"no black guys"

[TurkeyWithaSunburn]

Scrolling through grindr i noticed that a lot of guys have no black guys in their description. Why is this?

Like I said in another thread I am bi for black only, so this kind of confuses me lol

Why are you only sexually attracted to black males?
And does your profile say "black guys only"?

 

[Auggiecakes]

Why are you only sexually attracted to black males?
And does your profile say "black guys only"?

 

[966975]

Why are you only sexually attracted to black males?
And does your profile say "black guys only"?

I just like darker skin in general. I am highly attracted to black women as well. No my profile does not say black guys only.

 

[deleted1072631]

Those apps are what they're for. I'd never go to a bar and shout "no asians" or "have your privates unlocked if you want to see my privates." Obviously in a public setting, you'll probably find yourself checking out people you normally wouldn't and possibly have such great conversations that connections leads to great things. Some people are only attracted to what they know and want. At the end of the day, it's your life.

 

[napwayne]

i am attracted to white, middle eastern/indian, and hispanic men, as well as black, asian, pacific and native american women. I guess that makes me racist towrad white, middle eastern/indian and hispanic women, in addition to black, asian, pacific and native american men.

That said I totaly feel with the idea that when black men are in fact portrayed in sex all that people care about is the size of their dick, not their worth as human beings. this is especially true in cuckold vids I've often watched and when I see a humans worth judged by how they are sexually worthy I just get upset. even if you did find more black male representation in porn it would take more than a good bit of work to make people judge them more than by their dick size. black male representation (or the lack of it) is especially clear in straight hardcore porn sites.

i am attracted to white, middle eastern/indian, and hispanic men, as well as black, asian, pacific and native american women. I guess that makes me racist towrad white, middle eastern/indian and hispanic women, in addition to black, asian, pacific and native american men.

That said I totaly feel with the idea that when black men are in fact portrayed in sex all that people care about is the size of their dick, not their worth as human beings. this is especially true in cuckold vids I've often watched and when I see a humans worth judged by how they are sexually worthy I just get upset. even if you did find more black male representation in porn it would take more than a good bit of work to make people judge them more than by their dick size. black male representation (or the lack of it) is especially clear in straight hardcore porn sites.

Very well said. A black mans value is often tied with his dick size. Hell, I've caught ppl (white mostly ) looking at my crotch as if they're trying to size me up. In the hookup world, a dick pic is the first thing a black man is asked for...and if u dont meet the persons standard , the black man isnt worth much.

 

[malakos]

lack of neural wiring that would register that? what does that even mean?

I was simply referring to the fact that over the course of a person's life, and especially in childhood, via synaptic pruning, preferences are formed on a neurological level. Regardless of what you want to say about the potential cause(s) of racial preferences, whether one would admit that there is some innate preference for one's race, or if you would want to argue that it's strictly socially conditioned, I don't think there's an argument to be made against it being neurologically programmed, and at that, typically at an early age. And it wouldn't appear that there is generally an ability to control one's sexual preferences. Given all that, I fail to see the point in harassing people over having racial sexual preferences, or smacking the label of "racist" on it.

 

[fellatio4ever]

It is all about someones preference. It isnt that they "hate" Black men or Asians, Latinos, it's just about what they find attractive or sexy. You can't get pissed because someone says no Blacks, no Asians...they want what they like. Then there are those that post only seeking Blacks. Isn't this discrimination it itself?
People have preferences of all kinds. You can't force someone to be attractive to Asians or other ethnic men if thats not what they want.

 

[Anton565]

IMO, when a guy's profile says "No 'X'" or " 'X' only" the guy probably has a whole bunch of issues unrelated to "X". Therefore I ALWAYS steer clear, even if I do fit his profile.

If a guys doesn't pique your interest, either ignore him or politely say "No, thank you.". There's no reason to discuss or even think about the reason. I don't understand why doing this is a problem.

I'm both fascinated and repulsed by the fact that there appear to be a whole lot of guys who allow their race issues to override their need to get laid.

 

[328982]

I was simply referring to the fact that over the course of a person's life, and especially in childhood, via synaptic pruning, preferences are formed on a neurological level. Regardless of what you want to say about the potential cause(s) of racial preferences, whether one would admit that there is some innate preference for one's race, or if you would want to argue that it's strictly socially conditioned, I don't think there's an argument to be made against it being neurologically programmed, and at that, typically at an early age. And it wouldn't appear that there is generally an ability to control one's sexual preferences. Given all that, I fail to see the point in harassing people over having racial sexual preferences, or smacking the label of "racist" on it.

Your science is sketchy at best. First you said it was 'lack of neural wiring' now it's positive neurological programming. In any case, if you are saying that neural programming is the effect (the cause being innate or social conditioning from an early age), you can't really advance it as the reason for racial sexual preference.

 

[malakos]

Your science is sketchy at best. First you said it was 'lack of neural wiring' now it's positive neurological programming.

That's actually reading a false distinction into my posts. If someone is programmed to to prefer exclusively one thing, and this is neurologically conditioned by strengthening of synapses for that preference, and pruning the synapses to prefer other things, then they are programmed to prefer one thing and also lack wiring to appreciate the other.

In any case, if you are saying that neural programming is the effect (the cause being innate or social conditioning from an early age), you can't really advance it as the reason for racial sexual preference.

Well, I actually was not concerning myself with arguing what the cause of the development of these preferences might be. What I was arguing is that it is likely neurologically programmed and therefore not something there is much chance of changing, nor do I see any reason to, and I condemn harassing people over it.

 

[328982]

That's actually reading a false distinction into my posts. If someone is programmed to to prefer exclusively one thing, and this is neurologically conditioned by strengthening of synapses for that preference, and pruning the synapses to prefer other things, then they are programmed to prefer one thing and also lack wiring to appreciate the other.



Well, I actually was not concerning myself with arguing what the cause of the development of these preferences might be. What I was arguing is that it is likely neurologically programmed and therefore not something there is much chance of changing, nor do I see any reason to, and I condemn harassing people over it.

So your line is 'my sexual preference may be racist but don't blame me, I'm hard-wired that way'. Mmm. If the cause is very largely social conditioning (as seems most likely), surely you should examine why that is, not just shrug it off. You're a highly intelligent person, so your incuriosity about the cause and lack of reflection on your motivations is rather unconvincing.

 

[Brodie888]

I'd have to agree with the social conditioning argument but also I think many people are attracted to familiarity. They are comfortable with what they know.

An example of this is how people regularly choose to go to the restaurants of their own ethnicity.

 

[LICNYCgay]

As a man of (mostly) Caucasian heritage, I do find a "no blacks" comment racist. Whether it was meant that way or not. I was just at a sex party and had sex with 2 black guys and 3 white guys, and it was one of the black guys that I ended up spending "rest" time chatting/laughing with between the action.

 

[ausmaxx]

Scrolling through grindr i noticed that a lot of guys have no black guys in their description. Why is this?

Like I said in another thread I am bi for black only, so this kind of confuses me lol

Scrolling through grindr i noticed that a lot of guys have no black guys in their description. Why is this?

Like I said in another thread I am bi for black only, so this kind of confuses me lol

I think a sexy guy is a sexy guy, regardless of colour, shape, size....

 

[Infernal]

This one can be slippery. I guess it depends on how you look at it. I have many Asian friends, but in general I don't find them sexually attractive. It has nothing to do with origin, it's more the body type that doesn't turn me on. My husband doesn't find black men attractive. I do. However, I think there is another component to what he feels. He's Cuban, and there are a lot of Cubans of his age who were raised to look down on people of color. In speaking to his mother, the Afro-Cubans were looked at as someone who polluted their purity as mostly white Europeans who came from Spain. So, in some cases, there is a racial aspect to it. I know my husband has been with a few black men, but in general it's not something he actively pursues, partially because it is ingrained in who he is. He's in his mid 50's now, and it can be difficult to put that aside. His mother will be 90 years old this year and I'm not going to change her way of thinking about anything. It's not worth trying. I figure if she can accept me as another of her sons, then that's great progress for someone in her generation.

 

[handcuffsfan4]

I think it must be some form or racism to only want to have sex with or date within your race.
I'm half white half Filipino and was raised almost soley by my white mom who I look more like, but sadly I'm not white enough for you. The funny thing is that technically I am white, I grew up in a mainly white community by a white woman, but I have brown skin, so I'm brown. The people typing "no 'whatever'" in their profiles or ignoring you because of the color of your skin are fucking racist. They don't try to get to know someone to see if they could have anything in common, and it's not because of the color of their skin, it's the having a different race than Caucasian. There are so many white guys who have darker tans than me (here in california).

 

[malakos]

I think it must be some form or racism to only want to have sex with or date within your race.

That depends on what one means by "racism". If you mean "mean, nasty, evil hatred of other races", such an evaluation is preposterous. Westerners nowadays throw around the term racism without generally having a terribly coherent definition they are using; it's mostly just a sensational tool.

I'm half white half Filipino and was raised almost soley by my white mom who I look more like, but sadly I'm not white enough for you.

For whom?

The funny thing is that technically I am white, I grew up in a mainly white community by a white woman, but I have brown skin, so I'm brown.

In an actual identitarian sense, you would not be White because you don't have a high enough concentration of European ancestry. For people who take White identity seriously, I've never seen a serious argument that anyone less than 3/4 ancestrally European can be recognized as White. Your skin color in such considerations is irrelevant. Darkly tan Greeks are still understood as being of the same race. A native (non-European) African who is an albino is still of the same race even though his/her skin color is totally different.

The people typing "no 'whatever'" in their profiles or ignoring you because of the color of your skin are fucking racist.

They have preferences. Whine about it all you want, it's not going to change anything. And most likely it's not something they could change even if they wanted.

They don't try to get to know someone to see if they could have anything in common, and it's not because of the color of their skin, it's the having a different race than Caucasian. There are so many white guys who have darker tans than me (here in california).

You're not telling me anything knew. As I indicated above, I already knew it wasn't so much an issue of skin color. Race is a reality that goes deeper than simply skin color. There are plenty of physical characteristics that concentrate to some degree in one race or another, and many people somehow or another develop a preference for a certain profile of characteristics associated with a certain race. Unsurprisingly it's usually for their own race.

 

[malakos]

So your line is 'my sexual preference may be racist but don't blame me, I'm hard-wired that way'. Mmm. If the cause is very largely social conditioning (as seems most likely), surely you should examine why that is, not just shrug it off. You're a highly intelligent person, so your incuriosity about the cause and lack of reflection on your motivations is rather unconvincing.

Well, for starters I don't see people having racialized sexual preferences as a travesty, so I don't see any reason why I should care a great deal what the cause of it is. Can you explain why it matters? I don't see it.

 

[1Cody]

It may seem racist, but it really is a preference. If you are going to suck a cock, you like what you like. After all it is your mouth. Likewise, if your ass is going to get pounded it is your choice what flavor the meat. Personally, I like black men and yes I see in some the attractiveness that maybe some don't bother to notice. My preferences have evolved over time. I came to this site in 2010 and at that time, I was very inhibited and didn't know what I wanted.

 

[AdamHenry]

It seems to me mainly Black guys are kicked to the curb more than anyone else. If you put down no Blacks only, that means you would hook up with any other ethnic race except them. You may be a prejudiced hateful prick.