Other guys can do what they want, but I no longer feel peer pressured into doing real man stuff that just isnt right for me. Lets start with a special example of peer pressure: how to be a proper pee-er. Women (my mother did this) generally think a guy who doesnt pee straight is just careless end of story. Thats not true. These gadgets we have are wonderful, but theyre not perfect. Aiming is as much a male art as a skill. Where youd like the flow to go and where it goes are not always the same thing. (Whether you leave the mistakes where they land or wipe them up is another story.) So I decided years ago that I could care less whether anyone else knows that I sit down to pee when I get up in the middle of the night. I know where its going when I sit down. End of story. Also, Im 64 with very long legs. Ive never been much for stretching exercises, and the standard U.S. male practice of sitting with ankle on knee is, for me, a stupidly uncomfortable bit of meaningless sexism. At best, my crossing knee points to the sky, and its ankle bone partner hurts. So, years ago, I said screw this and Ive crossed my legs like a woman (I suppose) or an intelligent 64 male. Who cares? Im also very grateful that men in our society have learned to hug. I grew up with a hand-shaking father who was the son of a hand-shaking father. My dad is now dead and we never once exchanged a hug. What a waste. There are lots of other examples of sneseless male taboos in American society. And Im sure the same holds true in other cultures. There are a few ways Im glad Im not young anymore. Worrying about how to pee, how to cross my legs, and whether to show some affection to other men is something Im glad to have outgrown. If other guys agree or disagree with me it might be fun to see what you think.