no man has ever made me orgasm

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  1. dolfette

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    porn & erotica are trying to convince me that other women cum several times/encounter, from oral, anal, fingering & penetration.

    porn lied to me damnit!

    anyone else feel this way?
     
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    That situation you just described is a night with me. It's possible. If you have the right guy. I was telling my mate last night I can make a girl cum in under a minute with oral. When you get tired you used your head...keep constant pressure and lick all over...

    But I must desist...can't tell all my secrets.
     
  3. dolfette

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    because it's not like ALL men claim that :tongue:
     
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    hahaha no shit huh? I think I've had every guy tell me that. Omly one ever made me cum, and no one has ever found the mystery that is my gspot.
     
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    I'm not sure which porns you're referring to Dolfette. 90% of them just have some bored-as-shit girl getting mechanically reamed by some big-dicked-but-otherwise-unattractive guy until he pops (facial of course, why be original?). My wife and I love adding porn to spice up our sexlife, but trying to find movies where the girl seems to be truly getting off instead of being used as an attractive jizz receptacle is damn near impossible, although there are a few good series out there.

    As far as making a woman orgasm every time? In my limited experience, all girls react uniquely to different things. Some can't orgasm during different points in their cycle, and others are easier to bring over the edge. The key is to just keep on trying, and making your partners pleasure an absolute priority. You'll eventually stumble onto the right combination.
     
  6. dolfette

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    yup, every single one.

    i mean, some of them were fantastic lovers! plenty of foreplay, long lasting sex but i never got anywhere near orgasm.

    whenever i say this men assume it's just bad lovers...but there's more to it than just pushing the right button.
     
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    Every woman is different, of course, but I've encountered my share of women that could climax repeatedly from sex, over and over again. I think it has more to do with knowing yourself sexually than finding a skilled partner, though naturally that helps a lot.
     
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    I don't have multiple orgasms and I don't squirt. It took me until I was about 20 to have an orgasm during sex and even longer to do so with any regularity. I have felt like there's something wrong with me or that I'm missing out on things at all these times in my life. It kinda sucks, doesn't it? We're simply not all the same.

    I don't buy that it's all about the right guy, I think that's bullshit that men like to thump their chests about. With the number of men I've been with, you'd think I would have come across that Don Juan at least once. It's all about the individual woman,and how psychological, emotional, and physical affect her sexual performance.
     
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    Some women just don't. There may be reasons that reside with her.

    I was married to one (in the early part of my adult life) who couldn't reach orgasm by herself nor with me. After we split she later informed me that she had uncovered some childhood trauma involving sexual issues. It was unexplained, but I surmise a form of incest or sexual interference) and her detachment to her sexual enjoyment resulted.
     
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    you're porn jinxed!
    it's a huge turn off when sex turns into the quest for the lost O.
    starts to feel like a test. i'd rather just not cum at all.
     
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    There's nothing wrong with you Snoozan. After playing the dating game for years, my wife's first orgasms were with me, after years of sex that she considered to be 'good' with other partners. I didn't bring any special talents, a monster cock, or a tongue on steroids into the bedroom, but somehow she started orgasming after we had been together a while. I think it was her being comfortable and giving herself to the moment as much as anything I was doing correctly. My state of mind affects the quality of sex greatly, so I'm gonna guess that it factors heavily for women also.

    Now it's that struggle to get as much sex as possible wedged between kids that won't go to bed, work responsibilities, and cleaning the fucking house!
     
  12. dolfette

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    i don't think this is always true.

    i think some women are just physically less orgasmic than others.
     
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    I'm not suggesting setting up bar graphs and charts in the bedroom to keep track of successes and failures. I am more referring to a statement that was made in another thread weeks ago (perhaps by Altered Ego?) which simply stated "Same gets same". In other words, if you bring the same technique to bed every single time, there's a good chance you'll get the same results. If I was still doing what I was my "very first time" between the sheets with a girl, I would still be single for sure.
     
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    Has a woman ever "made" you orgasm?
     
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    Some women do, some woman do once, some women do rarely, some women don't unless you use your hands during.

    Never met one that couldn't orgasm, given patience and finding out what she liked. Some girls just require finger play during sex to get them off.
     
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    I agree with this. The consistent factor with me and orgasms during sex is a longtime sexual relationship. It seems like the more I know someone and the more comfortable I am, the better sex is. Lately my husband and I have been having great sex when we can fit in, but I know there will be times that it won't be as spectacular for awhile. Relationships all have cycles, sexual and otherwise. I'm better able to enjoy sex with someone once we have time to explore and experience those cycles.

    Someone told me that the "terrible twos" was really the "terrible two months." Now that I have a 2 year old I understand this to be true. Managing to fit in sex more than that is quite a feat!

    I agree with this, and I also think some people are just less sexual than others, period. I don't care if the reasons are hormonal, physical, psychological or whatever, it's just how people are. Different. It's hard not to get stressed out and feel inadequate if you're not having 17 orgasms every time you have sex, but you've just got to accept who you are and what you can and cannot do. If you enjoy the sex you're having, then it doesn't really matter.
     
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    LMAO! ok, i get it.

    lack of experimentation is not something my bedroom life has ever suffered from :biggrin1:
     
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    Ha :tongue: touche

    But...really. I'm "amazing in bed" - that's a quote from my ex...all I wanna do is make girls cummm!

    If you have a lazy lover then it will be shit. But someone atheletic, curious and willing as I, is the number one cause of orgasm in women aged 0-65 :cool:

    lol.

    But seriously...:wink:
     
  20. dolfette

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    goddamnmotherfuckingtinyclit! :mad:

    i blame everything on my clit.
     
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