New era of male sexuality?

Discussion in 'Relationships, Discrimination, and Jealousy' started by B_henry miller, May 12, 2011.

  1. B_henry miller

    B_henry miller New Member

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    I read an article a while ago that said the Internet is allowing males to explore their bisexuality. I see this all the time on this forum. You have tons of examples of "straight" men complimenting other "straight" men, not just complimeting, but complimenting their penises. You don't see this off-line very often. Of course, the initial reaction is to think that these guys are perhaps not as "straight" as they say the are. But then, who's to say?

    I suppose the point I'm getting to is that lately I just feel a real change in males in general. More openness in the willingness to express admiration for other males.
     
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    Do you have a link to the article? That might be interesting. I have a hunch that what you say could be true about the internet (anonymity) and about Gen Y in general.
     
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    I totally agree.

    I think the lines between straight and gay are blurring - in both directions.

    Straight guys are getting turned on by big internet dicks and then get curious about how men interact together and start considering themselves in the scenario while gays guys watch straight and bi porn for the cocks but end up looking at the minges too and ultimately eventually start to be turned on by just minges.

    But...

    I think straight guys going gayer and gay guys getting straighter is mainly entirely anonymous and beyond arranging nameless hook-ups and cottaging/dogging etc remains in the mind.

    Next step is to get everyone acting out on their urges!
     
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    For me personally, the "New Era" of Men's Sexuality isn't about bisexuality but instead is about men (and me personally) learning how to fuck very well. There is a ton of info out there (not to mention all the porn videos) to learn multiple ways of fucking a woman's brains out
     
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    I don't have a link to the article. It was years ago. But I think it's true what you say about Gen Y. I am around a lot of guys in their early 20s these days, and they seem so much more comfortable and open than guys from my generation did. In my era, they would've been labeled "bicurious" by the way they act. But this younger generation seems to go beyond that. I'm really proud of them, actually.
     
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    Whatever it's "about," there is just a sense of open-ness that wasn't present when I was younger. I like it. I admire it.
     
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    I think that there are also effects of women's sexual liberation on men's sexual liberation. The general dismantling of strict sexual monogamy is allowing men to realise many things about themselves and their partners.
     
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    There isn't anything new, merely someone new. The only thing the internet has truly changed is that now people can be more aware of what others are doing and they have greater access to others. Glory holes, park cruising, etc, have largely moved on line and often happen on message boards where others can read about it.

    Guys fooling around with each other has been happening since there have been guys to fool around with.

    EDIT: Culture and location also influence sexuality. But, wherever you are there is a pretty good chance that two people of the same gender are screwing around with each other.
     
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    fascinating. so, "straight" guys have been glory-hole-ing each other since the dawn of time? interesting. lol
     
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    I'm gay and haven't moved one iota to the straight side with the plethora of straight porn on the internet and straight hook up sites. In fact I think I've become gayer...if that is possible, lol.

    My gut feeling is that is the same for straight guys. Their innate sexuality is intensified and does not drift towards gay sex by seeing a bunch of big dicks on the web.
     
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    Wait! How does this sudden "comfort" with sexuality mesh with the tragic-comic lockerroom behavior which generates so many threads and posts elsewhere?


     
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    I'd agree with Earllogjam. I'd say it's even more true on this site. I've noticed that some of the straight guys on here are straight with a tinge of rabid homophobia. "NO WAY I'M GAY, JOSE." Like being gay is really a negative thing. Also check out this lovely discussion. Not only homophobic but rapists as well.

    http://www.lpsg.org/245933-questions-for-men-with-the.html
     
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    Meh, it won't last. It's what happens after decades, maybe even centuries of sexual repression. Suddenly there's a medium that allows you to explore every inch of your sexuality with someone else, with minimal or no repercussions and people jump it. But it'll probably calm down a little in a few years once the 'newness' of it al wears off and people will probably be a bit more repressed again, or likely won't even feel that much of an urge to explore all of their sexuality anymore because 'the big change' already took place by then.

    I base this on very little except for my belief that pretty much everything in culture is cyclical and an opposite response to what happened before.

    And there's a bit of a backlash too. While it used to be the straight people who refused to accept homosexuality, judging from this forum, there's a growing number of homosexuals who seem to refuse to accept heterosexuality.
     
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    Sexuality, and the labels western society place on it, do more around over time. Just a little internet searching will reveal that same-sex relations have been around as long as recorded history...whether with sailors in the 1800s, Turks in the 1500s, Romans in the 500s, Greeks in the 400s BC...etc etc
     
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    True, but there are a lot of guys who would never be caught dead in a cruisy park, bathroom with glory holes, or an adult video store out of fear of beign busted for lewd bahavior who go online and hook up. In the pre internet days they peobably woudl have never experimented with homosexual sex.
     
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    Which has little to do with the point. Them happening is one thing, them happening as widely as they are at present, in our society is another.

    I've said '...maybe even centuries of sexual repression'. Your most recent example aside (sailors, but that one doesn't apply because sailors at sea for months/years don't realy take part of society at that time -- you think society was agreeable with sailors banging each other?), all of those examples are at least, a few centuries old.
     
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    Hmm, interesting. If we were just talking about the apparent behavioural change in Gen Y, I might agree with you that a future generation might reverse the trend. However I believe that the spread of the internet is not part of a cycle but is a fundamental cultural change as well as a technological tool that enables fairly easy intimacy between people who wouldn't otherwise get the opportunity to find each other in safety and a degree of anonymity. So I wouldn't say it's an irreversible change, but I think it's here to stay.

    The backlash idea is interesting too. I'm noticing it on this site. In the past, I've heard it at gay parties and bars, but those bitchy comments were usually out of earshot of their straight targets. It used to just happen when a gay guy is jealous of, or lusting after, a straight guy. But now we have the internet, these same ignorant people can direct their comments where straight guys will read them. It seems like a backlash, because it's not accepting of the straight guy's heterosexuality, but I don't think it's new, I think it's just more exposed and it's really just the same old rudeness, and dumb ignorance. (There's no excuse for this, but some gays who have been bullied or discriminated against may feel the need to act out this way).

    In my own experience, I've had great times with straight friends by not trying to deny their heterosexual nature. This makes for a better friendship, greater trust and sometimes a little intimacy.
     
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    I gave a selection of examples...some have been widely accepted in society such as the Greeks and others I have not mentioned such as the American Indians (didn't they think people who had traits of both men and women were enlightened?). My premise is that any societal concept of sexuality is fluid and changes through time, which is similar to your belief that "pretty much everything in culture is cyclical and an opposite response to what happened before" but different in that I don't think societies necessarily cycle back to previous positions entirely...many concepts are progressed over time such as the acceptance of interracial marriage, the rights of women, or recognition of the concept of adolescence...which wasn't even a concept until 1904 but is now mainstream. As we progress, we learn new perspectives about human nature, and things once considered taboo become acceptable.
     
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    I've often been disappointed by the behaviour of individuals who had been discriminated against. It seems that as soon as they're accepted, they quite often turn around and find some other group to discriminate against.
     
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