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I feel bad because guys like me are the reason some women don't like to give head. Although I'm not huge by any stretch (just under 8"), when I come, she better be ready. First time I saw somebody ooohing at a Peter North ejaculation, I didn't understand what the fuss was about. When I was in my 20's I would come twice as much. I shoot smaller loads now that I'm in my 40's, but I still spray semen all over the place, and I guess that can be a real turn off for a woman?
 

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I agree with the general trend: This could easily be a relationship killer, and if it's bad now, it'll only get worse.

If you really, really want this relationship to last, you need to talk this out OR work around to that by talking about sex in general and, "Hey, can we try role playing?" If she'll go for that, it's a start.

I've known several girls and a couple of older women who wouldn't do it. After talking it out, or role playing a bit, if she still wouldn't, we parted. My best experience was a girl who was doing me on the sly; she finally agreed to try it and discovered that she loved it. Too bad she was married, but her husband is a lucky man!
 

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I've had this same situation in relationships. I love to suck cock, but the man I was with all but refused to go down on me or would make a big ordeal out of it. I put up with it for a long time (even longer than you), and ended up doing just what you are: withholding oral and then sex altogether. My thought was, "Why the hell should I lay here and let you stab me with your cock over and over again until you get off, when you know full well I'm not even CLOSE to cumming??" I give head NOT because the physical ACT pleases me in any way ... I give head (and love it!) because I know how good it makes HIM feel. I expect that same consideration in return, especially since it takes a lot more time & effort for me to orgasm. Find out why she doesn't like it and try to compromise or fix the problem outright. If that doesn't work, and oral sex is important to you ... Then you both need to find someone else.
 

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I hope the two of you can work this out, but from experience I can tell you that when I have dated a woman that said NO, it meant NO. I could not have a permanent relationship with anyone that refused to give and take orally. It is too important a part of sex for me. When I am so old that someone has to help me tear my hands from a walker just to get to eat pussy, I will still be eating pussy. Just may need some help getting up and down. You should have figured out what you really wanted before you fell in love. Now it is gonna be complicated. Once again good luck and I hope the two of you work this out.
 

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i was always of the opinion that relationships (wheter comitted or not) were about compromise. we all gotta do things we dont like. and we usually do those things to make someone we care about happy. so when your significant other wants to drag your ass to an all day shoe shopping expedition (and yes its ALWAYS an expedition) he/she/it/they should do something for you in return.

its just how the system works. i scratch your back and you scratch mine. it may sound kinda low but when you really think about it most of life is about back scratching and ass kissing.
 

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Talk about it with her. You may not get a hummer out of the deal but you will come to an understanding of her feelings/beliefs/limitations.

I have not had a blow job since 1988!

She did it when we first got married but she has a tiny mouth. I am 6.5" in circumference. Her jaws literally ached during and for sometime thereafter. She kisses it, licks it, and hold it next to her face (I love that) . . . but no oral penetration. That is just the way it is.

Even when she would perform orally back in the day, she asked that I not cum in her mouth. I never have come in a womans mouth. I have wanted to as I think it is ultimately hot, but it is not to be. She does not mind cum anywhere else on her though and we have a GREAT time with that.

It may be physical. Hell, I cannot goto the dentist unless they put me out. I am a gagger. I cannot even hold anything between my teeth like an envelope for example. I am as I am.
 

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Well dude; I see where you're coming from. I have been married almost 10 years and I am in the same boat; no blowjobs and rarely get to eat pussy; my wife says oral sex isn't right and not natural??? I used to get them sometimes before we were married but have only had about 5 in 10 years; sometimes I feel like finding a gal just for a blowjob and eating her pussy; I also think it's more intimate than sex and if you really love your partner you'll do anything to please the other person; just my beliefe though and even Tiffany Granath on Sirius Playboy radio says a gal who won't go down on her man is wrong.
 

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Got a quick question here been dating this girl for almost a year, we are very serious. I have never gotten a blowjob from her. She said she doesnt like to do it. At first i was kind of okay with it cause the sex was amazing. Now even though the sex is still absolutley amazing all i really want it a Blow job. We fought about it in the beging of our relationship and i was a dick/insensitive about it now if i even mention i she gets really pissed. I mean i absolutley love her, i want to marry her but i dont want our sex life to get fucked up over this. I see it starting already. I always would do anything for her sexually now i dont give a fuck. I have not gone down on her for the past 2 weeks and will never do it again. I do not even want to do anything besides fuck her since she does nothing for me in regards to foreplay. Any ideas?

Just 2 cents here, contrary to what some are posting, she sounds exactly like the marrying kind. An analogy here, and to be totally honest, what's between my parents is between themselves sexually, but I can't imagine my old man shooting a load in my mom's mouth/face like a free 20 second mpg file on a porn site, not even when they were in their prime (sorry for a warped graphic, it makes me shudder too). But, they've been married for 50 years.

Relationships are what they are, some last, others are fleeting. Maybe that is how she perceives it. Maybe she has bigger plans for you in her life ? And your feelings of going down on her, who's to say that even if you were getting your bj's from date #1, that you wouldn't be at that stage now or a few months from now. It's hard for a significant other to play all the roles we fantasize about. In many ways, I empathize with women today, they are expected to be a lady in the streets and a whore in the bedroom. That kind of Jeckyll & Hyde role playing wreaks havoc on a person's self esteem, especially if they are producing that and a year or two into the relationship they get dumped ala Alannis Morrisette of the 1990's. I can understand to a large extent why there are bitter women and even men in this world.