NICE GUYS SUCK! the writer of this wants a "real man". Any nice guys here? I admit, I used to be one and had lots of dating failures. It made me feel totally undesirable, to the point of being a female repellant! I discovered my error and have changed my ways. I am a bit confused about what today's "real man" should be however, things have changed so much during the last 20 years, the tough guys who I wanted to be like are no longer representitive of what a "real man" should be today. How would you describe the 21st century "real man"?