Never been to a sauna - am I missing out?

[winterangel]

I’m in my early 50s and thinking about going for the first time. Am I on the cusp of an exciting new world or should I give it a miss?

I’m attractive and reasonably fit. In my daddy era, you could say. Interested in younger guys, late 20s onwards. Very private, so that’s a consideration. I guess I don’t want to go if it’s going to be soul destroying.

Any stories to share?

 

[Zhuren]

Your best bet will probably be pay for play. I've never had any luck at those places, and I went several times when I was in my twenties. Much thinner than I am today.

 

[theplayerking]

I’m in my early 50s and thinking about going for the first time. Am I on the cusp of an exciting new world or should I give it a miss?

I’m attractive and reasonably fit. In my daddy era, you could say. Interested in younger guys, late 20s onwards. Very private, so that’s a consideration. I guess I don’t want to go if it’s going to be soul destroying.

Any stories to share?

There are a lot of variables when it comes to saunas. Geography, local culture, time of day, etc., all play a role. They can be great fun or soul crushing depending on the factors cited. Do your research before you go. Make sure you’ve chosen the right venue with the right demographic on the right day to maximize your potential experience and enjoyment. You should also try them a few times before you decide if they’re right for you or not.

 

[yatri]

I started going 3 years ago. My boundary is set. I get turned on seeing the guys walking freely exposing their front. Sometimes, I have admired them and they thanked. This is in my own building so not much to expect too.
Afterwards, those moments add spice to my masturbation fantasies.

 

[winterangel]

Your best bet will probably be pay for play. I've never had any luck at those places, and I went several times when I was in my twenties. Much thinner than I am today.

Thanks for commenting, that’s indeed my fear. I had friends in my 20s and 30s that went all the time and the whole thing was such a turn off to me. Time changes our perspectives and I am less judgmental now.

Paying for play has its benefits for sure - and costs, in the literal sense! I guess part of me is thinking, am I paying for cheap thrills that I might find at a sauna for free? Maybe my preconceptions have been wrong all along? Or perhaps right…

 

[winterangel]

I started going 3 years ago. My boundary is set. I get turned on seeing the guys walking freely exposing their front. Sometimes, I have admired them and they thanked. This is in my own building so not much to expect too.
Afterwards, those moments add spice to my masturbation fantasies.

Interesting perspective. So you’re not disappointed if you don’t score? I think I would need to be super horny to walk through the door and then need some kind of fulfilment to bring me back a second time. But perhaps I’m thinking about it wrong.

 

[elklindoxxx]

I strrongly suggest that you find a masturbation club. I've been going since my college days. You'll have a great time during their bate sessions. They are always looking for new members, both literally and figuratively. I've picked up a number of guys and had sex with them.

Don't waste too much time thinking about it...go out and enjoy.

 

[Sturdywords]

I’m in my early 50s and thinking about going for the first time. Am I on the cusp of an exciting new world or should I give it a miss?

I’m attractive and reasonably fit. In my daddy era, you could say. Interested in younger guys, late 20s onwards. Very private, so that’s a consideration. I guess I don’t want to go if it’s going to be soul destroying.

Any stories to share?

You will see all types of guys there - younger, older, fit, not so fit... Some of them will be not be interested in you, some of them WILL be.

It is hit and miss, though, you cannot predict how well you will get on. One day you might not get lucky, another day you will hit the jackpot

 

[PedroPascalGlazer]

For me i wish i could but i just can’t. Im really just a bitch with any type of heat

 

[theplayerking]

Interesting perspective. So you’re not disappointed if you don’t score? I think I would need to be super horny to walk through the door and then need some kind of fulfilment to bring me back a second time. But perhaps I’m thinking about it wrong.

You need to analyze why you wanna go and set your expectations accordingly. For example, are you going for sexual release or for the validation of hooking up with hot guys? Are you looking for a one on one situation in a private cabin? One on one sessions with multiple guys? Semi public play in a group where the guys can see you?

If you’re super picky and looking for a one on one with the hottest guy there, you’ll probably be disappointed. On the other hand, if you’re open to different types of interactions with different guys, you can have a lot of fun. Some guys like playing in the dark room area. It’s not my thing because I’m attracted to faces and don’t like playing with guys I can’t see.

Rejection in a sauna is immediate and obvious. If you have a thin skin, it can be depressing. On the other hand, daddies are having a bit of a moment. I’m 51 and get far more attention from guys in their 20s than I ever did when I was in my 20s.

In a sauna, you have a much greater chance of playing with someone out of your league than you would on an app. on the other hand, if you’re only going to play with hot guys 30 years younger than you are, you can easily be disappointed. Sometimes you get lucky, sometimes you don’t. I’d say it’s worth a shot.

 

[winterangel]

You need to analyze why you wanna go and set your expectations accordingly. For example, are you going for sexual release or for the validation of hooking up with hot guys? Are you looking for a one on one situation in a private cabin? One on one sessions with multiple guys? Semi public play in a group where the guys can see you?

If you’re super picky and looking for a one on one with the hottest guy there, you’ll probably be disappointed. On the other hand, if you’re open to different types of interactions with different guys, you can have a lot of fun. Some guys like playing in the dark room area. It’s not my thing because I’m attracted to faces and don’t like playing with guys I can’t see.

Rejection in a sauna is immediate and obvious. If you have a thin skin, it can be depressing. On the other hand, daddies are having a bit of a moment. I’m 51 and get far more attention from guys in their 20s than I ever did when I was in my 20s.

In a sauna, you have a much greater chance of playing with someone out of your league than you would on an app. on the other hand, if you’re only going to play with hot guys 30 years younger than you are, you can easily be disappointed. Sometimes you get lucky, sometimes you don’t. I’d say it’s worth a shot.

Thanks for this detailed response. My interest is purely sexual. It’s an area of gay life I have never explored and I’m wondering if I will like it. I accept that I’m not at my peak any more and regret not playing around more when I was, if I’m quite honest. I was incurably romantic in my youth, now I’m just horny!

I appreciate all the feedback. Like anything new, it’s just the fear of the unknown holding me back. But maybe my daddy era is just around the corner?

 

[theplayerking]

Thanks for this detailed response. My interest is purely sexual. It’s an area of gay life I have never explored and I’m wondering if I will like it. I accept that I’m not at my peak any more and regret not playing around more when I was, if I’m quite honest. I was incurably romantic in my youth, now I’m just horny!

I appreciate all the feedback. Like anything new, it’s just the fear of the unknown holding me back. But maybe my daddy era is just around the corner?

Another tip, 95% of the sex in a sauna is bareback. Be sure you take the necessary precautions before you go because most guys will not be amenable to condoms. Indeed, my primary motivation for going on PrEP years ago was the ability to fuck hot cum dumps that would have otherwise been out of my league at saunas and sex parties. Have fun! Keep an open mind and report back with all the sordid details.

 

[winterangel]

Another tip, 95% of the sex in a sauna is bareback. Be sure you take the necessary precautions before you go because most guys will not be amenable to condoms. Indeed, my primary motivation for going on PrEP years ago was the ability to fuck hot cum dumps that would have otherwise been out of my league at saunas and sex parties. Have fun! Keep an open mind and report back with all the sordid details.

Thanks, I’ll report back! Another factor for me is that I go to bed early and awaken super early. I’m thinking my first visit might be early on a Saturday or Sunday morning, where I imagine the crowd is a hangover from the night before. Is this sauna heaven or hell?

 

[theplayerking]

Thanks, I’ll report back! Another factor for me is that I go to bed early and awaken super early. I’m thinking my first visit might be early on a Saturday or Sunday morning, where I imagine the crowd is a hangover from the night before. Is this sauna heaven or hell?

Saunas are late night places. I wouldn’t recommend going early in the morning.

 

[thongboy]

Don't brand all saunas as good places for scoring. Guys who go for the old-fashioned reason that they want an old-fashioned sauna experience, not sex, don't deserve the aggravation