New here, and surprisingly moved by what Ive read

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  1. Skinny Guinea

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    First, let me apologize for what is going to be a very long post here. Read at your own caution and take cigarette breaks if necessary. :)

    I actually found this site while looking over Wikipedia. When I first saw this site, I thought it was a joke. Seriously. I thought this was a spoof. I logged on for a good laugh, and I am just stunnedy by what I have found here. This is really a beautiful forum.

    For me, this has been a very healing forum so far (I've only been reading for about two hours, by the way). My story, in a nutshell, is that I used to have a big penis. I think I developed before a lot of guys my age, and when I was young (about 8-10) I used to brag about my size and sometimes show it off. One time, about six of my friends and I were in the bathroom, and they all asked to see mine. I took it out to show them, but I couldn't get it hard. Still, they were all impressed by how "big" it was.

    Well, something happened later in life. Either the rest of my body caught up with the size of my penis, or my penis just stopped growing, or something. At age 18 I realized that I was no longer big. (I'm 6.5 if anyone is wondering.) And, yes, that hurt. It hurt a lot!

    The other reason this forum has been helpful for me is that my best friend, and I'm so close to him that I consider him my brother, is 10 inches. His size has always played a big part (no pun intended!) in our friendship. I am just fascinated with his size, and it is a combination of reverence and outright hostile envy.

    One thing that has always frustrated me about my best friend is that he isn't more "proud" of his size. For example, he brags about the size of his arms and other things, but not his penis. I once asked him why he doesn't brag about his penis more and why he isn't more "proud" of it, and he has said that it's because he didn't do anything to "earn" it. And he has also given indication now and then that he doesn't like the fact that having a big penis "objectifies" him. None of which I can understand! If I had 10 inches, my god!, I'd be so proud, I'd brag, I'd show it to anyone who wanted to see it.

    But after reading some of the posts on this forum, I am starting to understand my best friend a little better. I've read some posts about guys feeling "exploited" and "degraded" by talk about their size, and I now realize that in some ways I've done this to my best friend, and I am actually almost in tears about it.

    God, us men are so weird about this topic sometimes! I remember watching a standup act by Damon Wayans where he said, "You women have no idea how deep this thing goes with us men!" And he was right. This is fucking religious stuff for us!

    A while ago I said to my best friend that I had finally realized that he is no more of a man than me just because he has a bigger penis, and he said he agrees completely. I suppose I realize this fact on a conscious level, but it hasn't completely sunk in. When I see another guy's penis is bigger than mine, I feel a combination of fascination and rage.

    The best way I can think to describe it is this: I feel a fascination because the penis basically represents what I am -- a man. The penis is the ultimate symbol of what we are as men. So, I have reverence and respect for the penis. And what better represents man than not only a penis, but a big penis? What makes me angry, I guess, is that I wasn't given a bigger "representation" of what we all are. So, when I see a bigger penis, I am proud to see something that represents what I am (and represents it in a "strong" way), but I am jealous that another guy got to be blessed with the representation. It may be the way a woman might feel when she, say, loses a beauty pageant or something. You know, why didn't I get to wear the crown?

    Thanks to anyone who hung in there (no pun intended!) and read this whole thing!
     
  2. Lex

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    Welcome to the board, man. Many here come and stay becasue of the very interesting and honest topics that are discussed. I hope your time here is enjoyable.
     
  3. Skinny Guinea

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    Thanks for the welcome, and thank you for not suggesting I should leave because of my small endowment. (Part of me felt I probably shouldn't post here because of it.)
     
  4. Lex

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    All are wecome here, man.

    It's not the size of the cock in the fuck, it's the size of the fuck in the cock (or something like that...).
     
  5. Skinny Guinea

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    Oh. Thanks. I had no idea. I thought I was going to be asked to leave pretty soon. :)
     
  6. DC_DEEP

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    Welcome, SkinnyGuinea. As Lex said, all are welcome here (usually). Your first post was an excellent, well-thought-out, articulate post, expressing genuine thoughts and concerns. You will find that many on here have average or small penises, or no penis at all (there are several female members).

    That being said, although I'm sure there is interest in your penis, most of us are actually interested in your other sex organ - your brain. Read, post, and enjoy.
     
  7. Knight

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    Welcome too, enjoy your stay Guinea.

    About the masculinity being equal to cock size...while that may be one theory or part of being a man consider this:

    There is a rapist out there with a large penis raping women, being violent with them etc. Now who is the better man...you or the rapist? Just pointing out that it's not all about the size of your cock. There are guys with huge penises who are complete assholes and scumbags. Who don't even deserve to be called human, let alone men. Men are judged by their actions and their character more than their penis size. Penis size doesn't even enter into it, but maybe that's because society is sexually repressed. Maybe one day tombstones will read 'He was a good man, tried to do good by everyone and never had a single enemy. And he was a foot long ;)'

    Perhaps that was a bit extreme but I just wanted to demonstrate a point. Welcome aboard :)
     
  8. hippyscum

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    Fuck no, there's a lot of guys here smaller than you and there's no criteria needed to be a part of this forum. You seem to be an intelligent guy, let's here more from you in the future, so welcome to the board! :hi:
     
  9. GoneA

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    Come in, make yourself comfortable.


    Yet, because of your endowment: You can only make one post a day. And it has to be in the 'Making It Bigger' section.
     
  10. invisibleman

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    Well, Skinny--
    I think that if we didn't have a website dedicated to large penises, men of lesser endowment wouldn't be so quirky about their cock size. Personally, even though there are guys surpassed beyond my cock size, I am very happy with what I have.
    You should be happy with your size. The grass isn't necessarily greener. There is nothing wrong with what God gave you. If He wanted us all to have really big cocks, attractive looks, supermodel bodies, He would've given men all of these things. Like any of these things really mattered in the grand scheme of things. Just be a good soul to the people you're with. I think that counts more. Be a good person. Invisibleman :yourock: :beer:
     
  11. Skinny Guinea

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    Thanks all of you for your welcome aboard.

    I agree with what you all said. I know intellectually that guys with bigger penises are no better than me and are not better men than me and are not more masculine, but I think that emotionally I haven't yet grasped the concept. There is part of me that is fascinated with the concept of having a big penis, and just extremely jealous that there are men out there with bigger penises than me.

    I was reading some other posts on this forum earlier today, and one man noted that this is mostly a male issue. In other words, it's mostly men and not women who are interested in this topic -- and that's why about 98% of the people on this board are male. And then if you look at porn (and I'm talking about the only kind of porn I look at: straight porn), you will see that most of the men in those videos and magazines are at least eight inches, and often up to 10 and beyond (Lexington Steele, etc.), and then remember that straight porn is largely under the control of men (straight men, I assume), then it just points out that I am right in step with most men with being fascinated with size.

    I was reading a book a while ago called "The Male Body" (I'll see if I can find the author), and she wrote that back in anciet Roman times the Roman soldiers would go through conquered cities and post their penis measurements on various buildings, as a king of "I was here" statement -- as a sign of how virile and masculine and "conquering" they were. So, this size fixation goes back millennia.

    I suppose there is still a part of me in shock from the fact that some of you guys with big penises have been anything but thankful for it. What I mean is, I am so shocked to find that some of you have felt singled out, exploited, humiliated, etc., to have big penises. It reminds me of what Howard Stern once said: that he can't understand why black men complain about the stereotype that all black men have big penises. Howard Stern said he'd love people to think he has a big penis. But I'm starting to get it now, thanks to this forum. Actually, it's something that "The Male Body" book mentioned: that often times, men with big penises are degraded and thought of as purely sexual beings without brains; just like women with big boobs. In other words, if you're well endowed then all you're good at (and interested in) is sex. This is something my 10-incher best friend mentioned a while back about himself, and I didn't believe him.

    Anyway, I frankly don't think I'll ever get it through my head that those of you with bigger penises aren't more masculine than me, more "more men" than me. I think that the best I will be able to do is come to terms with the fact that I feel this way, and then just sort of try to not take it too seriously. I mean, I'm proud of what I've got -- even though it ain't much. I hope those of you with big ones are proud too. Be proud for us little guys! (I remember me once telling my best friend that I wish he would be more boastful of what he's got. "You're in the 99 percentile," I said to him in a humorous tone, "You have something most of us men do not have. The least you could do is be a little arrogant about it sometimes.")
     
  12. Freddie53

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    Welcome, I have been a member here and at the small penis forum. It is the small penis forum where they are ugly. Yeah, they asked everyone over 5 inches to leave. I am smaller than you. Did I get any support over there. No. I got a lot of support right here. I had no idea of the problems the big guys have. I was like you and thought if I could have 10 inches that would solve all of life's problems.

    Truth is, you are on the high side of average. If you take all the penis size studies it appears that anything between 5 and 7 inches is considered average. Under five inches in below average. Under 1.7 inches erect is considered not normal and not really functional according to one study I read. Anything over 7 inches is above average. Anything over 9 inches is considered above normal as compared to above average average. Penises 10 inches or more are giants and rare.

    What is much more important is that you are handsome, look young and healthy and have wonderful thinking and writing. You are very blessed. And I would be thrilled to have a 6.5 erect penis. But this forum has taught me that there are much more important things in life and much of that teaching has come from the big guys here. It is ironic, no one has ever been made fun of for being too small. Some have been called down for bragging too much about their size.


    The only reason I have ever seen anyone being ask to leave for is being a troll.

    Welcome to this forum. We have many debates here about most anything. If you can think of it. Someone has mentioned it at sometime or another.

    Hope to get to know you better in the future here on this forum.

    Freddie
     
  13. D_Barbi_Queue

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    Freddie already pointed out what I was about to say....you should never refer to yourself as small. You are certainly on the higher end of average like he said. There is actually just a very small minority that are large (despite what you may think from this site).

    Besides, they still let me here and I'm much smaller than you. Pretty much to the point of non-existent. ;)
     
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    And they NEVER take the fucking Hint (or the hammer). Sigh.
     
  15. Skinny Guinea

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    I feel the same way as your friend. I'll try to explain. I'm proud of accomplishments, not genetic quirks. I worked hard to attain my physique, and I'm proud of the results. I worked hard in school, and I'm proud to have earn my master's degree. I worked hard to learn the English language, and I'm proud to have mastered it. Those are accomplishments. My cock size came to me because of my family's gene pool, and I did nothing to receive it. Yes, I'll be honest and admit that I enjoy being well-hung, but that's gratitude, not pride. There are things about me that reveal more about my strengths and determination than my cock ever could. I think that I'm more than just a big cock. My accomplishments are what I prefer to be known for. Think of it like the lottery: I won the lottery and I'm glad that I did, but I'm not proud of it: the luck of the draw was with me. How I use the money I won will reveal more about the kind of person that I am.
     
  17. Skinny Guinea

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    I feel the same way as your friend. I'll try to explain. I'm proud of accomplishments, not genetic quirks. I worked hard to attain my physique, and I'm proud of the results. I worked hard in school, and I'm proud to have earn my master's degree. I worked hard to learn the English language, and I'm proud to have mastered it. Those are accomplishments. My cock size came to me because of my family's gene pool, and I did nothing to receive it. Yes, I'll be honest and admit that I enjoy being well-hung, but that's gratitude, not pride. There are things about me that reveal more about my strengths and determination than my cock ever could. I think that I'm more than just a big cock. My accomplishments are what I prefer to be known for. Think of it like the lottery: I won the lottery and I'm glad that I did, but I'm not proud of it: the luck of the draw was with me. How I use the money I won will reveal more about the kind of person that I am.
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    I suppose the flipside to this is that I shouldn't feel bad for my average endowment. And yet I do. Sometimes, like when I am getting in and out of the shower, etc., or while changing at the gym or whatever, I catch a glimpse of my penis and my self-esteem just disappears.

    I think that I have a somewhat metaphysical view of the penis size. I suppose that I feel like if I had a bigger penis then I would feel like more of a man.

    But I can now see -- a little bit, at least -- that if you have a big penis and people know about it, then they are likely to only think of you in a sexual way. I think this happened to my friend. I think that as a result of this, he got "under sold" in regard to his intelligence. And, by the way, he's a VERY intelligent man!

    The flipside to this is that it is indeed the case that some guys with bigger penises DO feel superior to us average guys. That's just the case.

    Let's face it: a part of being male is being obsessed with size, having more, being bigger, in whatever way -- who has the bigger house, nicer car, more money, and so it makes sense that we would obsess over the most symbolic part of our bodies in this regard.

    I think that for me, a big part of the self-esteem issue came from the fact that I used to be "big," and then at some point the rest of my body caught up with my penis.
     
  18. GoneA

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    I don't see how having a big penis would solve any problems. And if it did, women would be quite snafued.
     
  19. Skinny Guinea

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    I think I need to take a break from this forum right now because I'm getting kind of cranky.

    No, a big penis isn't going to go get a job and earn cash and put you through law school, obviously.

    Jesus! The thing I said was that I DON'T FEEL LIKE MUCH OF A MAN BECAUSE MY PENIS IS AVERAGE! Women be damned! It isn't about what others think of my penis. It is what I think of MY OWN penis. Is that too hard to grasp?

    Seriously. Off to take a break now .... bye. :hi:
     
  20. Dr Rock

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    didn't we have one of these already this week? you'd think all those sports cars manufacturers were working for their own personal entertainment.
     
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