Chalk this up to being a newbie at a number of things, but here goes. I'm 29, recently divorced, could have cheated but tried to be a good guy and didn't in a very frustrating marriage, and then started going with this incredible girl I met through the AFF website 4 months ago. She is my dream sex partner and she has taken me to places I only dreamed about when I was younger. One of those places is that she got me going with her to a weekend swingers party held by a couple she found out about at the website where everyone switches around and just screws the entire weekend. I have to admit I'm really loving this change in my life, but I'm starting to get worried. All this girl and all the others in this group talk about is: how big a cock is, or: how many times can so and so get it up, and stuff like that, and none of the women ever wants to talk about anything else. I asked one of the married women if she and her husband talk about other stuff when they're by themselves, and all she did was laugh and told me to just enjoy what I was getting while I could. Because of what I know about myself and what I went through in my marriage, I know if I get married again, which I want to do, it must be with a woman as uninhibited, and demanding and as appreciative as the girl I'm with now, but I know it can't be someone as single-minded as her. I will need a woman with needs like mine, but one who cares about a whole range of things and ideas, and not just how soon I'm going to fuck her again. I just don't know whether women like that exit. Another thing is that one of the other women in the group has told me she wants to start seeing me during the week, and I get the impression there's not a whole lot of loyalty going on with any of the couples. I'm basically having a ball, but am starting to question whether I'm setting myself up for a problem down the road. I'd like to know whether this makes any sense to anybody here and if anyone has any advice.