No one would have sex with me!

[minimag]

Nobody on CL wants a chub. They either say "no chubs" or HWP (height/weight proportional).

 

[D_Glansthorpe Schmuck]

First of chill out about it, I didn't have sex for the first time until I was 22 and it was pretty shit because I treated it as a big deal.

It's not a race, it's not just about fucking somebody. If you're having sex to have sex you probably won't enjoy it very much.

This is very true, I did it to do it, not because I really wanted to, and it sucked.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

it's very obvious
but the guy will probably completely ignore it.
it's actually easier to keep the attitude and blame your looks.

What im more amazed by is how the other dudes here didn't even notice that and kept trying to tell him that it just can't seem right that no one will have sex with him.

He could have a perfect body and be really latchy and everyone runs away. Kind of like Nick Lache with Jessica Simpson....

I'm not even going to bother helping this one. I dont think it's possible to turn a really whiney, latchy, helpless victim type guy into one that attracts the ladies/guys. That is, unless he can pay their bills or do really good yard landscaping or something else useful.

 

[Pendlum]

Wow, 20? What a rich full life you've lead, it's amazing that you haven't had sex! Oh wait, no it isn't. Your whiny attitude doesn't help you though. Desperation is a huuuuge turn off for people. So is being clingy. Why don't you try focusing on something else? I'm not going to tell you that the sex will then just come, because it wont. But at least you wont be blubbering over it, which will instantly make you more attractive.

Hell, take dance classes, like salsa or something. Learning to dance will give you a few things. Firstly, it will help give you confidence, which is really important. It takes confidence to dance, so when you become better at it, you'll become more confident about it. Secondly, being able to dance is an attractive quality for most people, so that is another thing in your favor. Thirdly, it will keep you active, which will help with your weight if you don't slack. And finally, maybe you'll meet someone in the class.

So to recap, you get confidence, dancing skills, exercise, and social experience. You really don't lose. Go take dancing and forget about sex.

 

[earllogjam]

Sounds like you're really sexually frustrated.

An easy and quick way to get laid as a man in your situation is to go to a reputable sex worker and let them know that you're a virgin.

 

[Gecko4lif]

What im more amazed by is how the other dudes here didn't even notice that

Read what I wrote

edit: Scratch that I implied too much.

I vote go to a brothel.

 

[wellhung9]

I'm not exactly sure how you're going about this, but ask someone you know or like on a date. Take them on a few dates, develop a relationship and when the time is right you will have sex. I really doubt that no one will have sex with you just because you are overweight and your dick is 5 by 5, from what I understand you're a little under average in length and a above average in girth. But getting someone into bed doesn't involve the size of ur dick, unless ur dealing with a size queen. Don't give up, and stop trying to find someone online.

 

[lilkeezy88]

im 21 and still a virgin but sex is the last thing on my mind if i get horny i can just watch porn i got to much to worry about other then sex i got a girlfriend who i be seeing this summer but im not worried about sex

 

[dolfette]

I vote go to a brothel.

i'm inclined to agree.

 

[wellhung9]

I don't agree with the go to a brothel idea. I"m not gonna get sappy and ur first time should be with someone special bc u don't look like you care about that, but you dont want to pay for sex ur first time. It will be much more rewarding if you get a girl in bed because she wants to have sex with you, not because you paid her.

 

[lopo2000]

Just try to look at it as not the right time for you yet. I'm 24 and I'm still a virgin, and lately I really feel happy for being a virgin because it's something valuable that people usually take for granted. I agree with one of the posters above that finding the right person to have sex/make love with is a journey, you'll have to go here and there to find the person but you know what, believe me, you'll find him/her. Just have faith buddy.

 

[SpeedoMike]

IIm Bi and no guy would want to have sex with me and no girl would have sex with me either..

you are assuming that others find you unattractive or undesirable. why make that decision for them when they will make it for themselves. you might find someone who finds you tempting and delicious. I did!

Skip the bars if you aren't comfortable with the setting. it helps to put yourself in places where you can meet people in a non-sexually-charged setting. get to know people there and develop friendships when possible. pay attention to others; don't talk about yourself all the time. let the other person ask about you.

best place I found was a gay community center which had a great mens support group.

 

[Dooky]

You really can't find a man to have sex with you?

I call bullshit.

A woman, sure I could believe that, but I cannot believe that there is not a single gay man willing to fuck you.

I agree. You really haven't tried at all with men. it is so easy for gay men to get laid.


In other advice though, be an asshole and be full of yourself women love that shit. don't brag, but make sure she knows you're the shit.

 

[dolfette]

 

[Enid]

In other advice though, be an asshole and be full of yourself some women love that shit. don't brag, but make sure she knows you're the shit.

Fixed that for ya.

And incidentally the women who find assholes hot are usually a bit off.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Ugly and/or Fat people get laid all the time. Just look around. They probably get more dick and pussy than the rest of us, they are always popping out babies. But the moral of the story is: needy guys don't get laid...not by women anyway.

 

[whatadork]

Eh, I don't see what your worry is. I didn't lose my virginity until I was like 28. It's not like I COULDN'T get laid though, it's just I never really tried. Partially from fear of rejection, partially from "it's not worth the effort". I will have to say the downside of waiting so long is it makes the first time so goddamn nerve wracking where as I think if I had lost it earlier it would've been ok. The first time I had sex I had to worry about keeping and getting an erection not blowing my load in 10 seconds. (The second girl I had sex with I had my "aw shit I came wayyyyy to quick" with).

That said, aside from the whole "stigma" I don't really see what the big deal is about losing your virginity. Yes, sex is really fun, and it feels good, but honestly masturbating is like maybe 40% as good. That's the thing I don't really get. I never felt like I HAD TO have sex. I mean I've definitely felt like I HAD TO have an orgasm, but never HAD TO have sex. And it's not a sex drive thing. When it's available to me, I have a fair amount of sex and I masturbate frequently when I'm not getting laid.

I don't really see what your rush is. Just jerk off more. And if you REALLY feel the need to have sex for the sake of having sex, I'll have to say go for the sex worker route too. I've never gone, but I can totally see it being more comfortable knowing that they're really not going to judge you and they're professionals so they'll help you along. But that said, if you can wait, just wait until the opportunity comes.

I'm not going to say "just wait and you'll find the right person" since it's overly optimistic and probably not fully true. But what I will say is "wait, work on improving yourself (lose weight, get healthy, gain skills), and being more social (go out, do social activities, play some social sports, take up social hobbies, join social groups) and you'll probably get laid left and right when you become comfortable socially and your work on your body enough that you feel confident in it (and you're healthy).

Good luck.

 

[v32bone]

The easiest way to get laid is using the following mantra as part of your mental training, "It's not about the fucking, it's about EVERYTHING else!" If you work on all the the above comments from people...your confidence, your presentation, your social skills, your location, your expectations, your ability to converse and read other people's body language and really, REALLY listen to what they say when they speak to you then the sex will fall into place because the people who dig you will too. The best advice I ever got form a friend who was VERY successful with women was "It's all about numbers. If you only ask out ten women in your life, you have fewer chances if you ask out 300. Don't be afraid to fail Consider every woman you meet, whether you have any desire to sleep with them or not, as a chance to practice being kind, thoughtful, sexy, smart, conversant, appealing, gracious, compassionate...the more practice, the better you get. Make YOURSELF irresistible by being the best person you can be and walk into a room like you ARE the best person you can be." For instance, I was very lucky to have dated 9 amazing women in January, I'm 53...and not a 6 pack-ab type or huge cock or whatever. Did I have sex with them all NO. But I did have a couple of threesomes, a foursome (the same people in a few of these if you are doubting my math skills...hahaha) and yes, LOTS of fun. Not bragging, just letting you know what is possible. I got no game. I just try to be myself. And open, and honest most importantly. Relax and have fun.

 

[v32bone]

To clarify, the quote above should have read.."If you only ask out ten women in your life, you have fewer chances at scoring than if you ask out 300." Makes since but so many of us get discouraged. Great salesman and great cocksmen get turned down too. Difference is, they get up ad move on. Next...

 

[priboianucristian]

im 17 and im still a virgin is that good? or i have to try something fast