Never came from oral or a handjob

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I never did really. I needed actual penetration to cum. Once or twice I was incredibly horny that all I needed was a few kinky touches and I was done but that's about it.
 

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We each have our own technique on where and how we hold our cock, how much pressure we apply, when we vary our speed, etc so it is hard for a woman to duplicate what we want at that particular moment.

Let your partner observe your masturbatory technique so she can simulate it with her hand or mouth.

What they ^^^ said.

To me this has a lot to do with how well we communicate to our partners what feels good -- verbally and by demonstration. A good lover watches and listens for pleasure cues, but sometimes we need to lead them down that path. Relaxing and being in the moment is also important.
 

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I have this prob as well. Only came from a blo job once and it literally took over 2 hrs and I had to concentrate hard. But my x wife at the time was determined to get off that way at least once but it had to do alot with me thinking about it helping me along. Usually blojobs are jus good foreplay for me. An handjobs they never feel good when anyone else does em
 

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I hate blowjob's! I actually go limp from them. Handjobs I don't mind but will never get me off. I can blow myself just fine, and jack off no problem, but otherwise I need SEX!
 

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its odd right? blowjobs feel nice but theres never enough pressure.. same with handjobs, the woman doesnt want hurt you so she goes really light. when i cant cum from hj/bj its usually because the girls don't know what theyre doing or im not attracted enough to them. also having sex first then getting head; the difference in pressure between a vagina and a mouth is immense and can result in difficulty achieving orgasm
Sounds like you have been with virgins if they are afraid to apply too much pressure. Also I am wondering about your experience because if a girl is going to light or too hard I instruct her how to change.

Oh yeah if you want pressure, do anal, it makes a pussy seem like the Grand Canyon.
 

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I couldn't imagine not busting a load from a BJ. Maybe the people you've been with just haven't been doing a good enough job? haha
 

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Never came from oral or a handjob! Anyone else ever experience this? Any tips?

I can't offer you any tips on how to cum from them but, rest assured you are not alone, and in this respect normal.

I am not bothered by it in the least. I think of it like a foot fetish; some people like them other think they are gross. We just may not have a bj fetish if you will.

Hope that help.
 

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I tried letting her see my technique. I tried letting her go longer. The blowjobs actually feel out of this world now, but still no luck. *sigh* Oh well.
 

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I could, if the girl was a hulk.

I'll tell her that I don't cum from bj's or hj's unless it's hard and rough.

So nice build up, smooth pace and then the climax where she tries her best to do hard and rough and after 10 seconds her arms hurt.