No More Crap Pm's, You C***s!!

[Heather LouAnna]

My inbox.

Since it shows that I've sent out 50 messages, it's safe to say that if you subtrack that many from the number in the inbox, the rest are messages that I've never responded to. That's about 100 in a month's period.

 

[Gisella]

This is rather off topic, lol..but not really......Is that you in your avatar Gisella?! that looks like a fun spot to swim! Not because there's a half naked girl in the water...

because I love love love the lake. <3

No is not me..but as you Lou Anna, i do love lakes..well i really love water - to swim, dive play, boats and etc.

 

[Matthew]

How would you have worded the title?

Ha ha, I kind of liked yours.

Let me say also that even though this thread is in Women's Issues, this is also very much an problem for guys receiving PMs as well. (Hint to my gay comrades: If his profile says 100% straight, chances are he's not going to become your special e-fuckbuddy when you PM him to tell him how much you want to lick his asshole).

@ Heather - I know all of this is probably falling on deaf ears. Oh well.

 

[LeeEJ]

My inbox.

Cripes. I have five. Total. Including the one reply I've sent.

Yours doesn't surprise me, though. It's just depressing to see that the internet will probably never change for the better.

Early on after I got a hold of the internet at home (and didn't have to worry about what sites I browsed, unlike the computer labs in college), I found an adult chat website (adultchatnetwork.com -- anyone remember?). I got on there, cybered pretty easily, exchanged a couple stories with someone I assumed was a woman, and started making a few chat friends.

Eventually, after seeing some of the other women admonish guys for sending them uninvited PMs, I decided to have a look myself. I'd log in with a blatantly slutty nickname ("WetTits4U" always worked ), say "hi" in the main room, and bing-bing-bing-bing... a dozen PMs would show up.

What the fuck?!? I used to want to get random PMs, but holy shit, I was glad that I didn't have to suffer like the women did. I also wondered why these guys had no clue -- were they really that stupid? Did they care that little about whomever they were addressing? Are women simply holes for their cocks?

Remember that Saturday Night Live skit where Eddie Murphy disguised himself as a white guy to see what "the other side" was like? It was like that, only not funny at all. Guys, you have no idea what women have to put up with. Remember those annoying kids at school or out on the town that you wished would go away? That's maybe ten percent as bad as getting hundreds of uninvited PMs, emails, instant messages, and God knows what else.

And all you women... please, please don't lose faith in the rest of us. The good guys (the ones that know that you're a whole person) are probably not going to invade your space. Don't hope that they'll notice you, because they probably know that you're getting swamped already -- you have to break the ice and let them know that they're appreciated.

 

[DC_DEEP]

What the fuck?!? I used to want to get random PMs, but holy shit, I was glad that I didn't have to suffer like the women did. I also wondered why these guys had no clue -- were they really that stupid? Did they care that little about whomever they were addressing? Are women simply holes for their cocks?.

You are HOW old and just figuring that out? That is your typical male - gay or straight... the person does not matter, good looks help but aren't necessary... as long as there's a warm moist hole to squirt in (for the straight guys and top gay guys) or a big hard cock to do the squirting (for the bottom gay guys) everything else is either negotiable or just not even a consideration.

 

[Pecker]

My best PM came from a former member from Nigeria who needed my help in a financial matter. It only required that I allow the temporary use of my checking account.

I'm sure that my portion of her inheritance will arrive anytime now.

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

hey dongalong...

t'ain't just limited to the women my man!!:redface:

yes... I get pms all the time... I just thought I'd sound like some kind of pretentious ass totally stuck on myself if I started complaining about it in stead of just taking them all as compliments...

 

[Hatched69]

Sounds like there are contestants for this year's Darwin Awards and fodder for WebJunk 20. (MTV) IMHO...

 

[sares]

I decided to have a look myself. I'd log in with a blatantly slutty nickname ("WetTits4U" always worked ), say "hi" in the main room, and bing-bing-bing-bing... a dozen PMs would show up.

okay, but let's be fair here. "WetTits4U" is not just a name, it is an invitation.

Heather LouAnna has a right to post sexy photos of her various regions and have a beautiful bum as her avatar. but that comes with it a certain kind of attention.

let's not vilify guys for trying to get a piece of what's on offer. I haven't posted any sexually revealing photos of myself and the most explicit PMs I have gotten were, "do you want to chat" kind of messages.

does Heather's gallery mean she should feel obligated to respond to requests she receives? NO. but it shouldn't be a surprise that they come.

 

[LeeEJ]

You are HOW old and just figuring that out?

lol... Nah, not just now, this was probably seven or eight years ago. That still means that I was in my late twenties at the time, so I was getting a pretty late start. But, my friends and I never talked about women like that, nor did we treat them that way.

okay, but let's be fair here. "WetTits4U" is not just a name, it is an invitation.

And a guaranteed one at that. The thing is, it also worked when I would choose a plain ol' female name -- I think "Heather" was one of them.

We did it just to be mean sometimes, too. One girl and I would swap genders -- I'd pretend to be asking for men, and no matter what all the other guys said or how much trash they talked about each other, I would hook up with her nickname.

Fair's fair, I say. If they don't assume that women have feelings, then they must not have any, either. Or, if all they're thinking with is their dicks, then I guess the dicks won't care anyway.

 

[bluekarma]

I second this. What do you expect? I just delete/ignore what I don't like.....yes, it's a pain...but some people just don't get it.

okay, but let's be fair here. "WetTits4U" is not just a name, it is an invitation.

Heather LouAnna has a right to post sexy photos of her various regions and have a beautiful bum as her avatar. but that comes with it a certain kind of attention.

let's not vilify guys for trying to get a piece of what's on offer. I haven't posted any sexually revealing photos of myself and the most explicit PMs I have gotten were, "do you want to chat" kind of messages.

does Heather's gallery mean she should feel obligated to respond to requests she receives? NO. but it shouldn't be a surprise that they come.

 

[Heather LouAnna]

I can explain all this, but it sounds evil when I do. Oh, well.

I'm on AFF specifically for attention. I think it's funny the things that guys say to me in order to grab my attention. It does become annoying after awhile (not because I'm like *hair flip* "omg..why wont these boys stop??") because I hear the same shit. I want new originality in men throwing themselves in my direction.

I go downtown with five other female friends all dressed up because I like the attention. I think it's funny what men will say in order to try to gain five minutes of my time. Since they have nothing to go on, they go on my looks to begin the discussion. This is also related to an argument where the person has nothing left to insult, so they'll start calling their opponent ugly. It's a very shallow opening to begin a conversation based on some one's looks.

It's a little experiment in men, dating, and psychology. It's not just that though. I will respond to messages that gain my interest. I will not respond to the redundant ones.

 

[sares]

I say that's not evil, Heather, it's f'n refreshingly honest.

I do notice you diss people on their unoriginality, NOT the fact that they approached you at all. it's the latter that bugs me personally (hairflip omg, exactly), not the former. :tongue:

 

[dongalong]

It's a little experiment in men, dating, and psychology. It's not just that though. I will respond to messages that gain my interest. I will not respond to the redundant ones.

I have joined AFF, but not fully, just to look around and as usual in such sites there are 3 or more times more males than females (hetero section). It is not surprising that you get so much interest.

French girls don't go out as much as British or American girls but French guys do so there is a similar problem, guys become desperate and annoy the girls which makes the girls go out even less, it's a viscious circle.

It seems that you you enjoy having such a vast choice of admirers, the only problem for you on these sites is that the majority of men are all desperate which I understand isn't much of a turn on, right?

What's in the messages that do gain your attention?

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

I have joined AFF, but not fully, just to look around and as usual in such sites there are 3 or more times more males than females (hetero section). It is not surprising that you get so much interest.

I haven't been lately because I decided it was mostly a waste of time... but 5 or 6 years ago when I was at AFF it seemed like the ratio of men to women was more like 10:1... and of the women there... most of them seemed to be either
a) fake people trying to hawk some other stupid dating and/or porn site
b) guys pretending to be hot lesbians to get naked pictures of other hot lesbians (who ironically were probably also really guys)
c) girls in couples who were looking for MFF threesomes to make their boyfriends happy
d) all talk and completely full of shit- the superfluous attention whores
e) really desperate

I met a couple genuine people at that site, mostly in the chat areas, but they were few and far between. Plus the way the site was run and marketed just got on my nerves after a while, and the chat room code isn't very good.

 

[sares]

What's in the messages that do gain your attention?

oh look! the reason for the thread revealed!

(psst, I hope you don't tell, H-LA)

I am getting a disturbing feeling in here that guys are willing to sell out their brothers to suck up to women. yeah, some dudes are assholes and ruin it for nicer guys. but it really is a two way street, and Heather has even said she signed up for it.

 

[Heather LouAnna]

I have joined AFF, but not fully

lol Nor have I. I'm not a paying customer. I'm just there to add any and every friend request I get, and read my inbox. I don't respond to many of the messages (maybe 5 in the last six months that I've been there.)

What's in the messages that do gain your attention?

My online formula: I listen to what they have to say: punctuation, topic, content, sentence structure. A man that can talk to me in text is really the creme of the crop. After that, it's whether they seem ambitious, fun, outgoing.....whether they can make me laugh and whether we have anything in common (can they be introduced to my family and friends) then I go on looks.


lol but if they're ugly, I'll just continue to talk to them online..and I'll never meet them in person. YES....i'm that shallow.

 

[naughty]

Heather,

You are a very attractive young woman. To paraphrase a quote from "Field of Dreams", " If you post them ( your pictures) they wiill cum" . I receive messages in my pm box on a regular basis as well. I simply let them know if what they have said is offensive and call it a day. Most of the time ,what I receive are respectful and refering to my posts. I dont post pictures of my body and rarely have even shown my face other than to those to whom I talk regularly. That is one way of cutting down on unwanted attention, just a thought from an old timer....

 

[D_Fulbert Ashplant Babbage]

From one who has been in and around LPSG for years: well spake, Naughty. My thoughts exactly.
It's just a shame that some of us can't see the forest for the trees

P

 

[dongalong]

oh look! the reason for the thread revealed!

(psst, I hope you don't tell, H-LA)

Well I'm here to learn too! :redface:
Any pick-up tips that I can get are very useful. Thanks H-LA:087: