No orgasm during sex for me

[B_johnschlong]

You see, unlike you, i actually have favor here. People take what i say and they don't write me off as a troll like you. I actually have some people who agree with me on most issues i choose to talk about.

Well, frankly, I don't have the ambition to be liked by the people of a forum about big cocks. I have other ambitions. :wink:

But good for you. Big cock gazing people love you.

[...] mankind to agree with you.

Sorry honey, but, thank god, big cock gazing people on the internet don't represent mankind.

They represent, errr, big cock gazing people on the internet.

Sadly, you think you are the one who is always right. MMmmmk, we'll just keep letting you fall hard on your face each time you try.

Lol, do you honestly think I care about what a bunch of big cock gazing bizarros thinks of me?

I'm here for the good porn, for Christ's sake!

And to have a laugh with people like you.


So just accept that not everyone's like you, you who spend hours a day on a forum about big male genitalia, discussing oh so very serious subjects (on a forum for big cocks, I repeat). It remains a psychological mystery why this is so. But don't assume that everyone suffers from the same condition.

 

[B_johnschlong]

I assume that she started this thread in order to share information and experience on a matter which is relevant to a significant number of women. And people are replying and engaging to agree, contest, or ask questions, all in the effort to learn and provide more information for anyone who would seek it here.

This site is based on sex. Why would you be here if not to discuss sex? And if we are going to discuss it, why should we not be serious about it?

That I understand.

But I was on a more (ahem) "philosophical" level: why would strangers reveal so much about their most intimate selves in a most extimate space?

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Thanks for bumping my thread though. Just makes more people read it and relate to it and talk to me about it. You are a jem!

I love my addiction to the big penis hardon cock dick huge stick hairy balls board. I get to chat with a lot of great people, not those of your ilk, on a regular basis about sex and non sexual related subjects.

So, why are you over here in the Women's Issues? Shouldn't you be over where the big dicks hang out?

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

That I understand.

But I was on a more (ahem) "philosophical" level: why would strangers reveal so much about their most intimate selves in a most extimate space?

If this is a site about sex, why can't people talk about sex? Especially about a female's perspective about sex in a place about sex in a forum for females to talk about sex. Stop mincing everything i say and try to add philosophy. You are trying to turn my thead into something else. So monitor the ridiculous thread you start this morning. It needs some serious attention because it sucks like all the other ones you create.

 

[alwaysguessing]

That I understand.

But I was on a more (ahem) "philosophical" level: why would strangers reveal so much about their most intimate selves in a most extimate space?

Why not?

Personally, I would prefer to discuss personal issues anonymously, with a bunch of anonymous strangers. I might find it embarrassing to discuss certain sexual issues with my friends and family.

What does "extimate" mean?

 

[ManlyBanisters]

What does "extimate" mean?

A quick google gave me this:

"According to Dana Arnold and Margaret Iversen in the book Art and Thought (2003)‏, "the extimate is not the opposite of intimate. It is the Lacanian terms [in psychology] generated to explain those psychic phenomena that defy the inside/outside, self/other boundary and are thus both exterior and intimate at the same time." - WikiAnswers - What does extimate mean

Actually that sounds like a suitable word for this place, in some ways. Well not really but "both exterior and intimate at the same time" is nice, isn't it?

Though I think js was trying to use it as the opposite of intimate.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

Ahhhh yes, we could rename the board Extimate la Feminine or something else pretty like that. I think it's a tad interesting that his wording was meant to the be the opposite, yet it was more accurate to what our board is really being used for.

 

[cherychoper]

As always, thanks to M.R. for an insightful thread. I will not, actually can not, chime in for lack of pertinent information.

But that said, the reading just shows how different we all are, and what a huge mistake it is to expect the same reaction from each different partner. I would say Mme. Rouge has opened up a discussion that teaches us all to pay attention to the needs and desires of our partners. Not doing so will leave one, or both, wanting.

 

[deleted356736]

He's been banned. Was he showing off that he can read French? Mon Dieu!

I recently posted in the thread 'female orgams' that there is some confusion about sex equally intercourse, or being the entire thing (which is what I take it to be). Some women don't orgasm at all during intercourse, many rarely, some semi-regularly, very few all the time. Which is why my script is that my partner comes first, and then we take it from there. I also know that, orgasm or no, that women find penetration and intercourse very pleasurable. As we men do too, of course. Skin against skin, touch, taste, scent, kissing, gazing into one-another's eyes, having your lover being part of you. It is very special. Is that not so?

 

[Embrace69]

He's been banned. Was he showing off that he can read French? Mon Dieu!

I recently posted in the thread 'female orgams' that there is some confusion about sex equally intercourse, or being the entire thing (which is what I take it to be). Some women don't orgasm at all during intercourse, many rarely, some semi-regularly, very few all the time. Which is why my script is that my partner comes first, and then we take it from there. I also know that, orgasm or no, that women find penetration and intercourse very pleasurable. As we men do too, of course. Skin against skin, touch, taste, scent, kissing, gazing into one-another's eyes, having your lover being part of you. It is very special. Is that not so?

It's irreplaceable to me. There are really no words to describe how important that is to me. If I orgasm every time or only occasionally, if I don't have that, I have nothing. The passion has to be there or I'm not going to have sex with you let alone a decent relationship. That's just how I view it.

 

[dolfette]

It's irreplaceable to me. There are really no words to describe how important that is to me. If I orgasm every time or only occasionally, if I don't have that, I have nothing. The passion has to be there or I'm not going to have sex with you let alone a decent relationship. That's just how I view it.

we're all different. uh huh.

guys who need their partner to O in order to feel satisfied need to date women like you.
women like me need to date guys who understand that orgasm doesn't have to happen for sex to be good.

it's sad that so often, instead of just accepting that people have different needs, people assume a partner to be somehow faulty for not fulfilling them.

 

[Embrace69]

That we are Dollfette.

I'm not saying that I HAVE to orgasm every time I have sex, usually it just happens that way anyway. If I don't orgasm occasionally that's ok for me as the sex is just as good as long as the passion and connection for it is there. If it's not then the sex isn't worth anything to me at all and I'm just not one to just fuck some guy just because he's got a cock waiting to be ridden. I mean I do have my moments where all I want is a good fuck (usually when I'm single)...but usually they are incredibly rare moments and I never act on those moments. (that's what toys are for) I have to really connect with the man I'm with on an intellectual, emotional level before I can even consider giving myself to him.

 

[bobs41]

Dear MR, Thank you for the very informative post. My wife is very similar to you. She can orgasm outside of intercourse in a variety of ways, and I am able to bring her off when we're not having sex, but during sex she finds achieving an orgasm usually more distracting than fulfilling. She doesn't like her clitoris rubbed during sex, since she can't cum easily when I am in her. We have had open discussions about this, but I have never really understood how she can be satisfied without having an orgasm during sex. She also has a history of UTI's after sex many years ago. Interesting. I'm still not sure I completely understand her feelings, but this post brought me a step closer.

 

[petite]

I also know that, orgasm or no, that women find penetration and intercourse very pleasurable. As we men do too, of course. Skin against skin, touch, taste, scent, kissing, gazing into one-another's eyes, having your lover being part of you. It is very special. Is that not so?

This is so true! I prefer to orgasm, but I prefer a quickie over no sex at all because of all theses reasons.

we're all different. uh huh.

guys who need their partner to O in order to feel satisfied need to date women like you.
women like me need to date guys who understand that orgasm doesn't have to happen for sex to be good.

it's sad that so often, instead of just accepting that people have different needs, people assume a partner to be somehow faulty for not fulfilling them.

This is so true.