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    B_mylipswet New Member

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    Here are a few photos of me yes I am not his age but, I have a soldier in the military who is away right now. It's my choice to remain loyal to his honor. No I don't love him for his size although he is big. He's possesive and tells me I am his woman. He will not share me with another. I respect his wishes yet I love him so much I want him to know the difference between real love and simply sex. Only experience can teach someone that so physically I wanted him to try others before me. So he can feel equal to me. I trust him and the intensity of our emotional bond together. I'm confident and secure enough to set him free so why is he still so possessive and angry about any other lover I have had in the past. What should matter is that I remain loyal to him now that I have met him. Other men in the military tease each other about the woman waiting home for there buddies. Perhaps, it gets the best of him. No I don't do it like a porn star while he's away. Give me some help on how to reassure my soldier,I am his alone. I love the posts on here and read them frequently. I would never pose naked for anyone but, him and he removed all his photos posted as a reward to me before he left, I felt It made me uncomfortable. I'm very proud of him but, being public is not what he wants of me. Why should I want it of him? Was I wrong? I took it as an act of love when he removed them. He didn't disagree with it. Well, I'm looking forward to your comments. I appreciate constructive critique. Should I remove my photos as well. Tell me what you think.
     
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    It's honorable to respect his wishes and to stay loyal to him while he's away. I admire women like that. Your beautiful with a nice set on you but you're respectful. Anyway, I always thought that relationships should be reciprocal in action and love, so in fairness you should remove you photos ( although it'll be a great lost to all), but you love him and you want to show him that you are his and his alone. I take it that you've tried that in the past to show that you are faithful to him but he's angry about you having past lovers. The Problem as I see it lies not with you but with him. He needs to trust you more and to remember that we all have a past. The only way Past Lovers can become past lover is if they were Lovers at some time. Can he fault you for looking for love before he came along? I know right now he's away and he needs you love to help him carry him though this time, so try just staying in touch with him. Maybe send him some pictures of yourself a way of Symbolically showing you are his and no one else's. Well I hope what I said helped at all, good Luck!
     
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    Its always a challenge being a lover to someone who is absent and not around. You have to remember that there is a difference between loving some- one and some-one owning you. No one can ever "own" another person. Your military lover boy can not "own' you - he can love you and want you to be his girl etc - and thats all fine - but he can never "own" you.. And that is the same for you too - you can love him and wait for him etc - but you can not "own" him. There has to be mutual respect involved here. You can either be loyal to him and wait for his return or you can go out and flirt around - thats always your choice - just as it is his choice to do the same if he so chooses. If however thats what either of you two do - then there is no mutual trust and respect involved - if you both say you are true to each other. Life, unfortunately, is made up of daily choices we have to make - and one of those choices is whether you are going to be 'true and faithful' or not. Maybe it would be wise to consider an open relationship if he think he is getting too posessive with you. Good luck dear, and lets hope he gets home soon so you can develop a practical relationship together.
     
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    I'd like to that you from the bottom of my heart for your honest advice. About the photos, I have added "Owned by Sean" and "Not for sharing" I simply placed the photos to otherwise remind him what belongs to him. I have in the past removed my photos. It's a form of inviting him to communicate his wishes which I intend on glady obeying should he show any objection. It's a form of taunting his interests that I've learned through experience that works on him. Remember love is hard work. I'm willing to work at it.
     
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    Thankyou for giving your advice on how you see it. Yes, it's a great challenge but, it's a choice we make. I wait because, I want to not because, I have to. First I would like to say that I have never considered him a "boy" and the term "owning" is not to be taken out of context. It's more of a bond between a dominant and submissive lover that they have achieved a point in the relationship where a reassurance is given to a partner that a certain intimacy has peeked to that point. By no means do I want to own him. I want him to have the gift of freedom to choose what he wants. I have a great mutual respect for him as well as I am certain he has for me. However in the military the other men tend to tease one another about how the woman they have (while they are away) are not faithful. I can definately see why a man may doubt a woman's faithfulness. There is enough for a soldier to deal with and his main objective should be to stay alive. As far as him being possessive, while it's an obstacle for many women, I am different, I enjoy it. That's pratical enough for me. Thanks again for your well wishes.
     
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