Never thought being hot could be so difficult

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I am gonna be honest dude I think you have got your standards set too high. You said you are a model, well there are damn few college aged dudes out there who look like models, and even fewer of them who are gay, so you have narrowed down the field considerably.

Back in my college days I was a damn goodlooking dude and I rejected a number of guys I met because they didn't think they were good enough for me. Then one day I realized that that I wasn't gettign laid was because I was a fucking douche. I started chilling with some of those dudes that didn't fit the image of the ideal guy that I had fabricated in my mind from looking at too many Abercrombie and Fitch catalogs and muscle magazines. I soon found out that most were awesome dudes even if they were not jacked, were too skinny, were a little too fat, had acne, wore glasses, or had a small dick. LOL
 

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I am gonna be honest dude I think you have got your standards set too high.

Then one day I realized that that I wasn't gettign laid was because I was a fucking douche. I started chilling with some of those dudes that didn't fit the image of the ideal guy ... I soon found out that most were awesome dudes even if they were not jacked, were too skinny, were a little too fat, had acne, wore glasses, or had a small dick. LOL

amen jeepguy2... personality can definitely change how you feel about somebody physically... you'll end up alone if you don't extend your range. Give people a chance before shooting them down.
 

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amen jeepguy2... personality can definitely change how you feel about somebody physically... you'll end up alone if you don't extend your range. Give people a chance before shooting them down.


I agree, great advice. There are some hot people out there with terrible dispositions... it really does make them less hot. And some people who maybe aren't a "10" whose personality really does make them much more attractive.
 

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Just my 2 cents worth. The harder you look for a relationship the farther away you'll be from finding one. While the first thing we see of another person is their looks, try and find someone with a mind that works. Any relationship that is built on physical attractiveness is doomed. While the sex maybe out of this world, ask yourself what going to build that relationship if you have nothing to talk about the rest of the days ,weeks and months to follow? If it even gets to months!
There's nothing sexier than a person that can get your passions going by stimulating your mind.
My partner and I have been together for 11 years now. Neither one of us are what you would call "models", but Mothers aren't pulling their kids of the street when we go by either. He's the hottest Man in the World to me because of his mind. Sex with him is just as great today as it was the first time 11 years ago.
Take your time, meet people, get to know them and when you least suspect it you'll be head over heels in Love with the right person.
Best of Luck.
 
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OK you all are so right. I've been primarily looking for someone who's hot. I think I've watched too much muscle porn... haha

Here's the question though: How do you find someone's inner beauty when all you can see is their outside?
 

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OK you all are so right. I've been primarily looking for someone who's hot. I think I've watched too much muscle porn... haha

Here's the question though: How do you find someone's inner beauty when all you can see is their outside?

I dont mean to be rude, but is this a serious question? How else do you get to see someone true nature? Speak. Talk to them. Unless im missing something here the only way to see someone inner beauty, and that beauty is in the eye of the beholder ofcourse, is to be around them. See how they treat people, how they speak to people. Just how the treat the world around them. That will tell you, or at least I would hope, many things about the person and hopefully enough to make a decision about how you feel about them and their "inner" beauty. Not sure if that's the answer you were looking for.
 

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OK you all are so right. I've been primarily looking for someone who's hot. I think I've watched too much muscle porn... haha

Here's the question though: How do you find someone's inner beauty when all you can see is their outside?

This is where the art of flirting comes in, ones aptitude for socializing. One must remember there are three avenues for one's self identity:

Alone: how one identifies when alone

Massive Groups: How one identifies in large groups with a single connection (American citizens, pride parade, racial background)

Smaller Groups: How one identifies in personal groups (sport's team, family, club, class mates)

One particular trait of a person can change depending on which avenue it is interacting with. This is why self-identities are so complicated. A person's personality can change drastically when transferring from one atmosphere to another.

A good start is to chill around areas where people tend to feel more relaxed and open for conversation; it will make finding common ground and sparking some kind of connection easier. This requires thought: are people relaxed and open at a dance club, why are they there in the first place? What about a cafe, or an arcade. What kind of people go there, and for what? Take a lot at all the available social avenues around you (research) and consider which ones you might have the best luck with and why.

Sometimes lady luck needs a little nudge in the right direction :tongue:
 

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OK you all are so right. I've been primarily looking for someone who's hot. I think I've watched too much muscle porn... haha

Here's the question though: How do you find someone's inner beauty when all you can see is their outside?



It's really this simple, do you want a significant other or just someone to have some fun with and some hot sex?

If you really want a BF, someone to love who loves you back, then the inner beauty of whoever that person may be will be apparent to you if you spend any time in their company getting to know them as a person rather than checking out their measurements and facial symmetry. :wink: