite a lot older than me and maybe his need for actual sex(as opposed to masturbation) isn't as great as mine.. and also while I haven't found it to be a problem, he is pretty small at about 5 inches. We've both from time to time talked about me finding a lover, or at least flirting with guys and getting to know guys, going on dates, seeing if I can meet a guy who's got a big cock whom I can see regularly etc. 99.9999% of this talk is initiated by him, and while the thought does turn me on, I've never come close to acting on it. However we've been married for a while now and we are practically not having sex.. I really crave steamy sex and I have to admit that it would be great to be with a guy who is well-endowed and wants me all the time. Husband encourages me to find someone all the time.. so should I? I think our relationship will survive because our friendship is strong, but he thinks that at the very least I deserve to be with someone who can sexually satisfy me... I haven't taken the next step.. so should I? I mean, I do have his approval... and the longer our relationship stays sex-free the more I'm beginning to really think that it would be wonderful to take the next step... I think I know what the answer will be from you guys anyway.... that if I have his encouragement/approval and we've properly talked about it, then I should just take the next step, right? By the way I do get quite a bit of attention from men through my work dealing with the public and it really is nice to feel wanted by men... some of whom are very attractive and probably a lot better endowed and sexually active than my husband... I've pretty much held myself back all this time despite getting encouragement from husband to socialize with guys I do meet..