No Mention Of Your Impressive Size

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Have you ever been in an intimate encounter where the other person(s) appeared to take no notice, and did not make any comment, regarding your penis, ignoring the fact that its length, girth or other characteristics clearly place it in categories such as "huge", "beautiful", "amazing", "very nice"-- when your experience has been that it will usually elicit a comment under such circumstances? Do you think the person is just being polite? That they don't know what to say? That they do not wish to draw comparison to their own penis? Do you feel shortchanged by the lack of acknowledgment or do you appreciate it? What about mentions by men versus mentions by women? Do you consider the withholding of comment/compliment as an gesture of selfishness? Jealousy?
 

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If you want to come accros as a total dick then mention it.
I feel it is OK if my cock is specifically, explicitely being discussed to join in and if asked will even haul it out and make it hard. If I am asked.
Imo best to wait for the explsit request and avoid bringing it up in discussion.
 
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I make no judgments about lack of comment or reaction. I cannot and do not attempt to read minds.

In my experience men comment more than women but women react just as much as men without commenting verbally. This falls into the category of "70% of all communication is non-verbal."

Shortchanged? Withholding? Who is so egotistical to be that insecure?

Don't be paranoid. Enjoy sex.:cool:
 
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I've only had 2 partners, both LTR and female, neither have mentioned size more than once or twice in the years we have been together, but I gathered it in indirect ways, like my first girlfriend asking her doctor what techniques she could use to make intercourse more comfortable and she complained about her jaw getting sore. My second partner tells me to cum after 20 minutes because she's getting sore when she's fully wet, also complaining about her jaw getting sore as well. Not until I had visited LPSG did I know that I was somewhat above average in size.
 
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All my partners (except the first) knew I was big before we ever went out (or stayed in) or got undressed. So I wasn't expecting any comments. I know my dick is big without having anyone tell me. If they'd had sex before, they know when a cock's big, small or in-between. I'm perfectly willing to just enjoy sex without all the endless chit-chat.
 
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I have had sex with around 20 women and not one of them said anything about it when I was with them. They said something later on when we weren’t together any more. I have had friends that have seen it that have made comments but never with a sexual partner. I was insecure for a long time because of that. Ahhh the fragile male ego, or at least mine.
 
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I can't recall any time when a woman I was with hasn't commented on my being large at some point before, during or after sex. But not always in positive ways, unfortunately o_O Whenever it is mentioned in an appreciative way, though, I view it as just pillow talk--sweet nothings that should be taken with a healthy dose of salt. People say all kinds of things in the heat of the moment, some true, some just embellished fantasies, some just what she thinks I might like. So don't take it personally if a partner doesn't say anything and don’t take it too seriously if they do.

To be honest, I think it might be nice to not have it mentioned some times--as I was self-conscious, even embarrassed, about my size when I was younger. So if you're with a partner and they don't mention your size, take it as a compliment, they may just be in the moment and focusing on their own pleasure and appreciating other things about you. In general, while it's perfectly okay to enjoy some flattery and attention from a partner about one's body, it should be within reason. If sex becomes about seeking out compliments about one's genitals, then that's probably not the healthiest thing in the world. Just my two cents.
 
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