New to bottoming. HELP!

[innocent_bystander]

Hey all, I'm practically new to bottoming. I tried it a few times in college and i found it painful so I'm more of a side and sometimes top. But recently something in me changed where i've really been turned on by the idea of a guy completely owning me, with me at the mercy of his cock and being bred like the cum slut i am. I normally love to swallow but i've just had an insatiable urge to be bred.

So now comes the problem. I don't really have the slightest idea of how to train myself to get past the pain. I can take 5 inches, maybe 6 before there's tightness. I'm told this is where the 2nd sphincter is? but when i google, it says it's usually within the first 3 inches. I live in a medium sized town and i'm a fairly shy person so i'm not able to ask my local power bottom. I would love if you guys can recommend helpful resources like websites and videos.

I've already watched some youtube videos like

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and bought beginner level butt plug set, https://a.co/d/7uVtNTX

It was fairly easy to get used to these butt plugs but they seem really unrealistic because they are so thin. However, i absolutely LOVE how this feels as the curve hits my a-spot perfectly. anyways where do i go from there?

my goal is to eventually be able to take a girthy 7 inch, but my dream is to take a 8.5 incher haha

 

[WilliamG]

Find yourself a proper silicone dildo. One that's realistic. Take time to learn what feels good to you. Then you can communicate that down the road when you finally bottom.

As far as size goes... For me girth is the most important factor to consider. Consider getting two. One being a simple very smooth 7" x 1.25" dia that goes in quickly and goes to town. But then I think a 7.5" x 1.75" dia silicone lifelike is the goal. If you can take that easily... 90% of the guys out there will "fit".

 

[deleted32654991]

hot! It takes a little bit of time to comfortably get used to a new size from my experience.
The beginner buttplug set looks great for being comfortable in the beginning but you may want to get a training kit with a little more girth, after that you’d want to see how long you can comfortably keep it in for, edging is fun I like going for 20 minutes with each size up so I can comfortably move on to the next size. I’d also consider getting a comfortable sized dildo around 6 inches and then a dildo the size that you want to take next if your ideal size is 8 I’d buy an 8 inch one after. But just continue training yourself and use a lot of lube until you’re comfortable enough to use the bigger sized dildo.

 

[innocent_bystander]

what kind of lube do you guys use? I see some sites say use water based but that same guy on youtube above said silicon based. what's the difference and does it really matter?

 

[deleted32654991]

what kind of lube do you guys use? I see some sites say use water based but that same guy on youtube above said silicon based. what's the difference and does it really matter?

Water based lube will always be safe to use with sex toys as it won’t damage or cause the toy to become gooey or sticky. It’s generally recommended to use water based lube if you have sensitive skin and if you’re doing toy play with silicone toys. Silicon based lube lasts a lot longer than water based and is a lot more slippery, from my experience silicon lube is also harder to get off of sheets, towels, n such but it is the best for bottoming in my opinion since it doesn’t dry as quickly and you don’t have to worry about reapplying lube. It does matter if you’re doing toy play since you wouldn’t want to accidentally ruin one of your toys.
For lubes I like to use, a good quality water based lube that’s affordable is the lube life anal water based lube or the KY jelly water based.
For silicone I love using Gun oil, it’s very pricey but just a little goes a very long way.

 

[innocent_bystander]

Water based lube will always be safe to use with sex toys as it won’t damage or cause the toy to become gooey or sticky. It’s generally recommended to use water based lube if you have sensitive skin and if you’re doing toy play with silicone toys. Silicon based lube lasts a lot longer than water based and is a lot more slippery, from my experience silicon lube is also harder to get off of sheets, towels, n such but it is the best for bottoming in my opinion since it doesn’t dry as quickly and you don’t have to worry about reapplying lube. It does matter if you’re doing toy play since you wouldn’t want to accidentally ruin one of your toys.
For lubes I like to use, a good quality water based lube that’s affordable is the lube life anal water based lube or the KY jelly water based.
For silicone I love using Gun oil, it’s very pricey but just a little goes a very long way.

thank you so much! some people suggest using a lube applicator . is this really needed with a silicon based lube

 

[deleted32654991]

thank you so much! some people suggest using a lube applicator . is this really needed with a silicon based lube

Tbh for this I haven’t used an applicator myself since I didn’t find it necessary for me, I think it’s a personal preference since it makes it easier to lube yourself up from the inside. It’s not really needed if you take the time to prep yourself with your fingers/toys and make sure you’re wet enough.

 

[innocent_bystander]

i was FINALLY able to make it past my 2nd sphincter. I guess i must have a longer sphinter than most people because the 5 inch butt plug JUST made it through. It was quite a sensation feeling the muscle give way as the butt plug made it through ! haha that must mean i'm longer than most folks..internally

 

[grapette]

Position seems to make a difference in achieving pain free fucking. This one guys used to love me on him in sitting position with his prick in me all the way. He liked to fondle my cock and also jack me to feel cinching on his cock when I ejaculated. His dong was large just over 8 inches but felt comfortable in the position I just described. Also laying on my back works great for taking a fuck with thrusting. Any other position that what was described is painful. What hurts and what doesn't for person getting fucked is no doubt different for each individual.

 

[innocent_bystander]

so i just tried bottoming again last night with the hookup above. He was average size, probably 6, 6.5 and average thickness. it was still quite painful. it felt like my ass was closed down like a vice and i couldn't even get past his head. it also felt like there was more friction than with my butt plug. i used a silicone based lube but i suspect he just didn't put enough on?

i didn't think to try any other position except doggy. Is the sitting position described by grapette above, typically the easiest one to try?

 

[Natennnnate]

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so i just tried bottoming again last night with the hookup above. He was average size, probably 6, 6.5 and average thickness. it was still quite painful. it felt like my ass was closed down like a vice and i couldn't even get past his head. it also felt like there was more friction than with my butt plug. i used a silicone based lube but i suspect he just didn't put enough on?

i didn't think to try any other position except doggy. Is the sitting position described by grapette above, typically the easiest one to try?

Ummm, that’s a big head and not a cock I’d consider average.

If you can’t find an easier cock, try fingers, massaging up your hole, loosening it up. Take your time

 

[innocent_bystander]

Ok someone said eating yogurt helps.. is this an old fags tale?

 

[innocent_bystander]

Fuck yeah i did it! 8 inch dick and fairly thick. the thing that worked for me is the lube injector. I think because i was so tight, my ass basically cleaned off all the lube off his dick so by the time it got to the inner part, there was no lube and just friction. I used a Lube Life lube, which is a water based lube to inject, while my partner used silicon lube.

You don't even need the big injector, just the "small" one is enough
https://a.co/d/buKjPmq

i got bred good

 

[just Erik]

Good job ! It will just get better after that That's a nice size !
Was it bareback?
A couple weeks ago I had a 10" x 2" silicone dildo used on me, I felt full and stretched a little but it was easier than I thought, by that time I was opened up and well dilated.. I swear by Gun Oil lube.

 

[innocent_bystander]

Good job ! It will just get better after that That's a nice size !
Was it bareback?
A couple weeks ago I had a 10" x 2" silicone dildo used on me, I felt full and stretched a little but it was easier than I thought, by that time I was opened up and well dilated.. I swear by Gun Oil lube.

yup! bareback. gun oil is good but it's expensive. i used the water based lube internally because if you use enough of it, it really feels good. plus since it's water based, i don't need to worry about disturbing my ph levels injecting that much gun oil inside

 

[deine_huendin]

Find yourself a proper silicone dildo. One that's realistic. Take time to learn what feels good to you. Then you can communicate that down the road when you finally bottom.

As far as size goes... For me girth is the most important factor to consider. Consider getting two. One being a simple very smooth 7" x 1.25" dia that goes in quickly and goes to town. But then I think a 7.5" x 1.75" dia silicone lifelike is the goal. If you can take that easily... 90% of the guys out there will "fit".

for me 7" x 1.25" dia would not go quickly in and out ;-(

 

[WilliamG]

for me 7" x 1.25" dia would not go quickly in and out ;-(

Have no fear... Work slow. Take your time. Try it when you are relaxed without pressure. A glass of wine (or beverage of choice)... Maybe some herb if that's your jam (it is for me). There are some popular anal cremes that relax and warm the sphincter that can be nice that I started out with. However, do not use numbing agents.

 

[deine_huendin]

Have no fear... Work slow. Take your time. Try it when you are relaxed without pressure. A glass of wine (or beverage of choice)... Maybe some herb if that's your jam (it is for me). There are some popular anal cremes that relax and warm the sphincter that can be nice that I started out with. However, do not use numbing agents.

anal cream that relax but not numbing ? tell me more ;.)

 

[deine_huendin]

anal cream that relax but not numbing ? tell me more ;.)

The problem is: when I do it myself I don't really enjoy it, I hardly dare to do anything bigger, it just doesn't make me horny when I'm alone

 

[WilliamG]

anal cream that relax but not numbing ? tell me more ;.)

Just a Google search away...
Btw, I try not to post links as I have no affiliation with any products.

Doc Johnson Relax - Anal Relaxer for everyone - Warms and Relaxes Muscles for Easier Entry - 2 oz.​