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[txquis]

Seems to be a problem for a lot of us.
Glad you spoke up about it, Madame.

 

[madame_zora]

HungMuscle, thanks for the backup, and you as well Txquis!

Clue for anyone interesed, "Wow, that is a beautiful penis!" is a compliment

"God I'd like to get my hands on that and suck it dry!" is probably too far, especially if it's gay-to-straight, or older man-to-teen, or even older woman-to-teen (meaning me). You'll notice how I comment to the young ones in the gallery, it's not about doing them.

We have such an incredible forum here, much because of the differences in people's sexual orientation, political offiliations, religious views, etc and we seem to have a mutual desire to maintain commnication with each other, so we try to work things out as they come up- kind of like a large group marriage! Most gay people are not out to get the str8 guys in bed! The few who do this (usually lurkers) are the socially underdeveloped ones who give everyone a bad view of what being gay is really like. Stop it, so we can all see the goodness in each other and thus try to rid ourselves of unwarranted prejudices.

Oh yeah, one last (yeah, right) bitch. Please, stop asking anyone under, say 21 to post pics! It should be anyone's decision based on free will whether to do it or not, not being taunted by a bunch of pervs. Oh yeah, if you're taunting a young guy threatening his masculinity if he doesn't, to post pics- you're a perv. Shut up. Now, if a young one contacts you and offers his pics, that's his choice, but let's keep this place a safe haven for all to share as they see fit, okay?

Over and out.

 

[13788]

SL55///AMG: I would like to add one corollary to what she writes about respect. I'm not sure that it's respectful to suggest that gay men on this board are trying to "convert" anyone. Gay men are often forced to fight against this particularly pernicious attack -- we do not recruit and convert erstwhile "normal" men and, worse, boys. I am not speaking for the entire gay community here, but I think it's pretty safe to say that a gay man's expression of admiration for a picture of a straight man's penis should not connote that he is trying to bed him.

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Well, then I will suggest it so that you do understand, and possibly get offended. Gay guy adds me to Yahoo... ok fine. Sends me some normal messages about the weather and where I am from...fine. Asks me if I have done "asswork" with my dick before... wtf? I tell him to fuck off and that I am straight... so he cuts out the shit for a bit... then he starts getting on the trip trying to convince me that an asshole is better than a vagina. I blocked his goof ass and never messaged him again.

IF you think my grievance regarding this and several other incidents is disrespectful, then fill in the "go fuck yourself" cliche here:____________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________.

I am not gay, I have no homosexual desires and I am not curious. This is directed merely at the ones who cant seem to respect the fact that I am not interested in it at all. Like I said, this one of 5 incidents I have experienced since signing up. I am not trying to start any heat or anything, but I think you took my statement out of context and it seems like you are painting me as a gay basher.

 

[jonb]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Dec 21 2004, 01:36 AM
Oh yeah, and the "one guy in particular" is currently calling himself Leo Taylor, aka Maverackstud8 aka Doc Savage aka Colan O bryan blah blah blah. If anyone has forgotten or wasn't around for the pleasure of his acquaintance, he's an internut of unmatched proportions. Ladies, beware- he's a seriously derranged stalker and troll- don't give him your personal email addy!

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Yeah, snackdud's obviously a psycho. Above all, if you see a guy who can't remember where his spacebar is, do NOT strike up a conversation with him. And certainly do NOT try to meet him offline. I don't think I've ever seen a net.loon so dedicated to a single user. And I hang out in several alt.* newsgroups, so I see a lot of net.loons.

 

[lapdog2001]

I haven't had the problems that many of the women, and some of the men, have had by posting here.

I rarely go into the chat room anymore since that is the one place where I get PM'd a lot and it is usually 99% gay or bi. From day 1, my profile has stated I am 100% Hetero, and I added it (and my size) to my sig file shortly thereafter. What does every PM ask? What size am I and if I want to hook up. Please check out the profiles! And fill out your own profiles! Many people who try to contact me don't even have their sex or country, or anything else filled in! :blink:

I've happily chatted with anyone and everyone in the main room, but some have been upset when I didn't want to go off in PM with them. I politely tell people who Chat-PM me that whatever they have to say, they can say in the public room.

In general I like post here in the boards best of all!

Besides, I'm not coordinated enough to have multiple chat window open at the same time!

 

[SurferGirlCA]

Speaking for myself, I don't have a problem with someone sending me a message on here. Now, how/whether I will respond to that message will be determined by the approach used. I'm pretty open-minded and love making new friends (male and female) and inexperienced in the knowledge this forum seems to offer so very curious, I guess. However, if the first message I receive is "hey I got a big dick", I'm not sure what the response is supposed to be to that. Congratulations? Says who? Of course you do? I am proud of myself for figuring out the chat room, though.

 

[naughty]

Dear Surfergirl,

I truly hope that your idealism is rewarded. Unfortunately, as in the rest of the world, many of us have experienced the good, the bad, and the ugly here on the board. So to all who might tarnish her pleasant out look please be on your best behavior.

Naughty

 

[ashlar]

Originally posted by Hung Muscle@Dec 21 2004, 10:36 AM
I would like to apply for membership in the Madame Zora fan club. Ashlar, would you send me an application?

Thanks.

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Signed, sealed, and delivered Hung Muscle, with a kiss.

 

[ashlar]

Originally posted by SL55///AMG@Dec 21 2004, 07:37 PM

Well, then I will suggest it so that you do understand, and possibly get offended. Gay guy adds me to Yahoo... ok fine. Sends me some normal messages about the weather and where I am from...fine. Asks me if I have done "asswork" with my dick before... wtf? I tell him to fuck off and that I am straight... so he cuts out the shit for a bit... then he starts getting on the trip trying to convince me that an asshole is better than a vagina. I blocked his goof ass and never messaged him again.

IF you think my grievance regarding this and several other incidents is disrespectful, then fill in the "go fuck yourself" cliche here:____________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________.

I am not gay, I have no homosexual desires and I am not curious. This is directed merely at the ones who cant seem to respect the fact that I am not interested in it at all. Like I said, this one of 5 incidents I have experienced since signing up. I am not trying to start any heat or anything, but I think you took my statement out of context and it seems like you are painting me as a gay basher.

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SL55, I see your point and can understand that. I'm gay, and a lot of gay guys who do that shit to ME get on my fucking nerves. I think what the other posters are getting at is that just because a gay guy says something nice about your cock, does not mean he wants to hit it. Now, if he asks you, you say no, and he still bugs the shit out of you (about your dick, or doing anything sexual with you), THAT would cause me some rage as well.

 

[ashlar]

Originally posted by lapdog2001@Dec 21 2004, 09:04 PM
I haven't had the problems that many of the women, and some of the men, have had by posting here.

I rarely go into the chat room anymore since that is the one place where I get PM'd a lot and it is usually 99% gay or bi. From day 1, my profile has stated I am 100% Hetero, and I added it (and my size) to my sig file shortly thereafter. What does every PM ask? What size am I and if I want to hook up. Please check out the profiles! And fill out your own profiles! Many people who try to contact me don't even have their sex or country, or anything else filled in! :blink:

I've happily chatted with anyone and everyone in the main room, but some have been upset when I didn't want to go off in PM with them. I politely tell people who Chat-PM me that whatever they have to say, they can say in the public room.

In general I like post here in the boards best of all!

Besides, I'm not coordinated enough to have multiple chat window open at the same time!

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This is along the same thing I started saying to SL55 and that i've seen other members posting about. No matter who you are, or what your sexual preference, propositioning me, or anyone else (In a serious manner) is:

Creepy
Rude
Obnoxious
Dodgy
Lame
etc. etc. etc.

Unless you have gotten to know the person really well, and have sufficent reason to believe that such offers DESERVE to be, and are likely to be rewarded.

Just because you may be attractive, which is always debateable, and may have a large dick, boobs, hungy waiting ready willing oriface, does not mean that you are the gods' sexual gift to a world ever so needy of your likely to be disease infested ass.

Can I get a Amen Hallelujah!!?!?!!?

*rolls through the post*

 

[kinggalaxia]

*looks around* :huh:

I'm somewhat guilty of this...if anyone in particular knows me for such behavior, I apologize.... I just don't post alot, is all

 

[SurferGirlCA]

Originally posted by naughty@Dec 21 2004, 07:18 PM
Dear Surfergirl, I truly hope that your idealism is rewarded. Unfortunately, as in the rest of the world, many of us have experienced the good, the bad, and the ugly here on the board. So to all who might tarnish her pleasant out look please be on your best behavior.
Naughty

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Awwww, thanks naughty. After all, a girl DOES like to have a say in who tarnishes her.

 

[D_MisterBates]

OMG ive totally heard of mavericstud or whatever his name is,

I'm so sorry for you zora

 

[D_MisterBates]

Originally posted by ashlar+Dec 21 2004, 10:52 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(ashlar &#064; Dec 21 2004, 10:52 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-SL55///AMG@Dec 21 2004, 07:37 PM

Well, then I will suggest it so that you do understand, and possibly get offended. Gay guy adds me to Yahoo... ok fine. Sends me some normal messages about the weather and where I am from...fine. Asks me if I have done "asswork" with my dick before... wtf? I tell him to fuck off and that I am straight... so he cuts out the shit for a bit... then he starts getting on the trip trying to convince me that an asshole is better than a vagina. I blocked his goof ass and never messaged him again.

IF you think my grievance regarding this and several other incidents is disrespectful, then fill in the "go fuck yourself" cliche here:____________________________________________________________
_________________________________________________________________.

I am not gay, I have no homosexual desires and I am not curious. This is directed merely at the ones who cant seem to respect the fact that I am not interested in it at all. Like I said, this one of 5 incidents I have experienced since signing up. I am not trying to start any heat or anything, but I think you took my statement out of context and it seems like you are painting me as a gay basher.

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SL55, I see your point and can understand that. I&#39;m gay, and a lot of gay guys who do that shit to ME get on my fucking nerves. I think what the other posters are getting at is that just because a gay guy says something nice about your cock, does not mean he wants to hit it. Now, if he asks you, you say no, and he still bugs the shit out of you (about your dick, or doing anything sexual with you), THAT would cause me some rage as well.

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all these same things have gone for me as well, on one hand i can see it as a compliment, and on the other hand im a little creeped out and annoyed

general rule, if you dont have a rappor with someone or a good reason to IM them, DONT

another thing, there is a reason that there are straight/bi/gay info in profiles. use it.

btw, Ashlar i <3 u, youre awesome

 

[13788]

SL55///AMG: SL55, I see your point and can understand that. I&#39;m gay, and a lot of gay guys who do that shit to ME get on my fucking nerves. I think what the other posters are getting at is that just because a gay guy says something nice about your cock, does not mean he wants to hit it. Now, if he asks you, you say no, and he still bugs the shit out of you (about your dick, or doing anything sexual with you), THAT would cause me some rage as well.

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[/quote]Dude, if I looked more like you, I would likely get more chicks. Wanna trade? j/k

The fact that they are gay doesnt bother me in the slightest... people are gay, just like people are straight.. I would not complain as much if it were girls harassing me though...

 

[madame_zora]

SL55///AMG, I was certainly not accusing you of gay bashing&#33; Rather I thought your post went along with mine, unwanted attention is just that. If someone wants to give you a compliment on your dick, they need to learn to do it without propositioning you, THAT&#39;S NOT A FUCKING COMPLIMENT&#33;&#33;&#33; ahem. Both str8 guys and gay guys seem to have these problems, but fortunately they are in the extreme minority. Most of our members are exceptional, wonderful people to know. You know who almost never bothers anyone? The women&#33; That&#39;s right, we don&#39;t pm the shit out of you&#33;&#33; And if we do pm you, it&#39;s because we have something to say, now isn&#39;t that novel? *All sarcasm intended*

Anyway, I have a big, fat, bitchy mouth that never shuts, so occasionally I put it to good use trying to correct a problem like this. I love this site so much and I just want to see it progress beyond these silly issues. Thanks to all for helping.

 

[B_DoubleMeatWhopper]

I don&#39;t mind lurkers sending me a PM saying that they enjoy my posts or to ask me a serious question. What I do mind is the &#39;how big is your cock?&#39; type of PM. I also don&#39;t reply to hit me up sometimes&#39; PM&#39;s from lurkers. Why would I want to hit you up? I don&#39;t know anything about you.

 

[ashlar]

Originally posted by Baron@Dec 22 2004, 03:20 AM

all these same things have gone for me as well, on one hand i can see it as a compliment, and on the other hand im a little creeped out and annoyed

general rule, if you dont have a rappor with someone or a good reason to IM them, DONT

another thing, there is a reason that there are straight/bi/gay info in profiles. use it.

btw, Ashlar i <3 u, youre awesome

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Aww tankx Baron Your pretty coo&#39; yourself

:wub:

 

[ashlar]

Originally posted by SL55///AMG@Dec 22 2004, 05:21 AM
Dude, if I looked more like you, I would likely get more chicks. Wanna trade? j/k

The fact that they are gay doesnt bother me in the slightest... people are gay, just like people are straight.. I would not complain as much if it were girls harassing me though...

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While I appreciate the compliment inherant in such a remark, I&#39;m a little attached to my body and face, nor am I prepaired to have a body snatcher moment. Although, just for a day or two might be intresting. I can however hang out with you, tell all the girls that hit on me that i&#39;m gay but my friend SL55 over there is all about the &#39;gina, and has a huge schlong.

I have a feeling that if women pestered you the way guys pestered me, and apparently you as well, eventually it would come to try your patience. Then again, I could be wrong in this, however it seems to be a common theme amungst the thoughts of the others.

 

[Dr. Bubbles]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Dec 22 2004, 10:49 AM
Anyway, I have a big, fat, bitchy mouth that never shuts, so occasionally I put it to good use trying to correct a problem like this. I love this site so much and I just want to see it progress beyond these silly issues. Thanks to all for helping.

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Zora, dear... big and fat are NOT parts of our vocabulary, especially when rendering comments about ourselves. Let&#39;s just say that you are adamant about your feelings.

As far as putting mouths to other good uses... hmmm.... continue to correct those problems as such&#33; hehehehe