no man has ever made me orgasm

[transformer_99]

porn & erotica are trying to convince me that other women cum several times/encounter, from oral, anal, fingering & penetration.

porn lied to me damnit!

anyone else feel this way?

I've been telling the world this for years, "Sex and ejaculations/orgasms is a selfish act". We are each responsible for our own climax events. Be accountable and responsible for your own ejaculation or orgasm and stop blaming another. It's all in your mind, not theirs ! I guarantee you'll never have bad sex.

 

[Blocko]

I did meet a girl in exactly the same situation as you Dolfette... we did find a solution, which was spooning while she used her fingers on herself. This way, I could be totally in control while she rubbed herself...

 

[B_josiah852]

I have been with a couple of ladies that their clits were covered with a thin layer of skin and it took much more concentration on the stimulation that the avg lady. I have been with ladies that only orgasm from stimulation and not penetration. Some of the ladies I have been with could orgasm just from penetration or sitting on my cock and moving in a manner that made them orgasm. One must remember that women are just as complicated as we men are. If you ladies have this type of problem then maybe it would be best to help the man figure out how to fix this problem. After all we are not va jj doctors, just va jj lovers.

 

[trainrman]

i'll just be reading or listening to music & suddenly the mood will take me.quote]It sounds like a tough problem and I probably don't have the solution either, but I had a thought.

My wife used to use a vibrator and we found that the more she did, the more difficult it was for her to cum, until only the vibrator would do it for her. She quit the vibrator for a couple months, continued to have straight sex, and after that, she could get off with oral or fingering.

If you've lost sensitivity due to the vibrator, it's possible you can re-sensitize yourself by refraining from it for awhile.

2 cents.

 

[dolfette]

Haha brilliant :biggrin1:

gets some funny looks from the dog though.

 

[dolfette]

The worst thing that you can do is to think that your orgasm is exclusive - because frankly that is pooh pooh.

i know why i can't. it's all in the mind.

doesn't mean i can't laugh about it though.

pooh pooh!

 

[Love-it]

...porn lied to me!!!!!!!

And it lies to men as well.

My wife has never had an orgasm from penetration. Vibrators, fingers and oral sex work brilliantly, last week was the first time she ever had two orgasms, the first from a vibrator and about 20 minutes later from oral.

Not being a woman, I can only offer an observation: your ability to relax, accept and enjoy your sexuality, with a man is key. It doesn't have to hard, fast and furious, sex can be luxurious, leisurely and extremely intense at the same time. My wife had to learn to relax and it took her awhile before she was able to orgasm from oral sex. Part of it was her background and part of it was that she was not familiar with the sensations of a tongue on her clit. In much the same way when she first took me in her mouth I experienced wonderful sensations but it was so dissimilar to any thing sexual that I was familiar with, masturbation mostly, that it took awhile before I could orgasm from oral.

Good luck!

 

[dolfette]

In much the same way when she first took me in her mouth I experienced wonderful sensations but it was so dissimilar to any thing sexual that I was familiar with, masturbation mostly, that it took awhile before I could orgasm from oral.

that is so sweet!

 

[dongalong]

I'd like to know what is going on inside your mind, from the sound of it you are focused on: "how am I going to fake it" "I'm bored, think I'll start faking now", "If I fake it this way, it will be more convincing" etc.

I can understand that the sensations are not intense enough to be totally concentrated on them, I sometimes have that problem from blowjobs. But I overcame it by thinking about the thoughts and images that have made me orgasm before, I could control when I wanted to cum.
During masturbation, try using your imagination to get more turned on, some women have had orgasms just by their thoughts and by reading erotic books (talk to Pirate wench)
Kegelling during sex seems to make the sensations more intense and speeds up orgasms so start making your pussy nice and muscular!.

 

[dolfette]

I'd like to know what is going on inside your mind, from the sound of it you are focused on: "how am I going to fake it" "I'm bored, think I'll start faking now", "If I fake it this way, it will be more convincing" etc.

wtf did you draw that image from??

did i ever say i don't get into and enjoy sex?
did i ever say i fake for anyone's pleasure but my own?
faking enhances sex for me...if you have an issue with that it's your problem.

men

 

[dolfette]

During masturbation, try using your imagination to get more turned on, some women have had orgasms just by their thoughts and by reading erotic books (talk to Pirate wench)
Kegelling during sex seems to make the sensations more intense and speeds up orgasms so start making your pussy nice and muscular!.

advice on how to wank????????????

oh boy! *sigh*

 

[dongalong]

wtf did you draw that image from??

did i ever say i don't get into and enjoy sex?
did i ever say i fake for anyone's pleasure but my own?
faking enhances sex for me...if you have an issue with that it's your problem.

men

I drew it from some of your earlier posts about faking it, but it seems I didn't understand everything in minute detail, apologies if I have touched a nerve!

advice on how to wank????????????

oh boy! *sigh*

I suppose you've tried everything , did you start this thread to complain about men or do you want suggestions to help?

 

[dolfette]

I drew it from some of your earlier posts about faking it, but it seems I didn't understand everything in minute detail, apologies if I have touched a nerve!

deciding i'm a cold fish, because i don't O and i like to fake? what could i find offensive about that?

I suppose you've tried everything , did you start this thread to complain about men or do you want suggestions to help?

did i ask for help?
or did i ask how many other women were the same...and a few said they were not so different.

tried everything? not yet but i dedicate way to much time trying to :saevil:
wanking is an art form. i study hard!

 

[dongalong]

deciding i'm a cold fish, because i don't O and i like to fake? what could i find offensive about that?

did i ask for help?
or did i ask how many other women were the same...and a few said they were not so different.

tried everything? not yet but i dedicate way to much time trying to :saevil:
wanking is an art form. i study hard!

OK, I'll shut up then!

 

[dolfette]

OK, I'll shut up then!

you're not allowed to stop arguing while i'm still annoyed at you!!!

*sigh*

you call me frigid
then i call you shallow
then you call me a bitch
then i throw crockery at your head

some men just don't know their roles

 

[dongalong]

you're not allowed to stop arguing while i'm still annoyed at you!!!

*sigh*

you call me frigid
then i call you shallow
then you call me a bitch
then i throw crockery at your head

some men just don't know their roles

Your complexity is too much for me, I'm off to the pub!:tongue:

 

[dolfette]

Your complexity is too much for me, I'm off to the pub!:tongue:

now you're in role! :biggrin1:

 

[dongalong]

now you're in role! :biggrin1:

How long will it take for you to calm down?

 

[dolfette]

How long will it take for you to calm down?

depends what sort of flowers you come home with.

white roses and i'll be faking all over you!

 

[dongalong]

depends what sort of flowers you come home with.

white roses and i'll be faking all over you!

As long as it's not a fake squirt!!!:biggrin1: How about a Kit kat from the newsagent's? The flower shops are shut today!:tongue: