Nervous about getting with an experienced ex

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So without going thru the whole story I will get to the point. When i was a Sr in high school i went out with a girl who was a junior, we were both virgins. I was basically her first from everything from kiss to finger, we didn't do anything past that. We broke up and a couple months later (her senior year) she got a new boyfriend who was a black guy, he took her virginity. They were never a great couple, they both cheated on eachother but 4 years later she still has sex with him occassionally, she says she hates him and all that BS, so I don't know why she still goes back to him, it may just be the comfort thing with the guy who took her virginity, I dont know.

About a year after loosing her virginity she hooked up with some canadian guy and basically said "omg he's so big, i think canadians are bigger then black guys" which obviously made me feel great considering I am the ex who still has feelings for her. I know that in the 4 years since she's lost her virginity shes had sex with about 7 or so guys.

We are 21/22 now and things are getting "Weird" between us and a lot of people are thinking we will be getting back together, which I would love. But my big nervousness is the sex. I've only had sex once, I'm a pretty shy guy. I've had girls basically throw themselves on me but my shyness basically makes me not do anything. I'm about 7 inches long with a 6 inch girth. I almost feel scared about getting back with her because of the sex, I feel like I would make a fool out of my self considering my lack of experience compared to her. And for some reason I feel like I am going to be small for her, I don't know if it's the whole "black guys are bigger" phrase that everybody knows or the whole thing she said about canadians are bigger then blacks. I've had blowjobs and handjobs from several girls and they all thought I was "huge" but I guess it seems like it may be an ego booster.

I don't quite know why I am writing this but how does it look to you guys/gals?
 

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I am about the same size as you, maybe a bit longer. I don't really question or doubt my size but I have been with quite a few women and always had positive responses.

What you need to realise though is that a big dick does not equal good sex, or love, or happiness, or riches, or anything. It means nothing except its number.

I would take a smaller penis or no penis at all if it meant that I could be with [the person I want to be with].

If it makes you feel any better then at 7x6 you are bigger than 90%+ of males so only 1/10 or less will be bigger.

The odds of a girl being with a guy with 8"+ is something like 1/1000.

But again these are just numbers. They don't mean anything to anyone. If she means something to you and you mean something to her then it doesn't matter what size your penis is. You make someone love you by...making love to them.

Not by tearing their pussy up or having a really big cock. Just by being gentle and loving and taking your time with each other.

It's really stupid to miss out on what could be a great relationship or even just a fling to increase your experience because of two guys you don't really know and who probably aren't that much bigger than you, if at all.

Put things into perspective.
 

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Before you even think about having sex with the ex girl friend (or anyone for that matter) you gotta start thinking more positively about YOURSELF!!! Its not the size of a guys dick that matters - its how you perform with what you got. Think better of yourself - improve your self image - and thus your doubts about your performance level will not be such an issue for you. Don't you think LOVE has to come into the equation somewhere? After all it seems that you really care for this girl??? And if she thinks anything about you - the size of your dick is or shouldnt be an issue - just my 2 cents worth mate. Cheers.
 

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Shyness is the ultimate enemy for a good sex..tr yto boost your ego and feel like a pornstar..drink some wine or do sth that will make you forget your inhibitions..and try not to think of it a lot..just do it!