I was tempted to use the new member pun, but am sure it has been done to death. My girlfriend located this site, and I (we) joined to get a bit of information. Basically the issue is that we are experiencing some difficulty with a number of sex positions unless I make a concerted effort not to penetrate her too deeply. This has almost always been a problem in my life and I have just learnt to be quite slow and gentle. However, my partner (we have eben together for almost two years now) very much likes quite rough sex and the careful approach is not always for her. The problem is that with deep thrusting I am hurting her (which can be quite a shock when it happens - making her cry) and sometimes irritating her cervix to the point where she bleeds a little. This is obviously not good. Obviously the medical solution is penentrate her less deeply, but I wonder if other couples have addressed this problem and found a solution? Problem two is that I love her giving me oral sex, but her jaw aches very quickly when she sucks me. Only two women I have ever slept with have not had this problem (they were naturally adept at cock sucking I think) and so I wonder how women deal with this in order to be comfortable when the penis is bigger than they are used to. Many thanks for nay advice that might emerge.