No Guy Has Ever Liked Me, But Girls Always Do

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I just don't really understand how I can be hit on by girls but have never been hit on by a guy ever. I don't publicize my sexuality, but I mean guys flirt with anything that breathes except for me. Maybe I just don't understand when someone is flirting or what the signs are of another guy liking you. What are you guys thoughts?
 
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Are you going to places where gay guys hang? I think the assumption by most women when they see a masculine presenting male is that he is straight and they are probably more likely to hint at their attraction because it is socially acceptable. Being gay is still taboo in some places and gay men are more cautious when they don't know if another guy is gay or not. I've met plenty of guys in public that I found attractive but I've never let my attraction be known because it wasn't clear to me if they were gay/bi/curious when they very well could have been. I don't know that I would feel safe even assuming such a thing unless at a gay bar or at some kind of gay function like a parade to be honest. On the flipside there are guys that are very good at talking to someone and eking out information. Older guys are sometimes bolder and will make passes or talk to you and come to their own conclusion.
 

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I just don't really understand how I can be hit on by girls but have never been hit on by a guy ever. I don't publicize my sexuality, but I mean guys flirt with anything that breathes except for me. Maybe I just don't understand when someone is flirting or what the signs are of another guy liking you. What are you guys thoughts?

Considering less than 10% of men are gay, women and men will assume you are straight.

So unless you initiate or project a more gay vibe then you're not going to get far. Obviously going to gay venues will boost your odds.

If you don't have good gaydar, then gay apps are your best option.
 
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I have opposite.

Even when with gf or now wive, I get hit on by gay men regularly.
I do not think I give of a " come fuck me" vibe and consider myself very masculine and before I was married invariably was entangled with women.
I suppose it is my 10%....
 
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Funny, I have the EXACT reverse of your problem; only guys have ever hit on me and women have overlooked me completely and totally my entire life, yet if you meet me, you'd never know I was bisexual.

I think @HOU_HEADHUNTER nailed it: it may be that if you project a more overt gay vibe, they may think there's no point in approaching you.
 

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Personally may have something to do with it. I’m very formal and intellectual, which many women find attractive but most gay men find off putting. It took me a long time (decades) to find a boyfriend.
 
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I have opposite.

Even when with gf or now wive, I get hit on by gay men regularly.
I do not think I give of a " come fuck me" vibe and consider myself very masculine and before I was married invariably was entangled with women.
I suppose it is my 10%....

Your modesty is sweet but we all know it's your sizable banana that brings all the boys to the yard. Hahaha