The only issues I have with Reese Rideout is that he’s probably the biggest example of someone who used being “gay4pay” to self-promote, as a gimmick and to support straight presenting/hetero/hetero-leaning presenting superiority. While he dragged his clearly uncomfortable wife to multiple interviews to support his “gay4pay” and “straight-presenting” stance and get some press, which came off borderline abusive. He hasn’t aged poorly, and it’s not really our business when it comes to his sexual dimensions and journey, his struggles, his relationships, where he is in the gender, sexual, affection, romantic attachment, emotional investment, relationship, commitment spectrum. But those behaviors were so icky, insecure, gay-panic-y and borderline abusive that it pretty much ruined the fantasy of one of my first porn crushes. And now, he’s once again depending on “gays” for money and status and hook-ups. But his early scenes were frequently some of the best in gay porn at that time, especially since that was kind of a sterile, dull stretch.
Well, he'll see this because he's joined the board. Maybe he'll respond; maybe he won't. Personally, I believe gay people bear the sole responsibility for the attitudes we accept, no matter the performer's identity. Ryan Rose is a very controversial figure who identifies as gay, but the community has supported him even at what I believed to be his worst off-screen behavior.
We, as a community, are generally shallow. We just want the nudity, the fantasy, and/or the sex where possible. Swinging Richards in Atlanta used to hire mostly str8-identifying performers, whose girlfriends would show up on occasion. BUT, most of them eventually set their prices. There was always a wealthy gay man willing to meet them at whatever high bar they set. That is economics. If I could sleep with Travis Kelce, I would, whether or not you harangued me about it.
Porn performers are not the keepers of our mental and emotional health. WE are! (Porn performers/ Sex workers have their own shit to resolve!) If something is unhealthy for us, we need to learn to walk away from it.
My ultimate porn crush was (and largely remains) Leo Giamani

My heart still flutters, and I am far too old to behave that way! I am not one to pay, but if it were possible and arrest-free I would, gay-4-pay, bi, str8, whatever he is! I just want the sensation! And living in the moment is also a key part of life.
I am grateful that Leo is quiet and not visibly on social media. I still have all my fantasies intact. He could still get it today (mouth, ass, dick, feet, ears, whichever)! And that's because he's not on social media for all the sanctimonious gays to pick apart and diminish.
On another note, I like the new Reese. I think he's still very sexy. I love that he's blurred the lines, and I imagine that the sex is very professional! (Little known fact about sex workers is that they have professional sex.) I think his relationship status is between him and his wife/gf. She's an adult, and doesn't neede to defend her honor or tell her she needs to make different choices. Her choices are none of our fucking business!
I am a little weirded out that Reese has joined the board, but I understand his wanting to protect his IP (content).
These threads always end this way
