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And that scared me. If I can justify my actions, that means everyone can. Everyone can claim to have the right to use violence (verbal or physical)) for their own cause ...

Yes... And?

I'll never understand the view that all violence, under all conditions, is by definition a bad thing. Losing control is bad... Violence is just a tool. Used properly, it is not a negative...it's just a tool. Let me use an example that we will all understand. Spanking a child.

Now, I'm not talking about wailing on the kid, beating them to a bloody pulp. I'm talking about a spanking...for wrong behavior. A properly applied spanking, used as negative reinforcement, for correcting/training behavior, is perfectly appropriate, and a time honored technique which *does* work, and which isn't scary at all.

In such a situation, the parent is doing it out of love! Yet, you could rightly describe a spanking as a violent act. And, because it is being done for a proper reason, and being used as a tool, it isn't even scary.
 
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being a self absorbed asshole is not being confident. Being oblivious or apathetic about other people's feelings is not being confident. Knowing how to get what you want is not being confident.

Lots of people, particularly young people and naive women, make the mistake of thinking this...


Being confident should make you MORE sensitive to how your behavior affects others, and make you strong enough to make Others feel comfortable.

Here's being confident... Say you take the time to learn to dance well... you know you dance well, and what's more, you know that any woman dancing with you is going to have a great time.
That knowledge enables you to walk up to any woman, and ask her to dance, because you know that you will show her a good time. And She can sense that you are confident in your ability to show her a good time.

Knowing she will have fun and will be glad she accepted your offer...That's confidence.

Using this ability to cynically get into her pants, screw her, and then dump her...
That just makes you a manipulative prick.


Confidence the combination of competence and knowing you don't have to conceal your true motives, because your motives are honorable and decent.
 

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I blame my step aunt for it. she used to argue a often with me over stupid shit. The last time I was up there visiting my brother (he lives in the same small apt complex) I won the last argument a few weeks before I left..



Recently about week 1-1/2 ago I was taking my sister home from her work on the way out from the mall these two guys were staring at her boobs. One her Ex used to do the same thing. I think that is what got me pissed.

Yeah I know that I can be a overprotective brother.
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IF I got a job my confidence would self correct it self. When I did have a job my stress level went down. That is a problem is when I am not stress out at all I tend to eat more.

no stress = eat more
more stress = eat less.
 

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I blame my step aunt for it. she used to argue a often with me over stupid shit. The last time I was up there visiting my brother (he lives in the same small apt complex) I won the last argument a few weeks before I left..



Recently about week 1-1/2 ago I was taking my sister home from her work on the way out from the mall these two guys were staring at her boobs. One her Ex used to do the same thing. I think that is what got me pissed.

Yeah I know that I can be a overprotective brother.
z`
IF I got a job my confidence would self correct it self. When I did have a job my stress level went down. That is a problem is when I am not stress out at all I tend to eat more.

no stress = eat more
more stress = eat less.


you're letting too many outside factors affect your everyday life

never argue over stupid shit... you even said it yourself, it's stupid... so if it's stupid, who gives a fuck?

you can't get upset over your sisters tits ... she's a woman, guys like tits... im sure you've seen a pair of tits that you ogled at for hours.. im sure those pair of tits have a brother also ... if she wants to flaunt it and has a problem with people staring, then thats her problem

don't let your job make who you are, you'll never be happy if your entire self worth comes from the form of a paycheck

and i recommend you eat healthy and work out or find a hobby or something ... yo-yo dieting is worse for you than consistently eating shit food ... and find something that makes you happy and make sure you dont cancel on it a lot.. stress can literally kill people so make sure you find your "thing" to take your mind off every day stuff

life's a bitch, if it were a slut it'd be too easy