New woman - NOT looking for cyber or hook up

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  1. LadyJaneGrey

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    OK so I've been reading here a few weeks now and finally decided a profile would make site navigation easier.

    I'm not here to hook up or cyber.

    I'm in a relationship.

    So I'm here to read mainly.

    I've already had private messages and offers and I only registered about half an hour ago.

    Do any of the women here have any advice on how to avoid these offers?

    Or is it just a fact of life here?
     
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    The fact that you are Female automatically draws a certain number of posts. Newbies get lots of attention as well. Some of this attention will 'peter out' (pun intended) with time. Here are a few hints to help you avoid unwanted contacts:

    You might want to consider not answering the gender ? and it will post a ? on your avatar instead of the female.

    Post on your Biography IN ALL CAPS...that will keep many away. Most ppl here respect others' needs for the site. There are those however who do not EVER read the bios....

    another way to get the message across is to delete the messages as they are posted...they will eventually get the hint.

    Finally a third way is to use your "ignore list" for the persistent ones who seem to think that if they keep trying you will eventually talk to them.

    I am here for different reasons...but respect everyone's position here. There's tons of great information on this site. Also some very entertaining stuff, too.

    Many just want to welcome newbies... so appreciate the welcomes. I'll post my welcome here...Enjoy the site.

    Good luck.

    Fancy
     
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    OH! forgot one more thing... (lol) you can change the Privacy on your account and pple can see only what you want them to see...you can make your "visitor messages" private and a person can only contact you through a Private Message. That deters some as well....
     
  4. Kotchanski

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    There is also the option to disable private messaging via the CP link at the top of the page - Under settings & options, edit options.

    It's a little extreme, but if you are really only interested in reading and don't want these PMs, it's the only way to ensure you don't get them.
     
  5. LadyJaneGrey

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    Thank you both.

    I'll go tweak my options.
     
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    I find that responding to 'do u cyber' crap with 'Depends, will you scrape your dick on a cheese grater?' yields superb results.
     
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    Isn't it possible to block people on here? That may halt the persistent buggers.
     
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    HAHAHA!! I spit out my drink after reading that one lol
     
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    Welcome, Lady Jane Grey. I love your icon.
     
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    Lady Jane, don't let any harassment keep you from posting. Just keep your head (history joke, hah).
     
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    Welcome Lady Jane! :smile:

    Please don't let them drive you away either. We have lost some very quality people, both men and women, becase of some of these jerks :mad:
     
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    Thank you all for your warm welcoms.

    @ sarge , I will do my best to keep my head. :)
     
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    Ignore them.

    Just as annoying - some people assuming that you're a male posing as a female (not that it doesn't happen, though). That usually "peters out" as well.

    Welcome! I'm sure you'll find it interesting!
     
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    Welcome to the site, milady. I hope you enjoy yourself.

    I've seen quite a few gals who put "I'm not here to hook-up or whatever" notes in their signatures.
     
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    welcome anyway, yes it is all quite common on here, but you can have fun with it if you try, there are alot of interesting things to do and see on here, if it's not your cup of tea as " they" say, then move on to what is.
     
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    Welcome there, LadyJaneGrey! And BTW, if people persist in PM's to you, best thing to do is use the little yellow report button.
     
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    @FancyPants:
    Just curious what those are?
     
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