Nightmares

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  1. The Dragon

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    I get Nightmares on a regular basis.
    Always about the same thing...
    How do you make them stop and does anyone else get them about the same things over and over?
     
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    I used to suffer from terrible nightmares when I was a teenager, lots of different ones but the same few would recur. I'd read about aborigines teaching their kids about dream control techniques so I thought I'd try that, it worked brilliantly, after a couple of weeks I could recall my dreams in full, another few weeks and I could control what happened in my dreams, this turned the nightmares from being scary into something I actually enjoyed, sort of a create your own nightmare adventure. I could choose before sleep what I wanted to dream about. Once I had them under control they didn't scare me so much and it's been years since I've exerted so much control over them, but it's something I can still do if I have a nightmare.
     
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    I don't have nightmares often - I had a spell of them as a child and I was advised to write down the nightmare to the point I woke up terrified and then write as many different endings for the nightmare as I could think of. Good endings, bad endings, the worst I could imagine, silly endings, surreal endings. Everything I could think of. I spent about a week or more doing that and the nightmares stopped.

    Of course not all nightmares are coherant enough to be able to 'write an ending' - mine were and that worked for me.
     
  4. The Dragon

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    This one is of something that happened to me as a child...there was no happy ending as such..will techniques work in those cases?
     
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    Princess, that is amazing, but I suppose I should not be surprised when something amazing is coming from you. The phenomenon you are describing is generally called Lucid Dreaming. A lot of people try it to one degree of success or another, but some people seem to be very good at it. People try it for all kinds of reasons, but nightmare mitigation sounds like a great application for it.

    I wonder if you had natural talent to start with, or you are just naturally talented at succeeding with whatever you do?
     
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    I used to have really stupid dreams as a teen. I figured out a way to wake myself up once I realized it was a dream. Once I thought I woke up but didn't. That turned into a nightmare. Never did that again.

    If you are having nightmares about a childhood experience, I'd go talk to a professional about it. Maybe they can help u out and put and end to them.

    Just curious, do you realize it's a dream while it's happening?
     
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    I had recurring nightmares for many years. They got more and more frequent until I was afraid of going to sleep at night. The more afraid I bacame, the more I had the nightmares. I finally realized it was my fear that was causing the bad dreams. So I decided to make friends with my nightmares.
    When I lay down to sleep I would actually try to look forward to having them, like they were warm and fuzzy dreams instead of the terrors they really were. As soon as I started acting like I actually loved my dreams, they totally stopped. Never had once since, and that was several years ago. Love all your dreams, since they are all you. I know it's hard to love painful experiences, but they make you who you are today. You wouldn't be yourself now, if not for all your past. I think alot of bad dreams are unresolved pain from the past, so you are not alone.
     
  8. ManlyBanisters

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    If it is a nightmare about something that really happened I guess that is different. You could try rewriting the way things went, I suppose, but I don't imagine that would help at all. Without getting into details or too personal would you consider a spell of therapy? Perhaps you just aren't over it and a therapist might be able to help you put the feelings that bring up these nightmares in to perspective. Edit: by which I mean give you a new perspective on them - I wasn't trying to imply the feelings are unimportant, no feelings are.
     
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    I think I had a natural talent for it JustAsking, because even before I tried to take control of my dreams I knew that I recalled more of my dreams than the average person did, and that I knew I dreamed every night. The things I did to train myself were very easy and might not work for everyone because I do believe it came easier to me than it would to most people. First I simply made a point of trying to remember what I'd dreamt about every time I woke up, whether it was in the middle of the night or in the morning I'd lie there quietly and think about it for five minutes, within two weeks I was remembering the full content of what I'd dreamed about and then dreams began to make sense, what I'd previously been remembering were only parts of dreams so it would be like seeing a film where someone turned it off every five minutes, you'd be in strange places with strange people with no idea how you got there, but once I'd begun remembering my dreams there was a proper coherent sequence to what had happened. Once I was solidly remembering what I dreamed about before going to sleep I'd concentrate on dreaming about certain things, again within a few weeks I was able to decide broadly what I'd dream about, then once that 'skill' was established I was able to decide what I'd dream about with very little effort. The next step didn't really take any sort of conscious effort, I could remember everything I'd dreamed, I could decide what to dream and from then on I was always conscious when I was dreaming (previously I'd sometimes known I was in a dream, sometimes not), then I could make the things I wanted to happen in my dream, for instance if it was a dream where I was being pursued by the happy pill death cult (yeah my dreams are weird) I could somehow find a fast car which would take me to safety, or in one instance Big Arnie to help me out of a tight spot :)

    I don't know if the way I did it would work for anyone though.

    Sorry DF I forgot to add this as a quote

    This one is of something that happened to me as a child...there was no happy ending as such..will techniques work in those cases

    Whatever happened to you as a child can't be changed but I think that if it's re-visited in your dreams and in your dreams you come to terms with it that can alter the way you look back on it.
     
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    Cool -- SP. I'll have to try that.

    The dreams I remember vividly are all about houses. These are houses I've never been in or seen pictures of, but the size, shape, style, layouts, location and architectural details are present with amazing clarity.

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    As a kid, my worst nightmares were not being able to run away from monsters -- my feet were like lead and I just couldn't seem to get moving. I still sometimes dream that I can't run, and can only walk with extremely difficulty.

    I also used to have nightmares about my clothes disappearing. Yet now I don't mind public nudity at all. Weird!
     
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    At some point I taught myself to do this as well, a long time ago. I haven't had a nightmare in at least fifteen years!

    I don't always control what I want to dream about, but sometimes I do. Like, I remember when I had a crush on a particular girl, I could have a dream about being with her (and that wouldn't exactly help the crush, but I figure it was healthy enough).
     
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    I still have nightmares but I have them on purpose now, they're exciting :) The sex dreams are fun too.
     
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    Sometimes I have what starts as a nightmare, but I inevitably screw with it and it usually turns into something funny. For example, I have one where I'm falling from a cliff, and in that one I pretty much always land on my face in a shallow puddle, pick myself up and walk away pissed off that I'm wet thinking, "Oh, it's this stupid dream again." And then I remember one where I had that classic teeth-falling-out one, but after it started happening, I called 1-800-DENTIST in the dream and scheduled an appointment while the operator told me it was "normal".

    And yes, consciously choosing sex dreams is awesome.
     
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    I suffered horrible nightmares last summer after being stricken with spinal meningitis. I was in a coma for about ten days and there was no escape from the nightmares like there is when a nightmare happens during normal sleep, and fright usually awakens you. I never want to experience that trauma again, nor do I want any one else to go through it. Fright in a nightmare is terrifying when there is no escape do to a coma. I know what it would be like to go to hell.

    I came through my ordeal in pretty good shape. My memory seens to have suffered no damage. I am still working out with a physical therapist twice a week for balance problems. The type of meningitis that I had was viral. If it had been the bacterial type, it would have been fatal, according to my doctors. PS, Stylyung is still young!!!
     
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    I taught myself to wake-up during nightmares by rapidly blinking my eyes in the dream. To prevent nightmares I actually reasoned that if monsters are going to get me then I should be a monster too. So if a werewolf or Dracula was coming after me then I would become a werewolf or a vampire too. That way I'd belong with the monsters, become one of them, and I wouldn't need to be afraid. That actually worked. If there was a monster in my nightmare then I'd start becoming a monster and then the dream would stop immediately.

    The dreams I still can't control are those of nuclear war. I have no solution for those and they are as terrifying as the monsters. Happily I get them much less since the fall of the USSR.
     
  16. The Dragon

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    Thanks guys,....Mb I have had lots of therapy for inner child to toxic parents to grow and I've lost count of how many 1 on 1 sessions I sat through.
    The trouble is that once I get in there I tend to turn things on their head and I end up talking to the therapist about their childhood...I seem to have an uncanny knack of making therapists cry.
    All of which didn't do me much good, but I'm sure the therapist felt better.
    Perhaps I should have sent them a bill.
     
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    Wow, Spoiled Princess.. you are like a superhero. I love you!!

    I actually have been trying this for the past several days.. I had a REALLY good dream the other night.. I couldn't recall half of it, but I woke up with a smile on my face.

    Since then, I have been trying to remember some of my dreams and before I go to bed, I have been trying to decide what I dream about.

    As a child, I was able to wake myself up from nightmares by shaking my head, because I would actually shake my head in real life too, so then when my head hit the pillow, it woke me up.

    I don't have nightmares very often, and the only one I had that was recurring was a real experience from my childhood. My solution was confronting the person involved in the dream and talking to them. It helped a lot. I never had that nightmare after that confrontation. I guess it was just the fact that I knew they were sorry for what they did to me, that I feared would happen again.

    Rob <3
     
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    I have another superpower too, shopping :)

    Keep it up Rob, I found it very easy to learn to do and very rewarding. I think it's interesting that you mention your recurring nightmare and how it made you feel better about it in real life, I think something similar might help DF.
     
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    did the mares leave hoofprints by your bed side?
     
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    Are you taking any medications? Or eating certain foods before bedtime?
    Sometimes these things cause nightmares.

    Sometimes, nightmares are deep seated problems in your life--they could be about family...love...job...life. What are these nightmares you are having? What do you think that they mean?
     
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