no man has ever made me orgasm

[dolfette]

If were me who was concerned about this ( which its not .. i have noooo problem with having an orgasm) I would say masterbation is the trick.First learn your body,learn where ur spots are.. and then when u are with ur guy.. dont make it so obvious but let him know what really gets u to that point.Some guys love a woman who is aggressive just a little bit.But first learn ur body.. that is essential.. I use to say.. I am the best lover I ever had.. till i found my most recent lover.. and Im more than open with him and he is willing to do anything with me beyond his limits.. and the sex is much better that way.. knowing urself and communication is the key here.. keep that in mind...

i wank just fine.
i just don't get off on someone else doing the exact same thing.

*wanking for england*

i'm good with my hands, showers, dildos, vibes, electrodes.
and i've never had an issue with saying what i like.

maybe i'm isexual...i only get off on me.

 

[dolfette]

Dolfette, did you check out the book I suggested?

i totally forgot about it actually.

but i have so many flippin' sex books already, including the female orgasm orientated ones.

 

[indeed]

No orgasm from sex? :O
Indeed can help maybe

 

[dolfette]

No orgasm from sex? :O
Indeed can help maybe

that cliche was already covered on page one. :wink:

 

[agswin10]

I have discovered over time that until a girl learns on her own how to orgasm (ie. vibrator), she will have trouble achieving one during sex. It doesn't matter how massive the dick is; she will not cum unless she already knows how to get there on her own.

 

[dolfette]

I have discovered over time that until a girl learns on her own how to orgasm (ie. vibrator), she will have trouble achieving one during sex. It doesn't matter how massive the dick is; she will not cum unless she already knows how to get there on her own.

but not in this case.

i'm talking about women who CAN come on their own!

 

[Hand_Solo]

Dolfette, can you cum in front of other people? I mean, could it be sort of a subconscious stage-fright issue? The presence of other people might cause just enough self-consciousness, tension, whatever, that you can't let go enough to get off. Just thinking out loud here (if you count the clicking of my keyboard) as this is an interesting issue.

 

[lxander]

I believe that you have to invest a lot of time to build-up the excitment level...at least 10 mins of fore play & oral, building up the intensity...I can usually sense when LAURA is ready to go & how she wants it...if I spread her wide whilst licking & sucking her cunt she has great difficulty holding her "O" back...when she is really aroused she always wants anal & always, always cums.
MochLoff

 

[dolfette]

I believe that you have to invest a lot of time to build-up the excitment level...at least 10 mins of fore play & oral, building up the intensity...I can usually sense when LAURA is ready to go & how she wants it...if I spread her wide whilst licking & sucking her cunt she has great difficulty holding her "O" back...when she is really aroused she always wants anal & always, always cums.
MochLoff

only 10 minutes?????

 

[dolfette]

Dolfette, can you cum in front of other people? I mean, could it be sort of a subconscious stage-fright issue? The presence of other people might cause just enough self-consciousness, tension, whatever, that you can't let go enough to get off. Just thinking out loud here (if you count the clicking of my keyboard) as this is an interesting issue.

i'm fine as long as they aren't touching me.

 

[Drifterwood]

Me neither

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Me neither

Not even yourself!?

Need a hand?

 

[Drifterwood]

Not even yourself!?

Need a hand?

I'm not a man, I'm a sex god :biggrin1:

We don't even need hands - but other people's do come in handy. Now please get a grip :tongue:

 

[ManlyBanisters]

I'm not a man, I'm a sex god :biggrin1:

We don't even need hands - but other people's do come in handy. Now please get a grip :tongue:

*gets a grip*

Wow - you are a big boy!

Sorry dolfette - don't mind us... :redface:

 

[Drifterwood]

Mmmmhhh not bad - wanna try some lockjaw?

 

[ManlyBanisters]

Mmmmhhh not bad - wanna try some lockjaw?

mphpphhh mmffpmh mmphphmmmphphh?

 

[Drifterwood]

mphpphhh mmffpmh mmphphmmmphphh?

Talking with your mouth full - tut tut - you will need to learn your lesson when you are finished, my dear. :smile:

 

[Principessa]

no man has ever made me orgasm
porn & erotica are trying to convince me that other women cum several times/encounter, from oral, anal, fingering & penetration.

porn lied to me damnit!

anyone else feel this way?

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I have been trying to decide for weeks which surprises me more, the fact you were honest/courageous enough to post this thread on this site or the number of responses received thus far which have been of no help whatsoever to you. :redface:

Unlike everybody else I have no sure fire cure for you. :frown1: However I can kinda commiserate. I cannot masturbate to climax in front of a guy. I can do it alone, I can do it during cyber, or phone sex. God forbid my man requests that I pleasure myself in front of him my body dries up like the Sahara. I just can't do it with an audience. :redface: It used to bother me, but not anymore. Of course that was back when I only had 1 orgasm every 15-20 times I had sex.

This may have already been mentioned but perhaps it's an age thing. When I was your age I almost never climaxed. Once I hit 33 though, it was like someone had flipped a switch, and at 40 the floodgates opened and I started having multiple orgasms which ripple through me like wonderful waves.

On this one thing, porn and erotica are not lieing to you. With the right man and mind set I can cum several times per encounter from oral, anal; and/or vaginal penetration. Oral sex is pretty much guaranteed to make me orgasm and squirt. tee hee hee :tongue: who am I kidding? I don't even have to like the guy much to have a mind blowing orgasm from anal sex. :biggrin1: :redface:

 

[Love-it]

i wank just fine.
i just don't get off on someone else doing the exact same thing.
The trouble is it's not "...the exact same thing."

*wanking for england* Is that a song?

i'm good with my hands, showers, dildos, vibes, electrodes.
and i've never had an issue with saying what i like.

maybe i'm isexual...i only get off on me.

Trust is a precious thing and hard to come by, if you are able to trust you are able to relax and enjoy. The only other observation that may be valid is "letting go" but it probably also revolves around trust.

Isexual isn't all bad.

 

[dolfette]

This may have already been mentioned but perhaps it's an age thing. When I was your age I almost never climaxed. Once I hit 33 though, it was like someone had flipped a switch, and at 40 the floodgates opened and I started having multiple orgasms which ripple through me like wonderful waves.[/FONT]

i'm 31 years old!!!!!

woohoo