NateWA: I'm a 21 y/o male, newly married. Both me and my wife are virgins. The problem I am having is that my wife refuses to have sex with me, sure we do other things, but she claims I'm too large and she will not let me hurt her no matter what. After browsing this forum a bit, I realize that I am much larger than most guys, but most of you seem to have very little problem convincing your lovers to try you out and though I myself am unexperienced, I know from reading here that women can accept almost anything injury-free if care is put into how it's done. I feel very bad having been married for a month now and still being a virgin. Any advice would be helpful, thank you.