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Hmm. I've been finding myself steering away from that genre recently. Vids with more than like 4 guys I find very distracting.
Distracting as in they're too many hot guys in them or distracting as in you can't focus on the woman which is what you're interested in?
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Too many guys. Getting to 5+ often loses a center of attention. Plus, one of the elements I'm drawn to is the interactions and connections between the individuals, and when there are so many men they themselves seem to lose focus. I suppose your preference for gangbangs has some merit as such, but I still feel the connections are too divided up to keep my interest. I like to see connections developed, and that's difficult to pull off with more than 3 or 4.
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it's so odd to be demanded explanations of one's views, spend a decent bit of time and effort on writing them up as clearly as one can, then be completely ignored and subsequently characterized as a "fusspot" who believes the exact opposite of what was actually written. but i suppose i understand that it's easier to engage with people who cite pornographic images as a basis for reality that roughly aligns with your views than it is to have good-faith discussions with those who interpret the world differently from you. i hope i won't be naive enough to fall for it next time.
Distracting as in off topic - take it to the porno section. Bye.
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I think tat because there are more white guys out there willing to sell their bodies for porn - who only respect the cash and not their bodies.
Having had lovers of all races, sizes creed and nationalities its always been the person that counts not the colour of their skin - and believe me they all have fucked and sucked to perfection
So are you black?
I'm not saying that black guys can't be good in bed. I was referring strictly to the thrusting itself and the fact that I prefer the looks of white guys.
But you've also said this impulse is "neurologically programmed". Over a whole lifetime. That "over the course of a person's life, and especially in childhood, via synaptic pruning, preferences are formed on a neurological level". I would be interested to hear what you think is programming us from an early age in this way. What factors, events, conditions? You seem to be shy of saying it's innate, yet you side-stepped the raft of research studies Willaj referenced which highlight the role of social conditioning/interactions for the idea of other race. So what is driving your neurological programme, what leads to the "impulse"? Do please explain properly what you had in mind. Preferably supplying scientific references. Understood that this wouldn't be *your* view necessarily but the one you are representing here. Obviously if you just don't care, then don't be surprised if you are suspected of trolling.
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Me: Why does it matter? Because unexamined prejudices tend to be problematic.
You: Well, they are sometimes. Sometimes not. I have a hard time believing sexuality would be one of the areas where it would be.
Seriously? You doubt an individual's sexual preference is a "societal issue"? Society thinks otherwise unfortunately. Try telling that to someone thrown off a building by a mob. Not so long ago our own sexual preference was criminalised by the state.
I do get the flip side to this - each to their own, whatever floats your boat, nobody else's business etc. - the individualism of that is quite attractive. And I wouldn't advocate harassing anyone for their sexual preferences unless they are harmful to others. But I do think it's worth thinking about why we prefer some people sexually over others, or why we reject whole groups of people out of hand. Especially when it comes to considerations of race or skin colour - or really any potentially socially divisive issue - surely it's sensible to examine motives and reasons for personal choice. Social and personal worlds are connected.
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I think saying no blacks is kinda of racist. I understand people have there own dating preferences but on any of those apps you can just not reply. I know who I do and don't like but I don't have to be an ass about it. I have been with guys of all races and different body types. I care about the person first.
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Making the key difference being between ignoring people of a group one is not interested in and stating it up front doesn't make any sense. At most it is a strategic difference. The former group is fine sifting through messages and ignoring people who are categorically disinteresting, whereas the latter doesn't want to have to deal with that sifting process and so discourages that group up front. How does being upfront make one an ass?
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Seeing no blacks is racist to me and it resembles 1950s before civil rights movement.It's Just poor taste. I also don't like the label no fats or fem. It's very closed minded thinking. I have a type in my head but I don't feel the need to be "upfront". Maybe I'm just a nice guy. I was taught If you dont have something nice to say don't say anything at all. Very simple. It's not hard to not respond. Most have blocking features too. Just like Instagram and Facebook, I just delete request.
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Just so we're clear, this has absolutely nothing to do with civil rights. This is just personal preferences for sex. It has not impact on the civil sphere.
So... you're saying that you dislike that some people have preferences that exclude overweight men or effeminate men? Would you say the same for small dicked men? I can't help shaking this suspicion that this is really about not being allowed to reject "oppressed peoples".
Well... isn't that the nature of preferences? Highly open sexuality would not include such strong preferences, would it? Why is that inherently better though? Further, why should it be moralized such that people with strong preferences are condemned?
Ditto. I have my own preferences but back when I was using cruising apps I never included exclusionary requirements. Partially because my preferences though in some cases are strong are yet not absolute. But that doesn't mean I take issue with someone taking a more assertive strategy. Why should I?
I fail to see how mere exclusion from sexual interaction is mean. If a man were on a dating site and looking to have (biological) children and he stated up front that he was not interested in women known to be infertile, would that be mean? To me it just seems to be serving the interests of the life path he wishes to pursue.
Some guys get a lot of messages and like to cut down on what they have to sift through where they can.
I agree with you actually. Putting it so bluntly, 'no blacks', is just rude and insensitive.
Yep, bottom line is that it's nasty, unnecessary and divisive - imo.
I am super turned on by blond body hair and a throbbing pink or red cock. I don't know why but I am. I still recognize that beauty comes in all shades. I don't know how someone could draw a hard line like that. It looks like they could find something they like about any ethnicity. Everyone has their preference but I have seen some very hot black guys on this site with big red knobs that get me hard looking at them.
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