About a week ago a female friend of mine sent me a text saying she had a cute boy she wanted me to meet. I told her to feel free to give him my phone number. Later that night he gave me a call and we had a nice conversion. We have been texting and talked a few times on the phone. Things are a bit complicated for me right now as I have been dealing with my dieing mother who passed yesterday. So I have been a bit hesitant to talk or chat the last couple of days. He has been fine with that and understands My real concern here is I am 38 years old and never been in a serious relationship (Not that I haven't wanted to) I always fall for the wrong guys. He seems nice and I find him attractive. I just think he may want to take things a bit faster than I am ready for. He left me a voice mail the other night when I was out with friends and in it he said I love you. That scares me as we have never really spent any time together. We met once about 8 years ago and like I said we've been texting for about a week. My other concern is how do we even know if we are sexually compatible. I've never really had to have that conversation with a guy before. I am a total bottom (actually I don't even like anal sex that much at all I much prefer oral sex) and don't know where he stands. How do you deal with this? I don't want to pursue a relationship if we are not gonna be compatible sexually.