no intercourse orgasm for her

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  1. D_Ernest Porknine

    D_Ernest Porknine New Member

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    I have not been able to give any woman I've been with an orgasm through intercourse. I know not every woman can achieve an orgasm via intercourse so I guess I've just had the bad luck of only being with woman who can't. All of them have told me that they have never had an orgasm by intercourse so I don't think it's me.

    I have above average girth (6") and an average lenght (6.5" to 7") and have a very long lasting stamina (I can go for an hour or more and hardly climax myself these days via intercourse). I have been told I'm a great lover and can easily please the women I've been with via oral sex.

    They have told me that its not that important that they achieve orgasm via intercourse as they relish the intimacy of the act more so than the end however for me I feel like a failure in some ways and it seems the harder I try the to please the more frustrated I get.

    I like foreplay and nearly always bring my women to orgasm by oral sex first until they can't stand it anymore. I then enter them and fuck them until we are both raw.

    Very few of the women I have been with have been very tight, even on my thick cock and the one that was very tight still could not achieve an orgasm by intercourse.

    Any ideas or suggestions to help me out here or is it just what it is?
     
  2. B_Mademoiselle Rouge

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    Your desire as a man to give her an orgasm with your dick: Normal
    Her body not orgasming from intercourse: Normal
    Reality: It sucks but she's in the majority of women

    I've had some pretty awesome sex in my life, i orgasm from manual stimulation (easily now that my blood pressure is under control) but i've never had an orgasm from sex no matter how hard we try. It is what it is.
     
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    Well I admire your persistance! Keep it up. :) You'll never succeed if you stop trying. Although it must be like the treadmill set to random with constant uphill battles and sudden flat plains where you can barely hold on. I do feel badly for the men who really want to be able to share this. It's not you... Your size, shape or even personality. It's just that most of us can't get there. If you have no fear of sex toys, instead of climax by mouth (very good things btw and thank god for them) buy a non-toxic vibrator with varying speeds and use it on her clit while you are inside her after about 30 minutes. Don't play with her clit much until then. Whisper some sexy stuff right about then too. Best wishes for many happy endings.
     
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    The female orgasm, however you get it, is a precious thing. Live it, loved it and savor it. I have always treasured pleasuring women and that is my goal, however it occurs. I have been with many women, all but one of them, came during our encounters. I have had many women cum from just intercourse, but a small minourity of the women I have been with.

    So I would have to say that very few, maybe 15 to 20 %, can cum that way.
     
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    Hmm... I think in your situation you have just been with the wrong woman.....

    I love it when my girl orgasms, when I take my dick out and her orgasm is on my shaft....

    Im not big like everyone else here, 6inches actually and a girth of 4.8 or so, and I make my girl orgasm all the time, I'm the one with the trouble of having an orgasm!!!
     
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    Maybe she's just with the wrong guy?
     
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    You are going to have to ask them whether they masturbate, HOW they masturbate, and then try to apply that to intercourse.
     
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    Try not bringing them to climax orally, just to the edge, then finish out with intercourse. If I had a really good orgasm from oral, I usually would not orgasm again during intercourse but if I was brought to the edge and we had intercourse I can have multiple orgasms.
     
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    A lot of it does depend on the individual woman, some find it easier to orgasm through intercourse than others.

    The other thing to remember is never say never! I've been with the same girl for 18 months now and she never orgasmed through intercourse (but other girls I've been with had), and I was getting resigned to the fact that that was just not going to be part of our sex life, but in the past few weeks, after long periods of good hard sex she's been having what she calls 'mini orgasms' which she's never done before, so there's hope for giving her a full blown orgasm with my cock yet...
     
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    As a chick I find it very hot when a guy is willing to play out my fantasies or kinks during forplay. I can only speak on personal experience but I find it easier to orgasm when a guy holds me back a few times then makes me really desperate to come before actual sex. Ask what really turns her on then do whatever it is near the end and I am 99% she will come from it. It might just be dirty talking, carressing or even changing positions but if she finds it really hot.....
     
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    I've gotta say, women really, & I mean really love a vaginal orgasm.

    I've no idea how many women you've slept with(or the age range, as obviously the more they know their body ,the better!), but some women come upon entry, & other women you literally have to stop from coming too soon too(how weird is that?)!

    Your comments also mean you really haven't had any good sex with her on top. Women who enjoy going on top generally know how to ride themselves silly.

    Get your partners to go on top - I know that this means you could just be lying there with a static girl on top, but get her to squeeze, & encourage her to start moving around to find what's good for her.

    A lot of women are just as insecure about their sexual ability as men, so you have to help & encourage her & tell her what will, & what does feel good for you. You'll also have a great view.

    I often wonder if vibrators have made it more difficult for women to come through intercourse, a bit like porn for men, i.e because they maybe always looser from having a vibe up them, all those vibrations, & that fact they don't do anything.

    Have you ever had a girl rub her clit whilst having sex? It's incredible that even though many women have Rabbit vibes which penetrate & stimulate simultaneously, they can't be assed to rub themselves at the same time.

    Sorry, & obviously not the well educated ladies on the forum, but that's sooo lazy, just absorbing pleasure while a guy's busting a nut!

    You're best bet is obviously in a longer term relationship with someone who is willing to explore, & care about deeply.

    Either way you should always vary what you do, & seek to surprise her. As another poster mentioned, a bit of passionate kissing, sudden deeper entry,or dirty talk at the right moment can tip women over the edge (sometimes:cool:).

    Or start having sex gently, then rougher, then pull out a bullet vibe(make her hold it!!!) for her clit when she's ready for you to pound like Bob Sapp on crack.

    Like the ladies have said, don't sweat it, if they're happy, that should be enough, & you need not to worry about it, & especially don't put your shit on them, expecting them to come like that - it's meant to be intense, emotional & enjoyable.
     
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    It's evident that not all girl orgasm. Much more girls cant orgasm in comparison to the amount of men that cant orgasm. What I mean is that.....ah w.e I dont even know why Im explaining myself....
     
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    no woman has ever orgasmed with him. he sucks at laying pipe. next case.
     
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    6" girth is actually considered quite massive. 7" is above average (average is 5.25")
     
  15. D_Ernest Porknine

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    Thanks for all the repsonses. I have had intercourse with only six women in my life but most of them have been for quite long periods of time (the shortest being perhaps six months) so I feel I have gotten to know them quite well.

    A few have had an orgasm during intercouse IF they also used their vibrator but I do not count this as it is not from me alone. All of them could come from a vibrator or oral sex however I have wanted to experience them having an orgasm from me and my cock alone.

    I will keep trying. Thanks again.
     
  16. THEDUDEofDestiny

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    dont keep trying. quit and give them a chance to actually enjoy sex with a man instead of looking at it as a chore. when they are with you they probably feel like they are scrubbing floors or something
     
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    I was going to give a lengthy answer abt having experienced orgasms with long-term partners during intercourse with manual clitoral stimulation, yadda yadda yadda..... and then I read this ^.

    Dude. Get over yourself. I personally don't know of any woman who can orgasm from only cock. Not that there aren't a few out there, but that is so rare! Even studies, like the Kinsey Report, etc., have found that to be an anomaly.

    Can't you just be happy you are getting her off at all? I'm sure she is!

    Edit: By "Dude" I mean the op, Mr Flexxx, not Dude as in the Dude of Destiny who managed to sneak one in on top of me.

    Wait, that sounds like a double entendre.... ;)
     
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    now im sandwiching you. every woman's fantasy
     
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    How common is this desire for men?
    Do men give each other a hard time about this, no pun intended?
    Flex, would you feel better if you were doing doggy and the women came by rubbing their clits with their fingers? What if you were the one rubbing her clit with your fingers? Would that be good enough, or still not?? :3some:
     
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    I'm not sure about other guys, but for me it's a matter of pride.

    But a definition is in order... Think of it in terms of a woman's orgasm. If the guy can't cum from regular intercourse, how would that make you feel? If, in order for him to have an orgasm, he needed to pull out and stroke it with his hand.

    Now, it's not a dealbreaker by any stretch of the imagination, but a "hands free" orgasm is definitely an ego booster. Having said that though, her enjoying the moment whether or not she orgasms is what is paramount.

    If she needs a vibe on her clit to have an orgasm, go for it!! I'm all for that as long as she's having fun.
     
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