Now that the New Jersey govenor has come out to avoid a scandal with his male aid, why do you guys think he did not discribe himself as a Bi male instead of a gay male? The headlines are " I am a gay American" I ask because he is standing there with his wife who I did not see him intending to leave, asking for her forgiveness, and he has two kids. I am a Bi male. Marrried with 4 kids. I don't want to come out but I don't identify myself with the gay world completly. Am I stupid or misguided?