New unknown situation for me

[mexdude]

Well, this is the only forum where i can get quite good advice in this kind
of things, with people quite wise in this topics

I have a female friend, and i met her cousin, she is quite hot, probably
among the top 3 hottest girls ive ever met in person.

I went out with her to a bar and talk with her for like 2 hours or more
well, i liked more than i tought, as rare as it sounds, i just liked her eyes,
the way she looks at you, even talking to her was quite nice.
im not the kind of guy that drools over a hot body, somehow i always
find something special in the women i like.

Today i was told that this girl works as a sex worker
My friend didnt wanted to told me, cause she was kind of ashamed of it

To be honest i kind of suspected that she did that

And i really dont think she is a bad person because of what she does
she is not stealing, or hurting people or anything like that.

Like 2 years ago, 3 girls moved to the house next to mine, and all
the neighbors knew what this girls did for a living, and i did hear
when their pimp beat one of them for something, so i know that its
a dangerous thing to do.

So im still considering trying to date her, despite what i know,
Her family turned their back on her, she does have friend, but they
are only drinking friends, pretty much only my friend, her cousin is the
only one that still tries to support her when she can

So what do yo think?, im i flat out crazy for considering it?

 

[rbkwp]

Think
We all have reasons for doing what we do, often make mistakes & usually grow out of the sillier things taken on board .. be it with age.
Most folk deserve that 2nd chance, if you feel it in your heart, think that will tell you if to pursue her or not.
If it was a guy i think i would pursue him, and be Gung ho about it all, with conditions eventually, if it got into the serious stage
Cheers.

 

[travis1985]

You're right not to judge, because it doesn't necessarily make her a bad person. She probably deserves better than what she's settling for in life. But remember to use your prior experience of hearing what an angry pimp does when you're deciding whether or not you want to put that shiny white armor on. Also consider whether the person you enjoyed spending an evening with was really her or the persona projected by a sex worker who finds herself at a bar talking to a young man. Why not just get to know her as a person for now? The choice of whether to pursue her romantically is not one you have to make at square one.

 

[BruBear]

Just... be a friend to start with. Given that her work invovles sexual things, try and have a platonic (friendly) relationship with her to start with. You'd be surprised how nice it is to just have a normal friend.

 

[mexdude]

You're right not to judge, because it doesn't necessarily make her a bad person. She probably deserves better than what she's settling for in life. But remember to use your prior experience of hearing what an angry pimp does when you're deciding whether or not you want to put that shiny white armor on. Also consider whether the person you enjoyed spending an evening with was really her or the persona projected by a sex worker who finds herself at a bar talking to a young man. Why not just get to know her as a person for now? The choice of whether to pursue her romantically is not one you have to make at square one.

Well, from what ive heard, she doesnt have a pimp, she works by herself.

Yea, im quite sure it was a real evening with her, since im quite close
to her cousin, and my friend was the one that insisted me in meeting her.

Yea i was thinking in first being her friend, then when i get to know her
better, i would decide

 

[rob_just_rob]

im i flat out crazy for considering it?

Yes.

 

[funguy3]

my ex was a ho for a while - really needed money and knew how he could get it. He really regrets it right now, but is glad he was able to get the money so fast. He kind of despises me for not judging and knowing about it and allowing it to continue, but whatcha gonna do.

I'm with the others - you never know the circumstances - there's two sides to every story. I'd recommend a follow-up or two. if nothing else, you had a great night out, right?

 

[mexdude]

if nothing else, you had a great night out, right?

I do find her attractive, but its not like i want to have sex with her
right away, i do want to be her friend first

 

[matelalique]

There appear to be a multiple issues in your original post, and these are decisions that you need to make on your own, and might need to discuss further:

You need to figure out whether you are interested in her romantically, sexually, or because you think she needs friends and you're a nice guy. It's likely some combination, and you don't need to decide immediately.

The more serious concern I have is for your own safety. You mention pimp issues, so you appear to be going in with some knowledge. How do you feel about client issues if a regular client discovers that she has a boyfriend and doesn't like it. You need to be realistic about the actual dangers to your own life by dating this woman.

Take care of yourself - and good luck in this relationship. It sounds risky, but it could also be very reqarding.

 

[B_debonair87]

Don't do it. Do not put on your cape and try to save these hoes.

You can't turn a whore into a lady.

Use your brain.

 

[mexdude]

The more serious concern I have is for your own safety

She doesnt have a pimp, and she is quite sociable, so if she had a client like that, by know she would had issues at the parties she goes with her friends, so im dont worry about that