thanks for all the posts everyone! you all have your own take and i appreciate you taking the time to chime in. i feel that since i've posted here it's been good therapy to share.
to that end, since i've started this, i feel it is helping, especially after having some conversations outside this thread with some of the other ladies. i took their advice and had an open and honest discussion with my husband (nothing as blunt as about "big ones") just normal fantasies. ie. what does he fantasize about, what turns him on and vice versa.
very long story short, he has agreed to watch me be with another guy and vice versa.
to that end, since i've started this, i feel it is helping, especially after having some conversations outside this thread with some of the other ladies. i took their advice and had an open and honest discussion with my husband (nothing as blunt as about "big ones") just normal fantasies. ie. what does he fantasize about, what turns him on and vice versa.
very long story short, he has agreed to watch me be with another guy and vice versa.