No mind blowing orgasm when on Lexapro?

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I have been on Lexapro for over a year now. It works great. I have lost quite a bit of my anxiety and have had no panic attacks (last one, they thought I was having a heart attack).

But of course there are the sexual side effects. One I just love. Makes me last and last and last before I get the urge to shoot. My wife just adores me now and says that she has never been so satisfied (an ego boost for sure). But the other one is that I don't seem to have the "mind blowing" orgasms that I did before. I have good ones, but not where I forget where and who I am, making my toes curl, etc.

Anyone else have this problem?
 

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Honestly, if you're able to get erect and ejaculate at all with on an anti-depressant, consider yourself damn fucking lucky.
 

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I've never been on Lexapro, but I've been on pretty much every other SSRI. I can't remember right off hand which meds did it, but I know several of them gave me the same side effect as you. Its a blessing and a curse (if you're in a sexual relationship with someone). The only two things I can suggest for you to do are: #1 Get on a new anti-depressant (or anti-anxiety med such as Xanax, Valium, Soma)
#2 Try some sort of 'male enhancement' drug such as enzyte, extenze, viagra, etc.

I've taken extenze in the past....not to try to increase my cock size, but rather to give me better erections (as I stated before, I'm on anti-depressants, and they can make erections weak, and kill my sex drive). It definately gave me better erections and increased my sensitivity.

I'd definately talk to my doctor about it, as he/she might have some other suggestions.
 

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Interestingly enough I got put on adderall a couple months back and I have just the opposite issue (certainly not a prob). I am hornier than when I was 18, and every load has been huge -- like big towel worthy huge! That and I find I'm getting hard easier, staying hard longer, and the level of hardness is much more.

It's not listed as an actual side effect for it, but hey I am NOT complaining!
 

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A side effect of many medications will cause a decrease in testorterone. Ask your doctor to check your's. If it is low he can prescribe Androgel. It is easy and non-messy and has a lot of fantastic side effects, too.
A lot of the opoid pain medications are expected to cause the decrease, too. One of the first tests they do is to check your hormone levels.
 

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I did bring it up with my doctor on my last visit. I am now on Cialis and that makes me nice and hard. Harder than I have ever been in mylife (late 40's). After the first month of being on Lexapro, I had a followup appointment and my doctor asked if I had any sexual side effects. I explained about how I liked holding off when I cum, but that I didn't have the greatest of orgasms.

He was surprised that I was able to cum at all. He said that a couple of his male paitients pump away until their partners complain of soreness and they have to quit.

We talked a bit about my side effects and right now, even tho it has been a year, I would much rather not have the anxiety attacks (my wife says I am much easier to live with now) and just have a so-so orgasms than try to switch anti-anxiety meds to see if the orgasm situation improves.

Just was wondering if there were any other ideas out there. Thanks for your responses.
 

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Honestly, if you're able to get erect and ejaculate at all with on an anti-depressant, consider yourself damn fucking lucky.
I thought this side effect with SSRIs was transitory..gradually reduces and vanishes. No? If not, I'd be talking to my doctor about an alternative. Some versions work better than others for people?
 

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Its funny how the medicine affects us differently. I started on Lexipro and had some of the best orgasms of my life. I was louder than my wife so now when we do get it on she starts to back off in fear of me letting the neighbors know what we are doing. Lately after taking it for months its settled down and sort of back to normal. I did have the ability to last longer and enjoy it more.

Now Strattera was a different matter. I would be jacking off and realize I came everywhere but didn't have an orgasm. I could keep going and still cum again so its no biggy but I cum so much that during sex if it happened she had a hard to getting off. Now a bit of a sick note. I had always wanted to eat her pussy after I came inside but could never do it after I shot off. I could do it because in my head I had not cum and it was so damn good making her cum but licking my cum out of her. Then I could go again and really cum.
 

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I have been on Lexapro (called Cipralex in Canada) for about 5 years now, and have experienced all parts of the spectrum.

At first, it did make it harder to reach orgasm, but at least orgasm was still possible, which it essentially wasn't on Prozac. Nevertheless, I was annoyed enough at the difficulty reaching orgasm that I tried to reduce the dose of Lexapro to see if it would help. It didn't help -- I just got more depressed -- so I went back to the prescribed dose.

I never noticed any decrease of the quality of my orgasms due to Lexapro.

The problems, though, for me, haven't been permanent. The last year or two I have been able to come more quickly (on a consistent basis) than ever before in my life. With the right stimulation, these days, I will come in about 90 seconds or less even if I am trying not to come yet. So Lexapro didn't cause a permanent problem for me, and I still think my quality of life (in terms of less depression) is better with than without the drug, so I continue to take it.

Interestingly enough I got put on adderall a couple months back and I have just the opposite issue (certainly not a prob). I am hornier than when I was 18, and every load has been huge -- like big towel worthy huge! That and I find I'm getting hard easier, staying hard longer, and the level of hardness is much more.

It's not listed as an actual side effect for it, but hey I am NOT complaining!

I do have ADHD, and took Adderall once for about 6 months. I noticed the same thing at 20mg of Adderall -- I was massively horny and reached orgasm easily. As an experiment, my psychiatrist raised my dose to 30mg/day, and that was a problem. I was still horny, but could no longer come unless it was really late in the day and most of the drug had worn off. So, my ex-husband and I tended to wait until late in the evening, and not bother trying to get me off during the day. Since 30mg didn't seem to be helping my ADHD any more than 20mg, I went back to the 20mg dose, and the sexual problem vanished.

Ultimately, though, I began to find that despite its positive effects, Adderall was making me excessively irritable, especially in the mornings. This eventually became enough of a problem that I had to discontinue the drug.

I thought this side effect with SSRIs was transitory..gradually reduces and vanishes. No? If not, I'd be talking to my doctor about an alternative. Some versions work better than others for people?

As I said earlier, with me, the effect with Lexapro was transitory. However, it did take several years for the situation to improve. I suggest really investigating whether you need to be on it or not. If there is a reasonable substitute (especially if Wellbutrin works for you), then I would suggest going that route if you are having sexual problems due to an SSRI. But if you absolutely have to take the SSRI for your mental well-being, try to take some heart and know that if you are patient, it is possible for things to improve in time.
 

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As Belly_Dancer said, Wellbutrin has minimal to no sexual side effects, some have even reported increased libido. It is not a SSRI, it works by raising dopamine levels. Might be worth talking to your doc about.
 

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I thought this side effect with SSRIs was transitory..gradually reduces and vanishes. No? If not, I'd be talking to my doctor about an alternative. Some versions work better than others for people?

Medications affect everyone differently, especially when it comes to side effects. Anti-depressants were not the answer for me, and I was on many (if not all then available) from 96-05, when I decided to try a different approach. For me, not dealing with side-effects compensated for the loss of any benefit I ever got from one.

The problem with switching out a med based solely on its side effect(s), especially with SSRIs, is that it can take up to a month or more before you start to see any real benefit, by which time the side effects are no longer novel but probably haven't diminished all that much. The only anti-depressant which I was pulled off from immediately was Paxil, which caused massive TMJ in 2001: it felt like every tooth in my head was being drilled simultaneously and my jaw popped, clicked and locked. Aside from the obvious discomfort, it also activated migraine: in other words: not fun :frown1:

It took months before the TMJ really abated, and I've still gotta be careful nine years later; without thinking I can cause my jaw to lock if I'm feeling anxious or stressed, subconsciously of course.