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So I’m thinking of letting this guy top me and it’s not something I do regularly. It’s been about 5 years and have only bottomed successfully once with a smaller dick dude fully entering me and he actually made me cum.

What should I do to prepare myself for this?
 

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If you’re worried about being able to take it, I’d recommend using toys on yourself. If you’ve bottomed successfully before, then hopefully it’s just a question of getting your hole used to the sensation. That’ll usually get your ass to stop cramping up, or at least it’ll keep the cramps to a manageable level.

In my case, my hole tends to cramp up at first, but it loosens up after a minute or two. So by using a toy beforehand, I can get that initial cramping over with, so I’m ready to go when it counts. But everybody’s body is different, so see what works for you!

In terms of cleanliness, I usually recommend keeping it simple. A high-fiber diet can usually keep your ass nice and clean. Then just go to the bathroom about an hour before showtime, and take a shower. That way your ass is clean inside and out, and it’ll be ready to take it like a champ!
 

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There are a bunch of threads in this section covering a lot of great details on how to use progressively larger butt plugs to make yourself more pliable if you're concerned about too much girth. The tips boil down to:

1. go slow.
2. use more lube than you think you need, then add more
3. if it hurts, stop
4. the bottom should be in control of the speed of entry and speed of pounding; tops who aren't being sensitive to the bottom's pain/pleasure are bad tops who don't deserve your ass

Also lots of tips about getting clean, but no more simple and concise than: How to Clean Your Ass Before Anal Sex
 

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Practice practice practice. That’s the best thing you can do to start. Use a dildo or something to practice with. By doing this first, you can quickly figure out what you like and what you don’t, how much lube is necessary, and what positions feel best

It’s not recommended to just jump into it with no real concept about what you’re getting into. Like the posts above suggested, use more lube than what you think you need. Sex should feel good, it shouldn’t feel painful. Communication is key. If something doesn’t feel right make sure you express that. Sometimes it takes a few tries to get it to feel just right for you. Like the previous post says, YOU are in control of how things play out. If your top gets annoyed with you then tell them the door is right there.

In terms of cleanliness, I’m pretty picky and prefer to be as clean as possible but I refuse to douche. It just scares me lol. So a clean diet high in fibre and a wash in the shower has worked best for me. But everyone is different! Good luck :)
 

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All of the above plus start on top so you can control the initial phase of penetration.

Communication is key. Let him know when to slow down and when you are ready for him to put the hammer down.
 
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Practice practice practice. That’s the best thing you can do to start. Use a dildo or something to practice with. By doing this first, you can quickly figure out what you like and what you don’t, how much lube is necessary, and what positions feel best

It’s not recommended to just jump into it with no real concept about what you’re getting into. Like the posts above suggested, use more lube than what you think you need. Sex should feel good, it shouldn’t feel painful. Communication is key. If something doesn’t feel right make sure you express that. Sometimes it takes a few tries to get it to feel just right for you. Like the previous post says, YOU are in control of how things play out. If your top gets annoyed with you then tell them the door is right there.

In terms of cleanliness, I’m pretty picky and prefer to be as clean as possible but I refuse to douche. It just scares me lol. So a clean diet high in fibre and a wash in the shower has worked best for me. But everyone is different! Good luck :)
just curious, how you can be sure that you are clean inside only by washing in the shower?
 

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just curious, how you can be sure that you are clean inside only by washing in the shower?
That’s where a good diet makes all the difference. If you eat a lot of fiber, it’ll essentially clean out your insides. You just have to go the bathroom before getting in the shower: that way you get clean inside and out.

I’ve always felt a good diet is more reliable than douching. Some people swear by douching, and I get it, but it does risk making a mess in its own right and/or irritating your insides. So to me, natural healthy eating is the way to go!
 

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All of the above plus start on top so you can control the initial phase of penetration.

Communication is key. Let him know when to slow down and when you are ready for him to put the hammer down.
I agree with this 100%. It lets them go at their own pace and will take more when they are ready. Once they are opened up this way, it is usually very easy to fuck them anyway they or you want. It is getting that initial "pop" over with and once that's taken care of, he should be ready for just about everything else unless the top is very long. If they are very long different positions feel better than other positions. Don't be afraid to say can we shift to another position, this one hurts, etc. Lube. Lube. Etc.
 

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I personally like silicone lube. If not that then coconut oil. they feel the longest lasting and they seem to be more like a protective membrane covering your rectal walls than a water-based lube or a less viscous oil like olive oil.

I prefer loosening myself up and lubing myself up with a toy before the top comes over. I don't trust the patience of tops so I like to make sure I've readied myself. Beyond that, if it hurts when he first enters you, take a break for a minute then try again and then you should be able to take it. Asses loosen up quickly when called upon.
 

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Thanks everyone for all the advice. I think I’m still far away from actually doing it yet. I’m gonna have to “size up” a guy well and get a good sense of the type of lover they are before I let someone up there. It definitely won’t be a rando quick fuckboy lol.
Sucks though just got back with my dude who I suck off occasionally. I love his cock but he’s a hung 9in dude and I am no way ready for all that. But he’s submissive and let’s me play with his cock however I want. I sat on his lap and let his cock slide between my cheeks and it felt sooooo good.
 

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Thanks everyone for all the advice. I think I’m still far away from actually doing it yet. I’m gonna have to “size up” a guy well and get a good sense of the type of lover they are before I let someone up there. It definitely won’t be a rando quick fuckboy lol.
Sucks though just got back with my dude who I suck off occasionally. I love his cock but he’s a hung 9in dude and I am no way ready for all that. But he’s submissive and let’s me play with his cock however I want. I sat on his lap and let his cock slide between my cheeks and it felt sooooo good.
Sitting on a guy's dick while he's laying down is actually a good way to start, though, because you have a lot of control that way, you can ease yourself down on him instead of trusting his patience.
 

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Sitting on a guy's dick while he's laying down is actually a good way to start, though, because you have a lot of control that way, you can ease yourself down on him instead of trusting his patience.
I thought so. I asked him awhile back if he’s wanting anal and he said nah (I think he has a open agreement with his partner. But im willing to broach the subject again. Or just seeing how far he lets me run that long fat cock between my cheeks and along my hole.
 
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