Nervousness and Comfort

[Meniswallow]

Originally posted by rainsfletcher@May 26 2004, 07:02 AM
I'm not sure if my perspective is different from those who have posted before or not, but what struck me immediately about your question was that he was willing to be and do things that were truly intimate, but unwilling to expose his dick.

There are (in my meager and uninformed) mind, only two options:

1) He isn't all that he has said he is, but is afraid of exposure.

2) He has some sort of curiosity or interest in you romatically or sexually, and is afraid of the next step?

In my mind, you don't get into a bed with a guy (under any circumstances) unless you are open to him sexually. To massage a guy or touch him while in bed with him, well, that's a come on. I am not sexually attracted to men, but I would have the same reaction toward women. If I get into be with her and am massaging her, that is an invitation or a first step. Depending on the reaction, maybe more things happen.

So, to answer you question...Maybe he was interested in you sexually, but was nervous about the next step??

i'd have to disagree, me and my friend shared a bed whenever he and his friend slept over my apt. need i remind you, i am gay and at the time he didn't know, but he willingly slept in the same bed as me, of course he would sleep on top of the covers but we still shared the bed. you don't have to be gay to sleep in the same bed, he just trusted me that much to be able to sleep in the same bed i was. his friend, also str8, didn't get any wrong ideas either.

 

[13788]

ShakeSpear: Dee:

No offense, but I've read your posts on this site for quite sometime and I would wager that you are indeed gay. Before we converted over to this new set-up, you had accumulated a massive amount of posts. Either you're super obessed with penises and just like guys. It's totally fine, but you are at least bisexual.

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

Originally posted by ShakeSpear@May 30 2004, 04:30 PM
...Before we converted over to this new set-up, you had accumulated a massive amount of posts. Either you're super obessed with penises and just like guys. It's totally fine, but you are at least bisexual.

:lol: Riiiiiiiiiight, because people who post here more than others are clearly "more gay" than those who simply lurk. If that's the case, then Pecker's the supreme ass pirate deity!

 

[mindseye]

Originally posted by ShakeSpear@May 30 2004, 04:30 PM
Before we converted over to this new set-up, you had accumulated a massive amount of posts.

Right. Couldn't you feel yourself getting one gayer as you typed that message?

 

[jonb]

LOL! Actually, some men are occasionally homosexual. I think the difference is that gay/bi men actively seek out same-sex partners.

 

[13788]

dcbulgefreak:

Originally posted by rainsfletcher@May 26 2004, 07:02 AM
In my mind, you don't get into a bed with a guy (under any circumstances) unless you are open to him sexually.

I disagree with this pretty strongly. Sleeping together and sex are two completely different things. You never did a "sleepover" as a kid? I have some pretty fun memories of stuff like that, and there was nothing sexual at all about it. I too only have a one bedroom place, so its my bed with a kickass pillowtop mattress, the sofa or the floor if someone comes over. I've had straight and gay men in bed with me (friends) and absolutely nothing happened. It was not wanted or expected.

Bed does not necessarily equal sex. But you have to do or not do what makes you comfortable.

A little off topic - sorry. ;-)

As far as Dee's situ, I have to agree that this friend might be more curious about exploring the relationship versus cock comparing. I don't really find him not wanting to compare dick sizes to be strange for a straight guy that has no interest in you other than friendship, if that is what he is. The "delicate massage" part makes me wonder.