New guy, does he have a big dick, and when is too soon for birthday head?

[BigJR]

Sounds like you need a reality check Southerngirl

1st 278 is just as bad as 300, and where I'm from you should be happy to get any attention at all from guys, not be picky about the size of their dicks.

2nd I'm glad to see you're ok with only 8 inches, maybe if you lost some weight guys would be able to penetrate you a deaper.

...........shaking my head

 

[dolfette]

you are over 300 pounds? be thankful you met a nice guy at all. i know a lot of girls your size who have no one. actually, scratch that. i don't know any girls your size. the ones i know who are closing in on two thirds of your size generally have no one

Sounds like you need a reality check Southerngirl

1st 278 is just as bad as 300, and where I'm from you should be happy to get any attention at all from guys, not be picky about the size of their dicks.

2nd I'm glad to see you're ok with only 8 inches, maybe if you lost some weight guys would be able to penetrate you a deaper.

...........shaking my head

what arseholes you two are.

unlike dick size, her arse size was evident from the first moment they met. if they didn't dig it then they wouldn't be there. YOU not liking big girls doesn't mean nobody does...you've never heard of chubby chasers? or bbw porn? she might be physical perfection to him.

and she might be big and she might ask dumb questions, but she's a hell of a lot more attractive than you two. ugly goes right to the core.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Oh, I see the 'cause she's chubby she has to settle' brigade has arrived.

Right on time, too.

"Be grateful for what sexual attention you get" - what a steaming pile of shite.

I'm glad you know you'd don't have to settle, SG. :smile:

 

[wallyj84]

Oh, I see the 'cause she's chubby she has to settle' brigade has arrived.

Right on time, too.

"Be grateful for what sexual attention you get" - what a steaming pile of shite.

I'm glad you know you'd don't have to settle, SG. :smile:

what arseholes you two are.

unlike dick size, her arse size was evident from the first moment they met. if they didn't dig it then they wouldn't be there. YOU not liking big girls doesn't mean nobody does...you've never heard of chubby chasers? or bbw porn? she might be physical perfection to him.

and she might be big and she might ask dumb questions, but she's a hell of a lot more attractive than you two. ugly goes right to the core.

If there wasn't truth to what these guys are saying, then you wouldn't constantly hear fat women complain about how hard it is to get a date. What these guys are saying is the truth. It might not be pretty, but it's how the world works.

Sure, there are some men who are attracted to fat women, but they are few and far between. Most men aren't attracted to overweight women. That's just a fact.

Outside of those few men who are chubby chasers, most of the men who date fat women are men who are defective in some manner and can't attract a pretty woman, so they settle for a fat woman.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

For starters I know lots (and I mean LOTS) of pretty women who are also overweight. Being overweight does not stop a person (male or female) from being pretty (or hansom, if you prefer that term for men). It may well stop you from being attracted, or as attracted, to a woman, but it doesn't stop her being pretty.

Secondly, and going back to what I actually said, just because a woman is overweight does not mean she has to settle. No one has to 'settle' - not one of us should be with a person we are not attracted to or who treats us badly.

I agree that less men hold an overweight woman as their ideal but that it not what I am talking about. If SG only finds men over 6' tall attractive should she date a 5'5 guy just because he finds her big ass beautiful? No. If that 5'5 man only finds tall, full figured women attractive should he date a scrawny, 4'9 women because she finds his short ass cute? No.

We like what we like - just because you make a value judgement that puts her lower in your pecking order it doesn't mean she should lower her own sense of what she is worth. You don't get to decide that.

 

[wallyj84]

For starters I know lots (and I mean LOTS) of pretty women who are also overweight. Being overweight does not stop a person (male or female) from being pretty (or hansom, if you prefer that term for men). It may well stop you from being attracted, or as attracted, to a woman, but it doesn't stop her being pretty.

I think that depends on your definition of pretty. Being overweight limits how attractive a man or woman can be. I would argue that being overweight prevents anyone from ever looking better than average.

Secondly, and going back to what I actually said, just because a woman is overweight does not mean she has to settle. No one has to 'settle' - not one of us should be with a person we are not attracted to or who treats us badly.

I agree that less men hold an overweight woman as their ideal but that it not what I am talking about. If SG only finds men over 6' tall attractive should she date a 5'5 guy just because he finds her big ass beautiful? No. If that 5'5 man only finds tall, full figured women attractive should he date a scrawny, 4'9 women because she finds his short ass cute? No.

If someone's chances of getting the kind of person that they're attracted to is very low, then they should settle.

Now, I don't think anyone should be in a relationship with someone who treats them bad, but I think a lot of people, probably most, are in relationships with partners they would never date if they were able to get the person of their dreams.

We like what we like - just because you make a value judgement that puts her lower in your pecking order it doesn't mean she should lower her own sense of what she is worth. You don't get to decide that.

I'm not deciding anything. Society has decided that fat people have less worth than skinny people. That's just the way things are.

 

[dolfette]

chubby people who bitch & whine about never getting dates...perhaps more to do with unattractive self loathing, bitching and whining than the size of their butts.

in our society you don't get as many confident people who are overweight, because of the message that fat = ugly. and we all know that confidence is attractive.

i know big girls who are never short of male attention. they ooze confidence, charm and sex appeal. it's enticing.

 

[ManlyBanisters]

I think that depends on your definition of pretty. Being overweight limits how attractive a man or woman can be. I would argue that being overweight prevents anyone from ever looking better than average.

Perhaps we are talking about two different things when we say 'pretty'. There are many people in the world who I can say are pretty or hansom but I have absolutely no level of attraction to. I'll start with the obvious, my sister is pretty, but I don't find her at all attractive. Other people do. I hope a member of this forum I've met doesn't mind me using him as an example, but exwhyzee is a hansom (and charming) man, but I'm not at all attracted to him. Other people are. On the other end of that spectrum, Benito del Toro is not hansom but I find him physically attractive nonetheless.

'Pretty' and 'attractive' operate on different and unrelated scales for me - perhaps you are different. But remember - just because you don't find someone attractive doesn't mean they are not attractive to others.

If someone's chances of getting the kind of person that they're attracted to is very low, then they should settle.

No - they shouldn't. I think we'll just have to agree to disagree on that one.

Now, I don't think anyone should be in a relationship with someone who treats them bad, but I think a lot of people, probably most, are in relationships with partners they would never date if they were able to get the person of their dreams.

That's a sad and sorry way to look at the world. You think most people are settling? Do you really think that most people would throw over who they are with if a Kate Beckinsale or a Johnny Depp* gave them the nod? Good grief - there is so much more to life than being generically attractive.

* I picked those two because Esquire and People (resp.) voted them sexist woman / man in 2009.

I'm not deciding anything. Society has decided that fat people have less worth than skinny people. That's just the way things are.

I'm going to take it that you meant less worth in the arena of physical attractiveness only - I hope I'm right.

What society dictates is generically attractive and what people actually find attractive are two very different things - always have been. And what society says is attractive changes from era to era. You may still be at the stage where you let that influence you and guide your desires. I'm not.

 

[wallyj84]

chubby people who bitch & whine about never getting dates...perhaps more to do with unattractive self loathing, bitching and whining than the size of their butts.

in our society you don't get as many confident people who are overweight, because of the message that fat = ugly. and we all know that confidence is attractive.

i know big girls who are never short of male attention. they ooze confidence, charm and sex appeal. it's enticing.

Those people are whiny because they know they are unnatractive.

Those people who you know that are confident just home in those few men who find fat women attractive.

 

[dolfette]

Those people are whiny because they know they are unnatractive.

Those people who you know that are confident just home in those few men who find fat women attractive.

i would argue with you over this but, no offence, you've a view of the world that's been twisted by bitterness and self loathing.

 

[wallyj84]

Perhaps we are talking about two different things when we say 'pretty'. There are many people in the world who I can say are pretty or hansom but I have absolutely no level of attraction to. I'll start with the obvious, my sister is pretty, but I don't find her at all attractive. Other people do. I hope a member of this forum I've met doesn't mind me using him as an example, but exwhyzee is a hansom (and charming) man, but I'm not at all attracted to him. Other people are. On the other end of that spectrum, Benito del Toro is not hansom but I find him physically attractive nonetheless.

I don't differentiate. If a woman is pretty, she's attractive. That's it.

'Pretty' and 'attractive' operate on different and unrelated scales for me - perhaps you are different. But remember - just because you don't find someone attractive doesn't mean they are not attractive to others.

I didn't say that no one else would find them attractive. I admitted as much that there are chubby chasers and all of that. All I'm saying is that chubby chasers and men who find fat women attractive are an extremely small percentage of the population and much smaller than the total number of fat women.

In other words, the majority of fat women will never be with a man who truly finds them physically attractive and isn't just settling for the first woman willing to give them a lay.

That's a sad and sorry way to look at the world. You think most people are settling? Do you really think that most people would throw over who they are with if a Kate Beckinsale or a Johnny Depp* gave them the nod? Good grief - there is so much more to life than being generically attractive.

I think that most people if given the choice between whoever they're with now and someone who was their dream partner, would dump their current partner in a second. I think it's naive to think otherwise.

What society dictates is generically attractive and what people actually find attractive are two very different things - always have been. And what society says is attractive changes from era to era. You may still be at the stage where you let that influence you and guide your desires. I'm not.

I agree that there is sometimes a difference between what society deems attractive and what really is attractive. Super thin models are an example of this.

But, yet and still there is some general consensus between people about what is attractive and what isn't. That's just a fact.

 

[wallyj84]

i would argue with you over this but, no offence, you've a view of the world that's been twisted by bitterness and self loathing.

It hasn't twisted anything, only given me a proper view of humanity.

 

[nicenycdick]

Although "attractive" may often catch an eye, it is always attitude that gets me.

Always.

 

[SouthernGirl]

Goodmorning y'all, & WTH is going on in this thread?!? LOL!! Some of you guys must not be paying attention but I'm from ALABAMA. Not London, not L.A., not NewYork. There is NO SHORTAGE of men of any color who love big women here. Anyway, ima try to make my move this weekend. We're going to the movies & he wants to take me home to cook him a home cooked meal (mmmmm!).

 

[dolfette]

so what's on the menu?

 

[BigJR]

what arseholes you two are.

unlike dick size, her arse size was evident from the first moment they met. if they didn't dig it then they wouldn't be there. YOU not liking big girls doesn't mean nobody does...you've never heard of chubby chasers? or bbw porn? she might be physical perfection to him.

Yeah, I've heard of chubby chasers, but don't know a single one, which means they probably make up a pretty small percentage of the male population, or at least where I'm from. Which takes me back to my first point that she should be happy to have found a nice guy, not be worried he's not 8".

Also don't get it twisted, there is nothing cool about being 278lbs, I know society has gotten numb to it, and maybe it adds character, but being morbidly obese is a huge risk to you're health, and everyone has to pay!

 

[dolfette]

lots of things are a health risk.
i'm sure she's aware of it.
but one look at the comments in her gallery shows that there are guys who find her attractive.

so this is more a size queen issue?
shame on her for liking satisfying sex!

 

[BigJR]

I get your point dolfette, if there were ever a place for size queens, it would be here, but do you get my point?


I'll give you a hint, (this thread is fucking stupid)

 

[dolfette]

I get your point dolfette, if there were ever a place for size queens, it would be here, but do you get my point?


I'll give you a hint, (this thread is fucking stupid)

true, the thread is fucking stupid.
but it's got nowt to do with her size.

 

[wallyj84]

lots of things are a health risk.
i'm sure she's aware of it.
but one look at the comments in her gallery shows that there are guys who find her attractive.

so this is more a size queen issue?
shame on her for liking satisfying sex!

Hmm, I think I see the disagreement here.

For a man, if you have little dating value, then you're told to lower your expectations. It is innapropriate to have high expectations of a partner if you yourself are worthless in the dating market.

Southerngirl, and no offense to her, has low value because in most dating markets she would be considered by many men a status lower-er. Meaning that in most places, dating SouthernGirl would lead to a loss of status for her boyfriend. Basically, she's the type of woman that you might have sex with, but would feel very ashamed of it and most likely never introduce her to your friends.

So from the male perspective, can't you see why they're reacting this way? This isn't so much about her size or her preference for large dicks, but it's about someone of low dating value saying that they only want someone of high dating value. That's something that many men, find totally ridiculous.