New era of male sexuality?

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AussieOne, I'm most impressed that you've quoted Gore Vidal. I like the quote and agree with it in spirit if not in practice, since for practical purposes people have chosen to recognise/organise themselves as members of one group or another.

That's not the end of the world either, as long as we continue to respect and communicate with each other, which is why I enjoy LSPG.
 

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I read an article a while ago that said the Internet is allowing males to explore their bisexuality. I see this all the time on this forum. You have tons of examples of "straight" men complimenting other "straight" men, not just complimeting, but complimenting their penises. You don't see this off-line very often. Of course, the initial reaction is to think that these guys are perhaps not as "straight" as they say the are. But then, who's to say?

I suppose the point I'm getting to is that lately I just feel a real change in males in general. More openness in the willingness to express admiration for other males.


Yes, there is a lot of healthy natural exploring going on again:

 

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I think the internet has allowed people to explore their sexual preferences in a different way, a way they feel safe doing so, and above all, to realise they are not alone.
 
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I think the internet has allowed people to explore their sexual preferences in a different way, a way they feel safe doing so, and above all, to realise they are not alone.

Given the dizzying array of previously-unthinkable fetish and sub-fetish genres, I will have to agree with you.


 

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Even though guys may be more inquisitive or curious about sexuality in general, I still feel the typical homophobic sexist attitudes haven't change much in the male population except in the larger cities of the USA. This is true on this site which to me is reflective of men's attitudes. When I first discovered LPSG, it was a much more accepting place. It seems more polarized now. Not sure exactly why though.
 

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I think it's just because this forum has grown so much.


That could be, HenryMiller. But it seems to me the newest bunch of males on here are more aggressive in their style of communication and trying to make points rather than actually discussing topics out of personal experience. I've also noticed that the "relationships" forum is rift with more argumentative threads.
 

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..... it it seems to me the newest bunch of males on here are more aggressive in their style of communication and trying to make points rather than actually discussing topics out of personal experience.

I think this is very true, Jon.
There's an upside: I think the board is much less tolerant of nonsense.
At the same time, less happily, simple difference of opinion is less tolerated as well.
 

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I think this is very true, Jon.
There's an upside: I think the board is much less tolerant of nonsense.
At the same time, less happily, simple difference of opinion is less tolerated as well.


I would add that personal messages are also less tolerant in that recently I've been getting some that are close to abusive. I think some guys enjoy seeing what they can get away with. To me it's another negative male trait. Disagreement is one thing. Harassment is something else. How I deal with abusive messages is to ask people not to send them. I think that IRL these guys would be dangerous. So that's why I'm not sure about the new era of male sexuality. But then again the guys who come to this site are not necessarily a true sample.
 

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I think that IRL these guys would be dangerous. So that's why I'm not sure about the new era of male sexuality. But then again the guys who come to this site are not necessarily a true sample.
I think there certainly is more openness about sexuality in men now if we can use this board as an example. I don't think that necessarily changes some men's habit of communicating in an aggressive manner. It's unfortunate that you have been the object of some of this Jon.

I first joined a BBS (a gay one) in the early 90's. I noticed that when people first get a voice online they can be very strident and obnoxious, literally and figuratively SHOUTING because they don't understand the power of the medium to affect and influence people. [And because they don't know how to use the CAPS LOCK KEY!] This behaviour usually improves once their actions have been explained to them.

I think that in a similar manner, when self-identified straight men first stumble into a forum where they have an un-censored conversation/confrontation with people of other sexual orientations [a lot of straight people don't realise that they know any gay people IRL for example] they behave defensively or obnoxiously because they are unsophisticated and don't know the right way to talk about sex with people who don't share the same orientation/bias/prejudices. I'm hopeful that by having the conversation, if it lasts long enough, they might also learn, over time, to moderate their tone if not their POV.

So I agree that the growth of the forum [lots of newbies] would influence the tone of the discussions and introduce a lot of awkwardness or ignorance where the board might previously have been used by a smaller group of "cognoscenti", so to speak. If this kind of forum is doing it's job, and if the internet can help bring about a new era of male sexuality, then I think it's a good thing.
 
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I think there's a double standard for guys. Around their girlfriends and other women friends they usually say all the politically correct things but with each other they let loose and expose their real feelings. I'm not sure if this is what the OP was getting at or not. I do think though that the guys I know are honest about sexuality and can express themselves well. But there's always that area of their fear of intimacy which creates confusion and anger. Guys also are afraid of getting emasculated by girls. Those things don't seem to have changed with time or a new era of male sexuality. As far as str8 guys complimenting other guys about their looks or their cocks, I agree with you. They're less intimidated by that. But I'm not sure about guys in conservative parts of the US.
 
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Very interesting discussion here. Funny how my original answer evolved as I read all the previous postings, but there's so much to agree with here. I believe sexuality to be a fluid process like most of our thoughts are, so I think the Gore Vidal quote is quite fitting.

I know that I've been able to see things, mention things online that I have never had opportunities to see or say in real life, so it's definitely safe to say that the Internet's provided a generally safe forum to explore your own ideas and even get more externally. The ability to do all this without being ostracized or without having to know where other people stand before you say/do something that goes past the labels we put on ourselves is a powerful influence.

When you can think and express your thoughts without the overbearing societal pressures of what everybody around you is saying or allegedly believes in opposition, amazing things happen.
 

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Very interesting discussion here. Funny how my original answer evolved as I read all the previous postings, but there's so much to agree with here. I believe sexuality to be a fluid process like most of our thoughts are, so I think the Gore Vidal quote is quite fitting.

I know that I've been able to see things, mention things online that I have never had opportunities to see or say in real life, so it's definitely safe to say that the Internet's provided a generally safe forum to explore your own ideas and even get more externally. The ability to do all this without being ostracized or without having to know where other people stand before you say/do something that goes past the labels we put on ourselves is a powerful influence.

When you can think and express your thoughts without the overbearing societal pressures of what everybody around you is saying or allegedly believes in opposition, amazing things happen.
Hmm, yeah. That's what I'm talkin' about! Thanks for your contribution and your bravery and openness to "express yourself... don't repress yourself" [Madonna].
 

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I don't think there is any "new era". Some men naturally incline towards bisexuality, its now more socially acceptable, but I don't see a bluring of the lines. Of course, if you move in certain circles it may come across like this...
 

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i think one thing that has been over looked here is how guys have become desensitized to other guys, mostly due to the accessibility of porn thanks to the internet. i think its less about bisexuality and more about curiousity. when i was younger, if you were able to see a playboy it was the holy grail, or if you were one of the chosen few a hustler or club. now you can see pretty much anything and everything. any straight guy who watches enough porn has to become used to seeing other dude's schlongs or i dont know how you get through it. people now push that taboo further, and i think the natural progression with anything taboo like that, there is going to be curiousity. its not just sex either... how many people have gotten immune to seeing people killed on tv? i dont mean tv violence i mean actual deaths. now people go to internet sites and watch and laugh at it.

i also agree with whoever mentioned the double standard for guys... girls can compliment each others body, see each other naked,etc and its totally normal. if guys do this its turned into them being gay or bi.
 

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Excellent post.

I honestly don't believe that there is such a thing as 100% straight (i.e. 100% heterosexual) anyway. I believe that's more of a front put on by men and women, rather than actual true feelings. It just doesn't make sense to me that a person would 'only' be attracted to something that's the complete opposite of them and not be attracted in the slightest to something that is very similar to them.

Being bisexual myself, I can see attractiveness in both men and women. I believe that sexuality is like a slider scale. Some people are closer to straight or gay, but they aren't completely one or the other. Also, some sex acts (both hetero and homosexual) are appealing to people and others are not.

Just my opinion of course... :wink:
 

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i agree 100%
i never thought about guys, well basically just their dicks, like i do since i have been browsing amateur sex sites the past few years, i never was one of those guys that was scared of another dick , but didnt take much notice, now i actually get turned on by them. i love seeing big thick dicks in porn, or even catching glimpse in a locker room, they definiatly turn me on
 

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i also agree with whoever mentioned the double standard for guys... girls can compliment each others body, see each other naked,etc and its totally normal. if guys do this its turned into them being gay or bi.
Double standards exist in all fascets of life and have since the onset of civilized society. I seriously doubt there will come a time when gender blindness in regards to what is expected of a person will actually exists.


But then again. Why would you want to? That would be so bland.