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So I'm married and have a son but I love jerking off and sucking guys. My wife doesn't know. This couple moved in next door a couple years ago. The guy is extremely hot and I'm kinda obsessed with him. We have made little conversations over the years but nothing that brought us to being friends.

So when the first moved in the didn't have any blinds in their living room, which I right next to my patio outback. One time I seen him running to the bedroom with just a hoodie on. I could see his ass. They eventually got blinds but sometimes at night they have the hallway light on and I can see through the blinds. I go out to smoke hoping I will see something.

Over the years I have seen him naked through the blinds and know that sometimes they know I'm out there and watching. He has such a nice ass and dick looks good too! It's from a far so don't know how big. The other night I got horny and started masturbating on my patio and could tell he came out from the bedroom naked and was hoping he seen me.

He walked back and forth a couple times but don't know if he actually saw something. I'm hoping he did and at least keeps giving me a show. I really want to try and see if he would be cool with me sucking his dick but don't want him to say anything to my wife. What should I do?
 
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So I'm married ...I love jerking off and sucking guys. My wife doesn't know. This couple moved in next door a couple years ago. The guy is extremely hot ...We have made little conversations over the years but nothing that brought us to being friends. So when the first moved in the didn't have any blinds in their living room... I could see his ass. They eventually got blinds but sometimes at night ...I can see through the blinds. I go out to smoke hoping I will see something. Over the years I have seen him naked ...sometimes they know I'm out there and watching. The other night I got horny and started masturbating on my patio and was hoping he seen me...I really want to try and see if he would be cool with me sucking his dick but don't want him to say anything to my wife. What should I do?

For starters stop peeping into your neighbors' house and masterbating in front of them. Do not proposition the male object of your obsession either as he could reject your request and is under no obligation to keep it secret. Confess your secret to your wife so you won't have to sneak around anymore for sex with guys.
 

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For starters stop peeping into your neighbors' house and masterbating in front of them. Do not proposition the male object of your obsession either as he could reject your request and is under no obligation to keep it secret. Confess your secret to your wife so you won't have to sneak around anymore for sex with guys.

Dreamer is right to say, despite lust, and sexual desire, you are in a committed relationship and you have made the choice to be “all or nothing”. Morally and ethically we can’t condone or suggest that you cheat. Should you end up single then you are free to do as you please with other consenting people but, as for now, your wife as not given you a free pass to be adulterous or lust the “neighbour boy”. We cannot absolved you and tell you to indulge and betray your wife. You may need to withhold this itch or speak about it with her. There is this guy in my city who skulks around flirting and misrepresenting his relationship status to get head or with people. Meanwhile he has a girlfriend at home who “makes home” for him, cooking, cleaning and the lot. Meanwhile he absolves himself of guilt and wrong doing buy thinking that because he spoils her or provides for her, that entitles himself to a free sexual pass. Now one could understand if they black and white, clearly and concisely came the table and agreed on an open relationship, but that is not what he has. If you feel you need to have an open relationship and get off with me, the best advice would be if it is mission imperative... you will need to sit down and have that talk. You should not sneak around and be found out or caught...
 

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So I'm married and have a son but I love jerking off and sucking guys. My wife doesn't know
:innocent:You must address this issue first. Do not discuss any sexual activity with your neighbor unless he brings it up.

You may have been blessed to have an exhibitionist for a neighbor. We exhibitionists count on voyeurs like you. We want you to enjoy the show, and we like to observe evidence that we are being watched. Some of us are voyeurs, also.

You should realize that many exhibitionists are "secretive" about their activity. They don't want their spouse to know about "forbidden activity". Does that sound like your dilemma?

I've developed my exhibitionistic habits for over fifty years. It's great to have an appreciative audience. It's also scary when an unintended perception of my exhibitionism is expressed.

Follow the advice from @CosgoodCreeps:cool:: Talk about the lawn and gas prices. Go slow.
 

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I know this is a safe space

But, what will happen when your wife finds out, presuming she has not already picked up in any clues; and is just pretending not to notice. What will happen to your son. What would happen to the other guys family ? What if you proposition him; and he gets angry ? Either you honor your vows ; and be a husband; or take off the ring and do what ever you want , with whom ever you want

There is an old saying about never crapping, where you eat . I think this applies well here

Again, this is a safe space, so I can not express anything other than the obvious.
 

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I know this is a safe space

But, what will happen when your wife finds out, presuming she has not already picked up in any clues; and is just pretending not to notice. What will happen to your son. What would happen to the other guys family ? What if you proposition him; and he gets angry ? Either you honor your vows ; and be a husband; or take off the ring and do what ever you want , with whom ever you want

There is an old saying about never crapping, where you eat . I think this applies well here

Again, this is a safe space, so I can not express anything other than the obvious.
This right here. My wife and I are trying to impress upon our grandson that they need to think ahead when they do an action. As in what might the results be if I do this or what long term effects might happen. There's several people you need to consider. I'm not judging you but I really don't think its a great idea to be sucking off anyone behind your wife's back. And whether you think so or not its likely she knows or has an idea.
 

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This is a safe space and I’m glad we all went to the table on it, were supportive and constructive about it as well as objective. This was a good “gentleman’s club” moment. Where you came to us, able to speak candidly without fear of judgement and we all debated it and arrived at a general consensus. We “all” (obviously I can’t wholeheartedly say all) have our lusty fantasies, desires and little itches we might think of scratching and indulging in. Buuut you know all, all actions have consequences and sometimes both actions and inaction, has unintended and inadvertent consequences. Anyone that that can genuinely set aside lust and fantasy and your greater good would advise you to CBA cautions be advised in that situation, to abstain on that rather than act on it. Your asking advise was actually a nice worthwhile thing to do. I’m glad we had this confiding and confidence in a sense of community
 
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I can only reiterate what you've already been told in that not only do you not know how this guy will respond, but even if it's positive and you go the distance, you still will be cheating on your wife. Whether it's with another woman or a man is irrelevant...you will be having sex with another person behind her back and you will be a cheater. Full stop. Although if I read your statement correctly about sucking off guys, then I'm guessing you have already passed the Rubicon and if you are truly concerned about the perceptions of your family, you need to stop immediately.

My only question that you have not indicated is why do you feel it's necessary to keep this bi-curiosity a secret from your wife? Are you worried she will not respond well or think sexually negative of you if you do? Have you ever hinted around that you sometimes think about it to her? Has she ever given you reason to believe she would find it bizarre or unacceptable for two men, let alone her husband, to be attracted sexually in some way? How open are the two of you to discussing fantasies that might involve others of either sex?

Many years ago my wife and I were afraid to admit certain things, like attraction to strangers, for concern how the other would respond, especially in a society that sometimes goes too far in the opposite direction and equates a man (or woman) even looking at or thinking about someone else as infidelity. Coming to terms with these feelings and her bi-curiosity eventually lead us into the swinger lifestyle and allowed us to be more open with each other and explore our fantasies together, thus removing any covert temptation.

So I'm not suggesting this is the solution as such decisions are not for everyone and even fewer can make it work without the negative feelings that can crop up. But if there is even the possibility she would be open to you exploring this curiosity, especially in a controlled environment that would be one way to have your cock and eat it too ;). Some women might feel less threatened with their husband being sexual with another man (some even enjoy watching it themselves) than another woman; yet others will find it more unsettling, perhaps thinking their husband is turning gay.

Since none of us know you or your wife, only you can gauge or know how she would respond to your admission. This only leaves you with only two choices.

Either talk to her about it and if she responds well...great. Even if she is never keen enough to allow you to put your fantasies into practice, you still have created something that can serve as arousal fuel amongst yourselves. If she doesn't respond well, then accept her feelings on the matter and unless she is more amicable in the future; let it go.

The second option if you don't think she will be open to it at all, is to drop it and accept it will have to be your own private fantasy and no matter how much is the temptation; you have to respect your marriage if you think it is something worth respecting and maintaining.

Either way, I would stop trying to pursue someone that may simply be unaware he is showing off or if he is, could simply be an exhibitionist who has no interest in taking it beyond that step. If you do get to the point of fulfillment, there are other safer options than a neighbor you are unsure of.
 

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This does sound like a super hot scenario. But it also sounds far off from being readily accessible. Regardless of any views on the honesty with your partner, and even if you did disclose this in order to get what you are after, there is an old campsite saying that I think applies:

"Dont shit where you eat"

It's one thing to have dalliances that can be managed, but even if this were to start out ok, if it ever went south, you're still stuck living next to the guy (and him next to you).

One thing that did cross my mind about telling your wife, is that if she's in any way like-minded, this could be really great bedroom dirty-talk fodder for the two of you, even if nothing comes to pass of it. Maybe she thinks he's hot too. Maybe not all conquests are meant to be achieved?
 

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Safe space still needs truth.
You are being a peeping tom.
Jerking with the intention that a (basically) stranger sees it, is “public” indecency (or whatever verbiage your area takes...some file it under sex crimes that get you on the list).

Your neighbor has been clear he has no interest in you.
Otherwise, those conversations would have gone somewhere, nonsexual.

the thing about blinds, certain angles do block. I’ve checked my blinds everywhere I’ve lived. Depending on where you are, being nude in a way passersby could see is still exhibitionistic, and prosecutable.

I can’t even start on your cheating.
 

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I used to live in this apt bldg and every morning in the summer months I would get my coffee and go and sit in my recliner on the balcony, as usual I always had the morning semi, and since I wear tights or leggings a lot I would usually milk it before hand to kill the morning bulge.
I had a neighbour that lived right beside me and our balconies were divided by a low railing.
90% of the time I would see the drapes move slightly in the centre so I know James was watching me.
That’s when I would apply some lube on my cockhead and slowly grow to full size arched hard, knowing full well he my neighbour James was watching
I would stroke my meat vigoursly to milk a nice morning load, then I would relax a bit,, then stand up and re use the cum with some lube and do one more load into the flower planter all the while facing James direction behind the drapes, after that I would jump in the shower then get my self dressed in tights and a hoodie and head to work.
I just loved the fact of any morning I would be watched and yet if I ran into James in the elevator , lobby, or hallway he pretended he didn’t see me
Sure was a different kinda guy…
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My ex lived next door to a fireman and his wife, no children. They were very chatty and knew the score, and over a couple of years we had a few social evenings together. I always had the feeling he was wondering who did what to whom as well as checking out other parts or my anatomy.
My ex was in hospital so I was in the house alone. Chatting over the fence he let on his wife was at her sister's so I suggested a drink. Well it was summer and he was just in shorts and T shirt and me the same. We had a few drinks then I came out with a curry and somehow we need up sitting together on the settee and his hand slipped onto my thigh - and when I didn't object it slid up and cupped my balls - and rising cock. Lets just say we went round the block a few times and after I'd sucked him and he'd fucked me and I'd had his tight rounded ass we'd run out of cum. Eventually we got dressed, he said goodnight and went home. It could have been the strat of a sensual relationship but the next day his wife was back and apart from waving over the fence things were very much as they had been - and I never did get to fuck with him again. Needless to say when my ex got out of hospital I didn't say a word.